imclueless Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 So after two weeks of contemplating if I should talk to this girl in my club, I finally did and we ended up having lunch together at the cafeteria where I got her number and asked to her to go to the movies the next day. She said yes and everything went well. A week later I talked about her and said she was smart and good looking to my friends and to my suprise she was right behind me. I got embarrassed and said let's act like that didn't happen and laughed it off and so did she. Now when we talk she doesn't give me any eye contact, "forgets" to respond to my texts, and I just feel this awkward tension between us now. She still sits by me during the club meetings and we still talk but she just doesn't seem as confident anymore. Is it that she's lost interest if there was any to begin with? Or is it that she's not trying to be rude?
oberkeat Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Wow, you handled that terribly. It's likely that she interpreted what you said as a rejection. Believe it or not, girls take rejection even harder than us guys do. They take rejection as almost an insult to their social credibility, which is why they almost never approach men, even ones they are attracted to. Therefore, she's responding to your perceived rejection in kind. You could try talking to her about this: say you handled that poorly, say you felt awkward and didn't mean to embarrass her, and offer to take her on another date. 2
Omei Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 I don't see any rejection here, I thought his response was funny/cute and joke like "let's pretend you didn't hear me gush to my mates" and he said she laughed along with him. I don't know how him saying those nice things about her could be rejection lol if she interpreted it that way she's an idiot. I find it odd now too OP maybe you should ask her out again, have you tried? how long have you waited to ask again?
Author imclueless Posted February 4, 2015 Author Posted February 4, 2015 she has a busy schedule with school and all so I try to give her room, but I might just ask her to do something this week
Omei Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 she has a busy schedule with school and all so I try to give her room, but I might just ask her to do something this week Dude go for it it's the only way you'll know tell her you enjoyed your time together and would very much like to take her out again! Come back tell us what she says! She may be wondering why you haven't asked! and that's why she's distant who knows! "giving her room" might have made her think that it's you who wasn't as interested so she backed off. Find out!
Author imclueless Posted February 4, 2015 Author Posted February 4, 2015 Well I did ask if she was busy and she said she had a ton of hw and a test so I just said it could wait, but that couldalways be an excuse who knows
Omei Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Well I did ask if she was busy and she said she had a ton of hw and a test so I just said it could wait, but that couldalways be an excuse who knows Don't wait people like to know they're liked. Girls like to be asked out again as soon as a date go's good, I suggest reading the countless posts by woman who are unsure if the guy likes them because they didn't get asked out again ;p Best of luck.
Author imclueless Posted February 4, 2015 Author Posted February 4, 2015 Wouldn't it be inconsiderate to still ask her out even after she said she was busy though?
Omei Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 I wouldnt think so, you said in a past post you asked if she was busy and she replied with hw and a test. Were all busy everyday doesn't mean you still cant ask.
deathandtaxes Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Wouldn't it be inconsiderate to still ask her out even after she said she was busy though? No. You'll be amazed at how much time people can free up for the things they really want to do! 2
Omei Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 No. You'll be amazed at how much time people can free up for the things they really want to do! Indeed esp when people like each other.
angel.eyes Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Tell her you'd like to see her again, and ask her when she's free to go out.
you_can_not_see_me Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Yeah OP you have to get to the bottom of this soon, don't try to over think this, just ask her to hang soon. If she seems reluctant to meet up you will have your answer. Its an unfortunate and grating thing to have to deal with people who don't make their intentions clear. It can really turn bothersome if you don't get to the bottom of it quickly.
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