toxicity56 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Hi @ all, as you may already know I am going through a BU after 3 years of RS. I couldn't handle myself at all. I was feeling sick all the time and almost threw up like 3 times today. I wasn't able to eat and when I finally slept a few minutes I woke up because I had dreams of her and just wanted to scream. I broke NC after not even 24h and got slapped for it immediatly. Why am I in a good mood anyway? Because I found something that I haven't read here. I came to think all the ppl I talked too in real life were men. My friends and one female co-worker (who obviously has more balls than me atm because she wouldn't give 2 sh*ts about a BU) and suddenly it happened. I found some articles of women trying to get through BU's but were not on this site. What I want to say is that men most of the time try to force something. It happens a lot even today I told myself: "Screw her" "Get her out of your head" "stop being so needy" very often. I haven't heard about Women doing that alot (I mean yes I am sure that there are phases in which the say this too but not as much as I did and not as much as I heard from guys:" F**K that B**CH" and "Walk it off, just go out there and learn to life again") and since I was at a total loss anyway I thought why not give it a try. What I did was: I spoke with my heart. (sounds crazy right?) I honestly looked at myself and addressed my Heart. I asked how it was doing and teared up immediatly. I cried and talked to myself like I talked with another person. It all came up and it was a hell of a long talk. But in the end I felt a bit better. After that I took a long bath and talked to 2 female friends. That was the most embarrassing talk I ever had. I never felt so vulnerable and honestly a little unmanly. But it was ok after a short period of time. I came to realize that females tend to treat heartaches more cautious and listen to what their heart and soul really needs right now they listen to themselves (which I honestly tried before but didn't work since I was just thinking with my head and not listening to my Heart at all) I will call my female friends up more often after today because I feel great atm. Im not feeling sick and tired. Im not feeling the dread for now. To be honest I couldn't even think of anything different than her all day but not now. I do know that I am far away from being over her but I know now that if you are feeling down and don't know what else to do, you might want to give a long talk to a female friend and a long bubble bath a chance. It can't get worse now can it? Thanks for reading this all and I am hoping that, even if it is just temporary a good feeling, it will help some of you.
Crampaholic Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Very interesting! I will definitely apply that technique... I will hold a long conversation with myself. Glad you are feeling a bit better! and count on us girls, whenever you feel like it! Stay strong and keep up NC
tikay00 Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 I'm good on the bubble bath, but I'm glad you found your solace.
Mi7522 Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Hi @ all, as you may already know I am going through a BU after 3 years of RS. I couldn't handle myself at all. I was feeling sick all the time and almost threw up like 3 times today. I wasn't able to eat and when I finally slept a few minutes I woke up because I had dreams of her and just wanted to scream. I broke NC after not even 24h and got slapped for it immediatly. Why am I in a good mood anyway? Because I found something that I haven't read here. I came to think all the ppl I talked too in real life were men. My friends and one female co-worker (who obviously has more balls than me atm because she wouldn't give 2 sh*ts about a BU) and suddenly it happened. I found some articles of women trying to get through BU's but were not on this site. What I want to say is that men most of the time try to force something. It happens a lot even today I told myself: "Screw her" "Get her out of your head" "stop being so needy" very often. I haven't heard about Women doing that alot (I mean yes I am sure that there are phases in which the say this too but not as much as I did and not as much as I heard from guys:" F**K that B**CH" and "Walk it off, just go out there and learn to life again") and since I was at a total loss anyway I thought why not give it a try. What I did was: I spoke with my heart. (sounds crazy right?) I honestly looked at myself and addressed my Heart. I asked how it was doing and teared up immediatly. I cried and talked to myself like I talked with another person. It all came up and it was a hell of a long talk. But in the end I felt a bit better. After that I took a long bath and talked to 2 female friends. That was the most embarrassing talk I ever had. I never felt so vulnerable and honestly a little unmanly. But it was ok after a short period of time. I came to realize that females tend to treat heartaches more cautious and listen to what their heart and soul really needs right now they listen to themselves (which I honestly tried before but didn't work since I was just thinking with my head and not listening to my Heart at all) I will call my female friends up more often after today because I feel great atm. Im not feeling sick and tired. Im not feeling the dread for now. To be honest I couldn't even think of anything different than her all day but not now. I do know that I am far away from being over her but I know now that if you are feeling down and don't know what else to do, you might want to give a long talk to a female friend and a long bubble bath a chance. It can't get worse now can it? Thanks for reading this all and I am hoping that, even if it is just temporary a good feeling, it will help some of you. Lol bubble bath
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