Does this pain ever go away? He's all I think about and valentines day will kill me:(

[Amy77]

He left me for another girl and the thought of them together makes me wanna get sick. I'm obsessed with him and feel I will never be able stop thinking of him. The minute I wake up he's on my mind first thing every morning. We dated for 7 months but I truly loved him. I've told him to never talk to me again but I don't mean it I want to talk to him so bad and only him I'm obsessed with his new girl too and keep comparing her to me and lookin at her Instagram and Twitter etc it's becoming a habit I've never been like this before how can I move on please help me I need to talk to someone :(( also the fact he's gonna be with her for Valentines destroys me how will I cope on that day?

[d0nnivain]

At this point you are your own worst enemy. Delete all social media contact with them both. Put a rubber band around your wrist. When you think about them, snap the band hard against your skin

 

For V-day plan something . . .anything with your best single friends. I would go to a non-romantic restaurant & a movie with my friends. One year we put pictures of our EXs on a dart board, drank wine, blasted anti-love songs & obliterated their pictures. It was very cathartic.

[KBarletta]

I'm obsessed with his new girl too and keep comparing her to me and lookin at her Instagram and Twitter etc it's becoming a habit I've never been like this before how can I move on please help me I need to talk to someone :(( also the fact he's gonna be with her for Valentines destroys me how will I cope on that day?

 

You need to quit this cold turkey. Delete and block them both and stop looking at their stuff. It will do you absolutely NO good and only prolong your agony. For your own sanity, block, delete, hide, whatever you need to do so you can't see them and they can't see you, do it asap.

 

As for V-Day, it is going to be a tough one for most of us on here, I'd say. But I'm going to try to think of it as any other day, go out with friends, have fun and not think about her (TRY, anyway). Stay busy and do your best to focus on yourself, not him, not them.

[Invictus01]

On the Valentine's Day, I plan on spending a crap load of time at the gym, then getting together with a few dudes and drink a lot of beer at Twin Peaks and look at the girls'.. um... you know... eyes Just to entertain myself and get my mind off things...

[pteromom]

also the fact he's gonna be with her for Valentines destroys me how will I cope on that day?

 

By reminding yourself that he will likely do the same thing to her, and next year, it will be her hurting on Valentine's Day.

 

You are playing the wrong tapes in your head. Instead of thinking of how much you loved him, you need to be thinking about what he did to you, and how disgusting he is for doing it.

 

And for goodness sake, TURN OFF social media. Just block them. Turn it off.

[Brokenpenguin]

Hey my story is similar to yours, the truth is its gonna hurt for a while but things will get better. It's really on you how fast this happens though, I would defiantly go/ stay no contact and as others have said block them on all forms of social media, it really does help.

 

Focus on yourself, keep busy and in time all will be forgotten.

Edited February 5, 2015 by Brokenpenguin

[Amy77]

Thanks for the replies guys thought id be ignored haha , he's literally all I can think about I hate him for what he's done to me but love him more than anyone. The thought of even texting another guy makes me sick like I can't do it I only want him when will that go away? I also forgot to mention how he had sex with me then told me he couldn't see me anymore 5 minutes later, but not even this makes me want to forget about him also valentines day guys how are ye planning on getting through that horrible day?

[Tuutuu22]

I know how you are feeling. It sucks! Don't let any one tell you it doesn't because it does and you have a right to hurt. But STOP STOP comparing yourself. Him leaving you for another girl most likely has to do with his low level of self esteem. He will do it to her soon enough. Sounds to me like he is toxic and you dodged a bullet. So don't be sad on valentines day, celebrate you got away from that ass hole.

[d0nnivain]

After you disconnect from all social media you need to make a list of all the reasons you are better off apart. Then read it over & over & over until you realize you dodged a bullet.