My boyfriend is going to the Bahamas over spring break without me?

[d0nnivain]

I have never been with someone who has cheated on me. He is the best boyfriend I have ever had which is why this scares me so much because I do have something to lose. He wasn't with any one else when I met him. He has never given me a reason not to trust him. I'm just very worried because of the element. I also feel like what if he realizes being in a relationship is limmiting him, he comes back and breaks up with me?

 

That is a risk you take every time you love. He could wake up tomorrow & see another attractive person & decide he wants that person more than you. Going on vacation is not going to cause these feelings neither will staying home prevent them.

 

You two are young. Odd are that your relationship will not make it to marriage & until death do you part. I don't mean to put a damper on your life but you are not being realistic here & your fear is going to ruin this & every other relationship you ever try to have.

 

If he's "the best BF" & you have no reason not to trust him, put all the bad predictions out of your head. Assume he's going to have a nice time but that he will miss you & that you will have have loving reunion when he comes home.

 

Beyond that whatever will happen is out of your control

[Tuutuu22]

That is a risk you take every time you love. He could wake up tomorrow & see another attractive person & decide he wants that person more than you. Going on vacation is not going to cause these feelings neither will staying home prevent them.

 

You two are young. Odd are that your relationship will not make it to marriage & until death do you part. I don't mean to put a damper on your life but you are not being realistic here & your fear is going to ruin this & every other relationship you ever try to have.

 

If he's "the best BF" & you have no reason not to trust him, put all the bad predictions out of your head. Assume he's going to have a nice time but that he will miss you & that you will have have loving reunion when he comes home.

 

Beyond that whatever will happen is out of your control

 

 

I agree and your comments definately have helped and calmed me down. Thank you for that. One more thing that has been bothering me about our relationship is that a family friend I grew up with asked me to prom so I asked my boyfriend. He said "How am I supposed to feel seeing another guy hold my girlfriend" I understood and I told my family friend I couldn't go. But is this a double standard. He gets to go to the bahamas for a week and I can't go to a prom with someone i grew up with as a favor?

[d0nnivain]

. He said "How am I supposed to feel seeing another guy hold my girlfriend" I understood and I told my family friend I couldn't go. But is this a double standard. He gets to go to the bahamas for a week and I can't go to a prom with someone i grew up with as a favor?

 

 

Not a double standard at all. One is a vacation. The other is a date.

 

 

Even if you are only the "substitute" prom is still a romantic event. If you want to go to the prom with this other guy, then you need to break up with your BF. If you love your BF you can't be going to the prom with other boys

[The Mighty Quinn]

This is exactly how I feel, I do have trust in people I love especially him. I also know how people work its a sticky situation. I guess the only thing I can do is hope for the best. The situation is heart breaking. Me worrying is inveitable.

 

You're entitled to worry. You care about your relationship. I would be worried if you didn't care.

 

Tuutuu, just have a talk with him before he goes and ask him think how he would feel if you were going on a spring break trip with your girlfriends where there were lots of other hot, buff single young men around looking for sex. And tell him to think of this situation anytime he feels he's doing something that wouldn't be good for your relationship.

 

And while he's on this trip, go out with your own friends. This way the playing field is even and you won't resent him for going out and having fun while you're stuck at home.

[The Mighty Quinn]

Got to disagree with you there Donnivain. If he’s going out to party for spring break, she should be allowed to go to prom with a friend. Just because she’s a girl and her friend’s a guy doesn’t make it a “date”. Even the fact that it’s prom doesn’t make it a “date”. When I went to prom I went with a male friend. There was nothing romantic about it. We didn’t magically jump each other’s bones just because we were at a fancy hall with a DJ and low lighting. And one isn't "just a vacation". It's spring break. It’s not like he’s going on vacation with his parents. Don't act like that's an innocent atmosphere. Maybe if her boyfriend loved her he wouldn't be going to look for wild party times that will inevitably be invovled with other girls?