StillHurtin Posted April 2, 2005 Posted April 2, 2005 I am a little amused that the OW just wasn't into H after all. After reading the OW/OM forum and how unhappy some of the OW are b/c their MM broke it off w/ them I realized that the OW wasn't into H as much as I thought. Not even a week after H broke it off w/ her to work on our M she was dating another co-worker. She is still w/ this man almost 2 years later. If she was in love w/ H she couldn't of moved on so quickly w/ the guy she is w/ now. Kind of funny that he thought she was really into him all those years.
Fraggles Posted April 9, 2005 Posted April 9, 2005 StillHurtin' Same here. When my h broke it off with SOW, the first thing she said was, "Oh great! Now I gotta start over!" NOT "Oh baby, don't leave me." "Please don't go, leave your W!! Stay with me!" She was just pissed that she thought her 'easy pickins' didn't pan out. Poor thing - now she's gotta go find another vulnerable MM (like her previous 2 or 3) and 'start over.' It's amazing because I think most of the WS' are floored to realize that they were being used too!! Dumba**es.
Author StillHurtin Posted April 9, 2005 Author Posted April 9, 2005 Your right! I think the OW H was w/ was just using him also. I am sure she used him for sex, b/c he is great in bed, and I am not saying that b/c he is my H, I always thought he was a great lover, he knows how to please a woman. So I am sure she probably used him for sex. When I spoke to her and told her I didn't care what her and my H do w/ eachother after the D was final. I told her to respect my feelings and leave him alone until then. She of course told me they were just friends, and continued to see him. I told her I didn't appreciate that she asked my H to help her teenage son practice pitching (H was a pitcher in HS and college). She told me she found another guy to help her and that she was having him over for a BBQ so she wouldn't have my H help. What really pi$$ed me off about him helping was b/c he didn't do much w/ his own son and then he was going to go help the OW's son and spend time w/ him. I just don't think the OW wanted just H, she wanted any man b/c now she was getting out of her M and wanting to play the field again. I do think that H did have a lot of feelings for her b/c if he didn't, he wouldn't of filed for a D from me. But once he got to know the OW more on a personal level outside of work he realized she just wasn't what he wanted in a relationship. They didn't have much in common but sports. Funny thing though, that is one thing H and I don't have in common. When H broke up w/ the OW she basically said she figured he was going to work on his M and so it didn't suprise her that he ended it, she knew it was coming eventually.
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