dj572 Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Ok I have been out of the dating world for awhile. I have had some bad experiences and I took some time off. I had intentions of never trying again but then I met somebody that made me start to reconsider. We met at work. We work in different departments but our paths would cross from time to time and she was always very friendly. We have a common break room and we usually take lunch around the same time and we started talking a lot at lunch and now we have even started sitting together. I really enjoy talking to her and she seems to enjoy it too. Sometimes I go out or I have to take a late lunch and she always tells me she missed me at lunch. Some of the other coworkers have noticed and asked me why I didn't ask her out. They seemed to think we are a good match and they said she definitely likes me. Well I have been thinking about it a lot over the past few months. She has even dropped what I thought were hints that she wanted me to ask her out. I finally went to a female coworker who knows me very well and she said I should ask her out. An opportunity presented itself yesterday and I went for it. I have been going to the gym and eating better since the beginning of the year. I have dropped 20 lbs and I ran into her and she mentioned that I had lost weight. I have been covering a coworker so this was the first time we had time to catch up in 2 weeks. So I told her I decided I want to get my weight off before I start having health problems. She asked how much I want to lose so I told her my goal by the end of the year. She said if you meet your goal I will take you out to dinner. I told her I had been thinking about that and why didn't I take her to dinner on Friday. She hugged me and her face turned red. She told me to get out there. I said I am serious and she said I know just go on. I knew she was embarrassed so I left. I saw her this morning and we talked a minute and I asked her if she thought about what I asked her. She turned red and shook her head no. I asked for clarification so is that a definite no? She said yes and then walked away to talk to one of the supervisors down the hall. I went out for lunch today and she was leaving the break room when I was coming back we talked a minute but she acted like nothing had been said. Now all evening I have been second guessing myself. I don't know if I should say nothing and pretend it didn't happen or do I talk to her about it? I had an opportunity late last summer to go to her house to fix her mower. We ended up talking for 3 hours after I was done. She told me then she will pick a relationship apart before it even starts. I told her I have done the same thing since my divorce. I told her I think it is how we try to protect ourselves from being hurt. That's why it took me this long to ask her out. I left her house last summer thinking about asking her out but it took me until now. I know we both enjoy each others company and I know I didn't misread her that bad and I have had several close friends telling me she wanted to go out with me. One said she all but said it to him one day after I left the break room. What should I do?
mightycpa Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 You should probably take no for an answer. Not much help, I know. Sorry.
Omei Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Do nothing she said no twice. Accept her answer shes not interested in dating you. Sorry =[ Sounds like her invite to you for dinner when you meet your weight goal is just a treat as a friend not a date either, I wouldn't count on that happening now that she knows you want more. Move onto other women.
Author dj572 Posted February 5, 2015 Author Posted February 5, 2015 Well I bumped into her in the hall today. We talked like always. She then asked me if I had lunch plans which I already did. She asked me to go out to lunch with her to try a new place. We have never been out to lunch together. I couldn't go but that was different but I'm just going to leave it alone and see what happens.
mightycpa Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Well I bumped into her in the hall today. We talked like always. She then asked me if I had lunch plans which I already did. She asked me to go out to lunch with her to try a new place. We have never been out to lunch together. I couldn't go but that was different but I'm just going to leave it alone and see what happens. Hmmm... whatever happened to That would be great! I can't today, but how about tomorrow? You either need to start thinking on your feet, or begin rehearsing for possible scenarios.
Author dj572 Posted February 5, 2015 Author Posted February 5, 2015 Hmmm... whatever happened to You either need to start thinking on your feet, or begin rehearsing for possible scenarios. I did not see that coming. I am not good at thinking on my feet. I will hopefully be better prepared next time. If there is a next time.
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