kacper Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 So after 3 months of being dumped, I sent out a little casual text to test the waters with the ex. That led to a volley of texts, and I was frankly surprised she wasn't acting aloof. In fact she seemed quite interested in what's been going on. I reached out to her once early on in the 3 months and that was quite a heavy encounter, but now it seemed the air was clear. I ended up getting tired of the texting, so I called her, and we talked for an hour. We caught up, and she said it was nice to hear my voice. All the banter we always had was still there. I suggested we meet up in the park with our dogs but she was a little vague about committing. I followed up this morning with a "good luck" text on a project she is doing and got a "thanks" back. To be honest, the NC is probably what got her interested in me. So I assume I should go back to it, and see if she hits me up to do that doggie date. But on the other hand I have some friends saying that this has been good progress and I should try to gradually build on it. Maybe hit her up with more casual texts and the occasional phone call here and there? Our breakup was dependent on me kicking a bad habit. I have done that (got professional help), and I feel like full NC is not going to help illustrate the change has been made. Some light contact might communicate that I did what I actually said I would do.
Satu Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 It sounds reasonable to update her on your progress, but use a light touch.
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