drewdude Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 (edited) Hello LS Met a girl off OKC about a couple months ago. Had a great first date. Heck, every time we go out we have fun. Though the first 2 dates were spread out. Lately we've been going out at least 1-2 twice a week. There is definitely chemistry as we have a lot in common. I even brought her over to a friends house for a gathering once. Thing is, there hasn't been no kiss at the end of these dates, just hugs. It's hard for me to make the move cause I am shy(Im used to girls making the first move). Recently, I started to up my flirt game with her. I noticed shes been texting me lots lately, has now been telling me to text her when I get home(she didn't do this before), been kinda touching/playfully slapping me on the arm when we are out, still wants/plans to go out with me and even sending me pics of herself without me asking. Am I already friendzoned? I am so lost. What should be my next plan of attack? Edited February 5, 2015 by drewdude
CatalystNX Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 You're going to have to take some initiative here, it seems. Can't always wait for her to make the first move. Some girls don't feel comfortable with that, others just expect you to do it. Doesn't sound like you're in the friendzone yet, but she might just assume that's all you're interested in if you haven't tried to kiss her yet. Gotta get over the shyness. I know, I'm shy myself, but sometimes you just have to go for it.
Toodaloo Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Make your move! Do it before she used the phrase "You have become such a good friend"... 1
PegNosePete Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 It's hard for me to make the move cause I am shy(Im used to girls making the first move). Here's your problem dude. You gotta just go for it. Life is short. Don't just go for the tonsils. Start small and work up. 1
d0nnivain Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 My husband didn't kiss me until our 3rd date. Candidly, if it didn't happen that night, I was fully prepared to dump him because I couldn't figure out what was wrong. This is going to sound dumb but watch the scene in the movie Hitch where Will Smith is teaching Kevin James how to go for the kiss. Pay attention to your lady's body language especially at the end of the night. Walk her to her door. Look deeply into her eyes. Look at her lips & make sure she knows you are looking at her lips. See if she's watching yours. If she licks her lips, lean it a bit. She should mirror your actions. If she does, kiss her.
Jessie1231 Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 It definitely sounds like she's interested. She may be shy about kissing too, so you may just have to go for it. Good luck. Don't be scared because it sounds like she wouldn't turn down a kiss.
Author drewdude Posted February 5, 2015 Author Posted February 5, 2015 Thanks all. Being a shy guy, I need signs as big as lighthouses to go in for a kiss. But I'm going to go with what you all and friends said. To make the move. Even if it's a peck on the cheek. Guess it's time for me to face the music. Going to do this on the next date.
mightycpa Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Thanks all. Being a shy guy, I need signs as big as lighthouses to go in for a kiss. But I'm going to go with what you all and friends said. To make the move. Even if it's a peck on the cheek. Guess it's time for me to face the music. Going to do this on the next date. Maybe this will help you. Girls like to kiss. If she's into you, then it won't be a problem. If she's not, then you might as well find out now. Therefore: Don't wuss out with a kiss on the cheek. Express your intentions, gently but clearly.
Mif Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 My ex partner didn't kiss me for 6 months! We both became very frustrated and eventually I kissed him. But during that time we both wondered whether the other was interested or not. Just kiss her! Our if it's easier for you, ask her if it would be ok if you kissed her. Good luck.
Eaglestar83 Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 Kiss her and get some before she friendzone you. If she friendzone you, tell her to f.u.c.k off and that you're too cool to befriend someone like her. Don't ever put anybody on a pedestal. Angels live up in the heavens, only people, and trolls, live on earth
organizedchaos Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 Thanks all. Being a shy guy, I need signs as big as lighthouses to go in for a kiss. But I'm going to go with what you all and friends said. To make the move. Even if it's a peck on the cheek. Guess it's time for me to face the music. Going to do this on the next date. Do it, what have you got to lose? Do not just kiss her on the cheek. Go for a real kiss. You're not friendzoned yet, but you are on your way.
preraph Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 I always think the way to a first kiss is cuddling either in the car or at the movie or on the couch. Because if you get comfy cuddling, kissing becomes just mandatory. It is a little more daunting wondering about what to do standing up in front of somebody's building as you're dropping them off, and for both people. If that's the only available scenario, I think going in for a "kiss and run" might be preferable. Then if she still wants to go out, linger the next time.
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