cessna Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Got chatting to a girl I worked with years ago but who I've always had on facebook. We seem to hit it off and seem to be on the same wavelength messaging every day. She mentioned a while back that she wasn't interested in being in a relationship at this point in her life but we continued to chat. I asked her to come for a drink and she agreed and we went out earlier for a drink in town. We had a laugh, made tons of eye contact and got on really well with no awkward silence but I'm not sure what she saw this whole meet up as... Was it a date or just two old friends meeting up? I asked her if she wanted to do the same again next week and she seems keen so maybe there is some interest there though, for whatever reason, I have a feeling she isn't attracted to me. For what it's worth I would describe her as 'out of my league' in terms of looks.
irresolute Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Got chatting to a girl I worked with years ago but who I've always had on facebook. We seem to hit it off and seem to be on the same wavelength messaging every day. She mentioned a while back that she wasn't interested in being in a relationship at this point in her life but we continued to chat. I asked her to come for a drink and she agreed and we went out earlier for a drink in town. We had a laugh, made tons of eye contact and got on really well with no awkward silence but I'm not sure what she saw this whole meet up as... Was it a date or just two old friends meeting up? I asked her if she wanted to do the same again next week and she seems keen so maybe there is some interest there though, for whatever reason, I have a feeling she isn't attracted to me. For what it's worth I would describe her as 'out of my league' in terms of looks. Try again one more time and if you don't see any signals, just leave her go. Better realize soon than later. In terms of looks, men rate different than women. Try to be secure on yourself, that's the most important
Author cessna Posted February 5, 2015 Author Posted February 5, 2015 I thought I saw the signals, the constant eye contact, playing with the hair, touching her lips, the little smiles but maybe I'm reading too much into it. Wanted to go for the kiss at the end but didn't. I'm just not sure if she saw this as meeting a potential partner or, like I said, old friends catching up...
irresolute Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 I'd say, why don't to try to gain more experience with women below your league? Go practice, play some. This will give you more self assurance. If you're not sure if it was a date or not, and if the kiss wasn't there, most probably it wasn't a date and she doesn't see you as a romantic partner. Try to be realistic. Ps If I like a guy I go for a kiss on the first date, no doubt about this.
Author cessna Posted February 5, 2015 Author Posted February 5, 2015 I'd say, why don't to try to gain more experience with women below your league? Go practice, play some. This will give you more self assurance. If you're not sure if it was a date or not, and if the kiss wasn't there, most probably it wasn't a date and she doesn't see you as a romantic partner. Try to be realistic. Ps If I like a guy I go for a kiss on the first date, no doubt about this. I'm guessing you're right then and she wasn't interested in me. It's not a confidence thing really, I don't think admitting you're not good looking is a lack of confidence, more so being realistic. Oh well, I tried.
Author cessna Posted February 8, 2015 Author Posted February 8, 2015 I'm trying to get a second date with this girl for next week. She is away for a few days next week visiting a friend in another city but she's not sure when yet. When I ask her about meeting up for a second drink she doesn't seem super enthused but I know that she is the type who is fairly blunt and honest and will tell it like it is. Is it worth just cooling off the contact with her for a bit (we talk everyday) and let her come to me? On the one hand this seems like a good idea but on the other we both hate playing games and the whole 'ignoring to gain gain interest' thing... What would I say if she came back a few days later and asked why I was being so quiet? Should I just be honest with her about everything and say that I liked her but didn't think the feeling were reciprocated so I was just giving her space...
Author cessna Posted February 8, 2015 Author Posted February 8, 2015 Anyone? Any advice would be much appreciated.
Author cessna Posted February 11, 2015 Author Posted February 11, 2015 Right, sorry to bring this thread up again but we've sorted out another date for tomorrow night. Surely that must mean I'm still in with a chance? I'll move in for a kiss if it feels right and then at least I know where she stands and she'll know where I stand.
Fhsjkfjrhsdh3646 Posted February 11, 2015 Posted February 11, 2015 Whoops... Didn't see your new post at the bottom. Just be yourself, and don't try to force things. If its going to happen it will happen. If the signs are there, lean in, if she backs up, back away, otherwise go for it.
Author cessna Posted February 11, 2015 Author Posted February 11, 2015 The signs where there last time the kiss just didn't happen so maybe I just need to man up a bit this time and go for it. If she wants to see me again there must be something there.
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