Camaro Guy Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Get started with everything? Dating? Relationships? Sex? Etc. How would you get to date the people you want, because it can't happen right off the bat. It pretty much seems impossible now because you're so used to it. Women don't even seem like potential partners anymore, just people who are wildly different to me and who are completely unknown. I'm just curious to the responses.
d0nnivain Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 First stop leading with your V card. Put it out of your mind. Your 1st goal is to get a date, nothing more. You get a date the same way everybody does. Put yourself out there. Smile at people. Talk to strangers. Go on OLD. Attend MeetUp events. Pursue a hobby to find somebody with shared interests. Once you find somebody interesting, set up a date. Let the relationship develop over time, then let nature take its course. 2
Light Breeze Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 If you were a 24 year old virgin, how would you... Get started with everything? Dating? Relationships? Sex? Etc. I assume, pretty much like a 24 year old non-virigin would..... Like, actually asking someone out on a date. 4
thefooloftheyear Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Get started with everything? Dating? Relationships? Sex? Etc. How would you get to date the people you want, because it can't happen right off the bat. It pretty much seems impossible now because you're so used to it. Women don't even seem like potential partners anymore, just people who are wildly different to me and who are completely unknown. I'm just curious to the responses. Same old story, bro... Forget about women...Work on yourself...Career, physical condition, job, living arrangements....Gain confidence...etc... Do stuff for you, not them... Ironically the more you do for you and the less consumed you are(desperate) the more attractive you become...Practically nothing else in life is like this, but thats how this game works... Also...there is an ass for every seat, so to speak...Dont think there arent women on your wavelength....its a huge world out there... TFY 5
EasyHeart Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 No one knows you're a virgin. And no one ever will unless you tell them. Look for a woman you like and then ask her out. Easy as pie. 2
Toodaloo Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Well personally I would go about it the exact same way a non virgin would. But just to be sure I failed I would get a designer neon sign that says "I AM A VIRGIN"... I think that would just about guarantee success as opposed to me just being myself and getting on with life...
Shepp Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 If i woke up tomorrow, in a different body, 24 year old no dating experience, I'd go about reassembling my life. I'd sign up to sports teams. I'd turn my team mates into my buddies and I'd do the stuff I love with them, mountain biking, climbing, windsurfing, the stuff that interests me. I'd go out with these guys and meet men and women through them and maintain a good social circle. I'd make my life as full and interesting as possible - I'd make sure i was in a career i loved (or working towards one). I'd make plans to do things the majority of people don't do - be it climb a mountain, travel to an interesting place or run a marathon. I'd meet girls naturally, I'd be friendly, and make sure i was the kind of guy you'd want to be around and then i'd pretty much let the dating thing take care of itself! See my things sport, but whatever you thing is, do it, and there'll be girls out there that want to be around you. 1
Frank2thepoint Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 How would you get to date the people you want, because it can't happen right off the bat. It pretty much seems impossible now because you're so used to it. Women don't even seem like potential partners anymore, just people who are wildly different to me and who are completely unknown. Concerning the boldfaced, the impossibility is a self-imposed limitation. Dating is not impossible. Finding someone you connect with and can have a satisfying relationship is challenging. And what do you mean that women don't seem like potential partners? Are you questioning your sexual orientation or are wondering if you are asexual?
Author Camaro Guy Posted February 13, 2015 Author Posted February 13, 2015 Concerning the boldfaced, the impossibility is a self-imposed limitation. Dating is not impossible. Finding someone you connect with and can have a satisfying relationship is challenging. And what do you mean that women don't seem like potential partners? Are you questioning your sexual orientation or are wondering if you are asexual? I'm saying that it's getting to the point where I'm starting to feel asexual.
carhill Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 If you were a 24 year old virgin, how would you... Get started with everything? Dating? Relationships? Sex? Etc. I was one and, not meeting any single young ladies and fresh on the cusp of getting an atomic bomb dropped by one whom I thought was single and turned out to be married, I turned to the then very young technology of telephone dating, where voice mailboxes out of newspaper ads were used to assess, and meet, other potentially single people. It was the early 80's version of online dating. I also joined a couple volunteer organizations where the jobs involved interacting with the public on a social level and continued on with my hobbies of the time of cycling and auto racing. Virginity wasn't really a factor because I was in no hurry, at that point, of losing it, preferring to save sex for a committed relationship or marriage. Hence, dating was truly getting to know women I found attractive. Many rejections ensued. I understand why you might occasionally feel asexual but morning wood reminds you that you're male, even at my age and celibate. The old fires still burn, just on low flame. You'll work it out.
ThaWholigan Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 I'm saying that it's getting to the point where I'm starting to feel asexual. That's not feeling asexual, that's feeling hopeless and deciding to stew because you've already conditioned yourself to be the way you are now. I've been in your shoes, and really all I had to do was stop wearing my virginity on my sleeve and just f*cking talk to girls and let them know of my interest. If it's not meant to be, it's just not. Eventually, someone's gonna f*ck you . Basically, you're gonna have to suck it up and endure some rejection for a while beforehand - it sucks but it's necessary. Most of the things we learn in this life that help us in the future originate from our pain. You've made loads of threads with loads of advice in them now - what you do with it is up to you . 1
AVarma Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 I've been in your shoes, and really all I had to do was stop wearing my virginity on my sleeve and just f*cking talk to girls and let them know of my interest. Didn't you write that you were a virgin on your OLD profile? No one knows you're a virgin. And no one ever will unless you tell them. Look for a woman you like and then ask her out. Easy as pie. I understand the advice of not leading with your virginity but I mean if you've been on a few dates and get along with her and things are leading to sex is it really that bad to reveal it? Why does it have to be this big dirty secret?
ThaWholigan Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 Didn't you write that you were a virgin on your OLD profile? I understand the advice of not leading with your virginity but I mean if you've been on a few dates and get along with her and things are leading to sex is it really that bad to reveal it? Why does it have to be this big dirty secret? Technically no . It was one of the 2000 questions I answered truthfully on OKC, but it wasn't written out on my profile. You'd have had to sift through the questions. I did write that I was autistic though.
tpham18nm Posted February 17, 2015 Posted February 17, 2015 (edited) Sex and relationships are two very different things. If you want to start dating and find someone who shares your interests; I would pick up a hobby and discover myself in meaningful ways. Work on communication skills and take risks in asking women out. If you want sex, well that's easy. You can always lose your V card to a prostitute, have a one night stand from websites like craiglists. I didn't date anyone for years. Before I recently got back into a relationship; I concentrated on myself and took up photography as a hobby, applied for graduate school, quit my job to find my path, etc. Sometimes i would get lonely. If i did i went out and talked to a counselor and that usually up'ed my self-esteem and happiness. Its important to not be desperate. I think women can get a vibe from that and be turned off. Talk to people, plant "seeds", hint that you want to go out on a date. Sooner or later someone will bite. I wasn't even looking when my GF asked me out on a date. Things just happen, it'll for you as well. Edited February 17, 2015 by Gotpepsi
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