LadyBulb Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 I have a problem and I am not too sure on what to do about it. I am constantly distracted by thoughts of somebody and cannot get work done. Currently I am procrastinating on studies and have a big exam tomorrow. At this point in time I want to get rid of these thoughts. Do you guys have any recommendations on what I should do to achieve this goal? My situation: I am interested in somebody but I realized after months these feelings are going nowhere. The person I am interested over has never approached me and I don't think he will do so anytime soon (or ever will). So what should I do with these feelings?
Satu Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Take some paper and right this on it: "(Name), I release you to live your life in peace and harmony. I am not holding you. You are free, and so am I." Then make a little paper boat, take it some flowing water, and watch it float away. The subconscious minds speaks to us in symbols. Dreams, etc. When we speak to it in symbols, it understands us. 1
WonderWoman911 Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 I really hope you did well on your exam today. In the future, stay focus in your studies because that person isn't taking the exam for you. 1
StalwartMind Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 As people have completely different expectations/desires, there are actually a bunch of things you can do. Naturally not all or any may fall to your liking, in which case you ignore and forget everything written below, and apply that same tactic to this person. - You could try to do the approaching, instead of waiting for him (some men will never approach, others need a kick-start to wake up) - Realize that there will be other interesting men in future, that may even approach you under more ideal circumstances, like when you have graduated and/or are further ahead in your life. - On the more humorous/serious side of things, you could make up a story about him in your mind, which is why you need to stop thinking about him. Example A: Perhaps he likes to sit in his tub all day playing with rubber ducks while pretending he is the KING DUCK and all other ducks must do as he says. Naturally none of the other ducks want to be ruled by this King Duck, so in his upset he angrily flaps his hands down in the water and the entire bathroom becomes splashed with water. Example B: He is actually a really grumpy and mean person, think of all the traits you dislike in a man, and imagine that he is exactly like that. As suggested, focus on your studies, they are important and they'll build the foundation for the rest of your life, whereas this person likely will only occupy a very minor part of your mind overall and perhaps even be forgotten about a few years ahead. 1
Got it Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Addressing just stopping the thoughts. Put a rubberband on your wrist and pop it every time your mind drifts. Allot a specific time each day to think of the person, set a timer, and when it dings you move on and don't allow yourself to get pulled back into thinking about them. It is about retraining your brain to think of other things. 1
Author LadyBulb Posted February 4, 2015 Author Posted February 4, 2015 (edited) Thank you for all of the suggestion and advice. I really enjoyed imagining him as King Duck I will try to apply the suggestions and the advice made me feel a bit better. Thank you. Edited February 4, 2015 by LadyBulb :P
preraph Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 This has worked for me before: Make yourself stay socially busy. Even if no one can go with you, go out to a movie or lunch or the zoo. While there, don't let yourself have these repetitive thoughts. For every good thought, like "but he seems to perfect," make yourself then repeat two bad things: "I don't even know him really. He doesn't have enough taste to find me attractive enough to approach, so he must be shallow." Just stop letting yourself steep in the fantasy of him. Remember, it's mostly in your head, and it's your love and you can give it to anyone, so save it for someone who loves you back.
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