Ace23 Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 So here we go. 8 mos ago I met this girl. She was great we hit it off very well our kids got a long great everything was great. Well about four mos into my land lady kicked everyone out of the house. I had no where to go and no funds to get there. She offered and the way everything was going insaid sure even though she knew i wasn't financially ready. We were doing great would have our tiffs here and there but always make up. Well we finally had a huge argument and I told her I had to go house sit for four days and I needed time. Well on the second day she asked to stop by. I said sure and she wanted to talk. She said sorry and apologized but this is why she had been so moody she was pregnant. We said we would start working on the issues because we loved each other and was happy with the Pregnancy. Well a month ago while I was gone she texted me and said Im sorry but I am resenting because of money, and issues aren't getting solved and I wasn't ready for someone to move in. And that she didn't know what the future will hold and wanted to break up for right now. I was mad said some really Mean things. I also kept pushing and pushing to take me back and for answers. To the point where she wanted nothing to do with me. Well the other day she texted said she wanted to start as just friends. But then I got a new job with a significant pay increase and she started talking more when I asked if she wanted to work it out she got real mad and we went backwards. It seems like I keep putting my foot in my mouth. I am just confused by the mixed signals and with the baby thing and it's hard. I just don't understand what she means by starting as friends ? Is she trying to work it out in her own way or is she just really trying to be friends? I am trying to not get my hopes up but I love her and she keeps saying she won't plan for the future with baby because she doesn't know where we'll be in 6 mos? I feel strung along!
Author Ace23 Posted February 5, 2015 Author Posted February 5, 2015 Bumping this Message up trying to get some answeres
Author Ace23 Posted February 8, 2015 Author Posted February 8, 2015 Is it good today that she replied and said that she was having a good day and how she had a good weekend?
Elle1975 Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 It might be that she saw you as some kind of mooch. When your situation didn't improve, she called it off.. It might be true, or not, I don't know, but being pregnant she might have realized that she didn't want to take care of you and a baby at the same time. I'm sure you will receive a few "she's just a gold digger" comments, I don't see it that way. What I wonder though, why allow a pregnancy to happen if you two weren't ready. I mean, it's not very responsible for neither of you. Anyway.. what's done is done.. I still believe a child should grow up with both parents.. I hope the situation between you two improve. Just keep doing what you're doing; to have a stable situation always is a big plus.
Satu Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 I would take her words as meaning what they say: She wants to be friends. Accept that, and adapt to it.
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