tommy_tgz Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Shackers, This post has been my first since probably 8-9 weeks ago, which doesn't sound like a long time but for me it has been. Time does crawl when you're in a recovery, but the point of this post to let all the men here suffering know that this game can be survived, learned, and beaten. Which means you will feel better and there's never a point you can't come back. As long as you are still alive and genuinely want to get over your ex and your past, you could do it. If you read my old posts you'll know the bad breakup I went through with a girl who I was pretty sure is BPD. I don’t want to drag on about it here since you can read about it in my other posts, but it was the most devastating break up of my life, financially and emotionally. Although I’m still financially recovering from it, emotionally I’ve moved on and healed tremendously. I’m going to summarize the steps I took and the ways to get over this as fast and smooth as possible. Note that being a guy my advice is geared more towards men, but I hope it helps the ladies suffering heartbreak too because I know some women on these boards have helped me. 1. Believe every wise man here who recovered that no contact is not only the best but the only way to truly move on. You can’t keep opening a wound that you want to heal. 2. There’s definitely other fish in the sea. When you first break up you think your ex as the best thing since bacon but once enough time passes you realize there plenty of beautiful and amazing people out there. The world is huge with 6 billion people. Your ex is 1 out of 6 billion, and if it didn’t work out its not the end of the world. 3. Focus on yourself like no other. This time is all about you and transforming yourself into the best version of yourself. I called it my project of Me 2.0. I hit the gym hard and worked on my social skills and game. I read books and plenty of good blogs. Fill your mind with golden words and ideas (positive and motivating things) and you’ll see your world change just by changing your thoughts. 4. Go to Vegas at least once lol. Or twice. 5. Get back out there! Talk to new people, make friends and believe that this situation was a blessing in disguise. Because if it didn’t work out and you got out of this without marriage or a kid, you are the lucky ones. Enjoy your life now because you will never be younger or more carefree than now. Appreciate that others in the world are getting killed by ISIS, starving, handicapped, or dying by disease and you’re just here heartbroken over someone. Man up (or woman up lol) and realize that your situation is not as bad as others have it. That’s all I have for now, but I gotta say my mojo is definitely back! I’m meeting interesting women and my life is getting back on track. If you guys need any help, holla back and I’ll try my best to help you out of the dark tunnel you’re in. I saw the light at the end of the tunnel now so I know my comeback season is ready to start. Live Strong, Tommy Gunn 12
Kermit007 Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Well done. But you are absolutely right. At first you are a mess, and think the world of them. After a while you start seeing their flaws and realize...they really weren't that great. You eyes start to open!
Familia Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Great work mate great work, and just the type of post I had wanted to see this evening before bed, As I sit here a few days into NC after breaking it several times over several days. I am at the stage just thinking there is nobody out there for me except her she is the one...... at least your post will give me a change of thought before I attempt to drift off to sleep
erklat Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Yeah, thinking they are the one is a common feeling between all of us. And a false one at that. You will know when you meet someone who wants to be with you.
maryça Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Thank you for this amazing post, I am currently going through a BU and it kinda suck. It feels amazing to read your story, it gives hope that there is a better futur out there
melonmint57 Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Thanks for sharing! Glad to see you're happy and you were able to move on from your BU. I hope to be in your shoes eventually.
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