She keeps making eye contact on the train! Does she like me?

[JonT]

Over the past few months there has been a girl who gets on my train who I've clocked looking at me for varying lengths of time. I thought to myself what does this mean, she seems really nice and I'd like the opportunity of talking to her. A few weeks ago I did just that and we introduced one other to each other. The following day she noticed me on the train and gave me a positive smile. She's tended to be in the same carriage too. A week or so later I was walking off the train with her and mentioned that it's a bit awkward having a conversation in such a short space of time and invited her for a coffee. She said yes and I asked her what would be the best way to continue (I didn't exactly want to come over as a creep by asking for her number) Her response was that we'll see each other on the train and take it from there.

 

Since then I've noticed she goes in a different carriage but I have spoken to her since. As I walk by her office en route anyway there was one occasion when saw looked back to see if I was there. This happened this morning but this time she waved and smiled at me. I'm confused! I really like her! Any help would be appreciated. Thanks

[Frank2thepoint]

I've clocked looking at me for varying lengths of time

 

Did you actually use a stopwatch?

 

She said yes and I asked her what would be the best way to continue (I didn't exactly want to come over as a creep by asking for her number)

 

This is where you stumbled. She said yes to the coffee, but then displayed lack of confidence by asking her how to continue. You're only solution right now is to just get her number and secure a date. Stop pussyfooting.

[JonT]

Many thanks for the advice. I'll just pluck up the courage and ask her. I wonder if she might have half expected me to ask in the first place.

[Frank2thepoint]

Yes, she did expect you to follow through when you successfully asked her for a coffee. Don't short change yourself by saying you need to "pluck up the courage". You already chatted with her, so you over came the hard part.

[d0nnivain]

Is there a coffee spot near the train station? Next time you see her say right then & there, would you like to grab a coffee with me at _______ (point to the building) now?

[JonT]

Thanks. I hope I haven't blown it!

[Satu]

Thanks. I hope I haven't blown it!

 

I don't think have

[JonT]

Excellent. Thanks for the words of wisdom!

[GemmaUK]

Just go for it!

 

 

Also, do a bit of chasing.

Don't wait and see she has got into a different carriage.

Go and find her when she does!

 

 

Good luck!

[Davey L]

You've done the hard bit by making the move to ask her for coffee. How about escalating it to lunch? And that gives you a reason to give her your number too, then see if she reciprocates.

[alphamale]

she's playing hard to get. next time you see her make a date and get her number

[JonT]

Thanks for the help. I asked again and it turns out she's seeing someone tomorrow. What did I do wrong?I must have misread then signals.

[d0nnivain]

Thanks for the help. I asked again and it turns out she's seeing someone tomorrow. What did I do wrong?I must have misread then signals.

 

You didn't misread the signals but you did delay pressing this issue. As they say, "he who hesitates is lost."