toxicity56 Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Hi @ all, and first of all if this isn't the right place for this thread feel free to move it admins :-) So I did pretty good today for being just a few days post BU but something popped into my mind about half an hour ago and since then I'm miserable. Little Story first: Since my Parents got divorced I spent the Week with my Mother and the Weekends with my Father in order to see them both. I got a nice big bed at my father's place and it was fine (even during other BU's) but this time around it's a bit different. For the past 3 years I spent every single weekend with my ex exactly there. In this bed, in this flat. I already got rid of everything there was from her and even god rid of the bedsheets and left it open so her side wouldn't smell like her when I finally sleep over there again. My problem now is that even thinking about the weekend and this bed and this flat turns my stomach. I don't want to break the Weekends with my father (It's not like we're doing anything together, we just sit in separate rooms and from time to time I help him with something, it's not much but it makes us happy the way it is. I mean he is about 80 years old). But I also don't want to be there because every inch of that place just reminds me of her. Do you have any suggestions?
Ieris Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 You could decorate your room, paint the walls and re-arrange the furniture?? I had the same feeling after a break up, I changed the color palette and it just looks like a completely different room. More cosy, silk sheets and all
beach Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 How old are you - and how old are your parents?
Author toxicity56 Posted February 4, 2015 Author Posted February 4, 2015 Hi thanks for your replies. Yeah maybe I have to decorate the room new. Im 23 years old now. my dad like I said pushing 80 and my mom pushing 50 now. I just don't know how I should cope with the place. It just makes me sick to think about that place. I had so many great years there. And I'd hate to not see my father on the weekends.
amaysngrace Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Put up some girlie posters, a lot of them, and you'll stop thinking about her in no time. ...unless she is a girlie poster model
GoBlue Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Honestly a part of getting through and over a relationship is by choosing what you will fix your mind upon. The past has no hold over you unless you allow it to. You are there to see your father - two nights a week - that isn't an extraordinary amount of time. Don't you think you can focus your attention on why you are there? You do not have to dwell on the other thing. You are a rational human being and you can move forward. My thoughts and prayers are with you.
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