RuKiddingme Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 I've realized now my biggest issue with OLD is too many people are just ignorant of actual talking. I keep running into those who after 3-4 days of nothing but texts, the following happens: They will be turned off by long texts. The issue here is you can't get to know anything about anyone if all you are reading is the daily chores and "lol". Any long texts I send (just stuff about what I enjoy or thoughts on what they enjoy) could be said on the phone in a matter of 20 seconds. Maybe we all have ADD. Who knows... They will hardly text anything besides the previously mentioned "lol" or simple one-liners that say absolutely nothing. Either me or the other person do not pick up on the "tone" of what is being said. I was once accused of being "angry" through a text even though I was anything but. They end up fading because you can only sustain interest through texting for so long. Now I realize there might be some feedback on here about texting etiquette and that's fine. I understand it's the way of things and everyone does it. But I think in the beginning, it's a terrible way to communicate. It just never works. I like phone conversations because they are just more productive when you first start talking to someone. So this is now how I am going to roll: If I go back to OLD, I'm going to make it very apparent that phone conversations happen or I won't even bother. Will that reduce my chances? Yep. But in the long run, it will be worth it or otherwise I'll be wasting another six months coming in contact with ten different people who end up vanishing because they have no idea how to talk on the phone.
preraph Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 I think you're right. For starters, it's alarming how badly spelled and put together texts are, so the first thing I'd want to know is if the person can string a sentence together verbally or not.... 1
scorpiogirl Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 If someone contacts me online, I'll exchange messages there for a day or two. If he then asks me if I have so-and-so"texting app, I say no but you can have my number to call me when you have free time later this evening. If they use my number to text, I'll reply to ask him to call me later or say I'm a little busy now, could I give you a call later. If he's in day 3 and still sending "how was your day" texts with nothing else of substance, then I can't be bothered. I have ideas. Opinions, things I want to say. Things I want to ask. If you don't, we can't really make much progress. Pity we have to be so cold but you're right. My time is too precious to be sitting flicking my thumbs across a tiny screen. 1
Gaeta Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 I only give my number when it's time to meet and a time and place has been set. This way I avoid these prospects becoming text pals. 1
Satu Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Relative values of communication methods. 1. Face to face. 2. Skype 3. Telephone. 4. Email. 5. Text. 6. Morse code. 7. Smoke signals. 8. Screaming into an endless abyss. 9. Silence followed by a faint whimpering sound. 2
Dallers Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 (edited) I have a counter argument in favour of texting personally. I have had lots of progress with girls while still texting a lot. I think a lot of my positive outcomes are down to knowing how to create passion and move things along via text. It can also be very useful for breaking the ice and making her feel more comfortable. I am pretty sure I would have been flaked on before if I did not impress first by message, flirt and intrigue her to find out more about me. I could totally go no texting before a meet but I just have always found it to be a very useful tool. I guess you have to make sure you are in full control of texting but if you are finding that first dates are awful or seem to be like walking into a job interview you might want to consider it. Edited February 5, 2015 by Dallers
Author RuKiddingme Posted February 6, 2015 Author Posted February 6, 2015 Lol! Rofl! What's so funny?
ASG Posted February 6, 2015 Posted February 6, 2015 Personally I'm a big defender of texting. I hate talking on the phone and it's one of the very very few things that gives me anxiety! I mean... the other day, the guy I've been seeing called me. First time he's called me in just over 2 months. I nearly panicked and didn't answer. Only did because we were texting to arrange to meet that day, so I figured it was a case of "it's easier this way". I always feel so awkward talking on the phone with anyone who's not my mom! But I don't do OLD. So I already met the person I'm texting. I guess it's a bit different if they're a complete stranger... And I do try to save deep conversations for when we actually meet up.
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