sibernox Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 I'll try to make this short. I met a girl a couple of weeks ago at a bar downtown. We hit it off, talked for a bit, and as I was leaving I told her to give me her number. She declined cause she had a boyfriend. I didn't wana leave empty handed so I asked for her Facebook (girls usually find it less menacing for some reason) and we went our separate ways. Fast forward to this past weekend and I run into her again at the bar. We talk and she mentions her and her boyfriend are no longer together. I tell her she'll definitely be hearing from me soon, but in my drunken state I forget to ask for her number, so I message her on Facebook. I message her this week and we exchange a couple of messages back and forth, and then I send "don't remember if I asked you, whereabouts do you live again?". And that was the last I heard from her. She has been active on Facebook but no answer. Should I just next her or perhaps I was thinking of answering with this "company cut off your internet service huh? hate it when that happens haha just reread the where do you live message I sent. no wonder you didn't answer. "yeah I'll tell a stranger I met twice where I live", lol I wasn't trying to be creepy we have neighbours called the Klines was wondering if there was a link. anyways goodluck with everything, take care". or is that lame as F? thanks guys, any help would be appreciated.
d0nnivain Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 I think you understand the "problem". She didn't want to tell a stranger where she lives. Don't send the crack about the internet being cut off. I'd wait to message her again until you see her again. Hopefully you will be sober & can have a real chat. She is just out of a relationship. She may not be emotionally ready for something new.
PegNosePete Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Yes it is lame as F. What makes you think you did something wrong? Maybe she just didn't fancy you. Next.
Standard-Fare Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Absolutely definitely do NOT send that. I don't think your original "whereabouts do you live?" question was that creepy. It's not like you were asking for her address. If she was interested in seeing you again, she would have responded. There's a small chance she will do that eventually, at her own pace. Or you'll catch her again in the bar and she'll be friendly again. But if you send that other message, you will most assuredly never hear from her again.
lovexocoach Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Lame. Do not send that message. You will ruin any chance of dating her if you send a message like that. Sounds like she doesn't want to give out her information - at least at this point. That's normal. She doesn't know you and to her you're a stranger. Get to know her better and date her.
Author sibernox Posted February 5, 2015 Author Posted February 5, 2015 I think you understand the "problem". She didn't want to tell a stranger where she lives. Don't send the crack about the internet being cut off. I'd wait to message her again until you see her again. Hopefully you will be sober & can have a real chat. I just don't know when I'll see her again if we don't set something up. Guess I'll just forget about her... Yes it is lame as F. What makes you think you did something wrong? Maybe she just didn't fancy you. Next. Asking where she lives? I don't know, maybe she found it creepy? She's only 20 so perhaps it scared her off or something. Absolutely definitely do NOT send that. I don't think your original "whereabouts do you live?" question was that creepy. It's not like you were asking for her address. If she was interested in seeing you again, she would have responded. There's a small chance she will do that eventually, at her own pace. Or you'll catch her again in the bar and she'll be friendly again. But if you send that other message, you will most assuredly never hear from her again. It's weird though, 'cause in our previous messages she said she's looking forward to meet again. I'm curious as to what makes you say that if I send that message I'll never hear from her again?
Standard-Fare Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 It's weird though, 'cause in our previous messages she said she's looking forward to meet again. I'm curious as to what makes you say that if I send that message I'll never hear from her again? You asked if the message was lame. The answer is yes. It comes off as desperate, nervous and actually a little creepy. If she's on the fence with you, it will push her off the fence. It's dumb that she showed interest then faded but you can't overanalyze. You have no way of knowing the reasons for that. You'll hear from her if she wants to see you. You've done all you can do.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Oh good heavens, do not send that message. Lame isn't the right word. Passive-agressive and a bit desperate come to mind. Maybe she's decided to hook back up with boyfriend and doesn't want to lead you on.
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