erklat Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Hi, My best man recently dumped this girl he was dating. She broke up longterm in April last year. She was clearly overly invested, needy and still not over her ex. He broke up with her kind of publicly, a lot of mutual acquaintances know details about it. Why am I writing? I have developed empathy. I feel her pain and anxiety. Dumper was guilt tripping pretty bad until she started kind of insulting him. Now he rationalizes with it. My advice to all dumpees - please just turn away and leave silent. I wish I had someone who could give that advice in a moment I needed it. Now dumper thinks he is a good guy. I have to be objective, I said to him you are entitled to be happy, but you know that you broke a heart and karma is a bitch. He seems genuinely afraid of it.
Chi townD Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 My advice to all dumpees - please just turn away and leave silent. I wish I had someone who could give that advice in a moment I needed it. Blah....I don't blame her. She was hurt and hurt publicly. It's only natural to lash out. But, if she continues to lash out weeks and months afterwards, then that's problematic. But, she's allowed to be hurt and vent a bit.
JustDeadInside Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Dumper was guilt tripping pretty bad until she started kind of insulting him. Now he rationalizes with it. My advice to all dumpees - please just turn away and leave silent...Now dumper thinks he is a good guy. I have to be objective, I said to him you are entitled to be happy, but you know that you broke a heart and karma is a bitch. This, is precisely why I refused to go off on my ex yesterday no matter what he said. Let that be the final thing he lives with - him saying the most vile things he can come up with, while I just repeatedly calmly ask for us to stop fighting. I know he was gunning for me to flip out. So I could make this easier for him? Fat chance. 1
Author erklat Posted February 3, 2015 Author Posted February 3, 2015 Blah....I don't blame her. She was hurt and hurt publicly. It's only natural to lash out. But, if she continues to lash out weeks and months afterwards, then that's problematic. But, she's allowed to be hurt and vent a bit. I don't blame her either. I insulted my ex even more, but I didn't say anything that was untrue. She was whoring around and hanging with lowlifes - and I was at pain in that moment. I said to him you can't say she is bad because she is hurt. He tried to turn me over, but I said I know how she feels and I can not be on your side - my replica to his how I "always need to be an angel". I said I had couple of nice talks with her and knowing that pain because I went through it also I had to extend couple of kind words to her. It means more when someone who went through exactly the same says them after all.
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