Ashley S Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Hi! I just was wondering about this. My guy friend, and I are very close. We hang out almost everyday, but it's always him that texts me, and wants to hang out. He always says to me that I am his "best friend", and how much he "cares" about me, and all that jazz lol. He's the type that loves women, and wants women to be around him. Almost everytime I hang out with him he invites another guy, another girl, and makes it like a big outing. He always wants attention from girls it seems. What I found weird is that he said about his current girlfriend. He said "I think it was good that me and Gina broke up for a little bit." I said "Why?" He said "Because I was getting annoyed with her, I don't like it when girls try me, you know? So the break was good." I said "Try you? What do you mean by that?" He said "Like hugging and kissing me all the time, I get sick of it. I get annoyed with hanging out with the same girl all the time. I was getting annoyed with Gina. You don't try me, as in you don't try to kiss me, and try to have sex with me." I found that strange because he constantly wants to be around females? Also I don't know if he is getting annoyed with me? Because he didn't say either way, but he's the one always wanting to do something with me, and always wanting to be around me. I hardly ever text him first or call him first. Any thoughts on that? I thought guys loved it when girls fall for them, and are constantly flirty with them and what not?
SawtoothMars Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Seriously... some people just are not affectionate. That has nothing to do with how much attention they desire. 1
Redhead14 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Hi! I just was wondering about this. My guy friend, and I are very close. We hang out almost everyday, but it's always him that texts me, and wants to hang out. He always says to me that I am his "best friend", and how much he "cares" about me, and all that jazz lol. He's the type that loves women, and wants women to be around him. Almost everytime I hang out with him he invites another guy, another girl, and makes it like a big outing. He always wants attention from girls it seems. What I found weird is that he said about his current girlfriend. He said "I think it was good that me and Gina broke up for a little bit." I said "Why?" He said "Because I was getting annoyed with her, I don't like it when girls try me, you know? So the break was good." I said "Try you? What do you mean by that?" He said "Like hugging and kissing me all the time, I get sick of it. I get annoyed with hanging out with the same girl all the time. I was getting annoyed with Gina. You don't try me, as in you don't try to kiss me, and try to have sex with me." I found that strange because he constantly wants to be around females? Also I don't know if he is getting annoyed with me? Because he didn't say either way, but he's the one always wanting to do something with me, and always wanting to be around me. I hardly ever text him first or call him first. Any thoughts on that? I thought guys loved it when girls fall for them, and are constantly flirty with them and what not? He doesn't like to be smothered. Men don't mind a little peck now and again or a hug. But some women are constantly hanging on their men. Contact between men and women in a dating scenario should be balanced at least. He initiates, she responds in kind. He calls, she answers, he texts she answers and in the very beginning she doesn't initiate. Sure, men like it when a girl falls for them, but they don't want to be hung on. A little light flirtiness is nice, but chronically or overdone, that gets to be annoying and/or teases them. It's all about balance and a little bit at a time. Receptive and not rush them. Don't over do it. It's kinda similar to trying to coax a rabbit to allow you to get near. You put out some food and back away. Don't rush at them. Put more food out and back away. Eventually, if they like the food enough, they will keep coming back and allow you to get closer to them. If they don't, it's simply that the food was good enough to fill up on, but it's really not what they like. 2
preraph Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 He probably sees it as clingy, which it can be. 1
ExpatInItaly Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Not every guy loves girls fawning all over them. And since you're not his girlfriend, I can't see how or why he'd be annoyed with you. I just wouldn't indulge in any criticism of his girlfriend. 3
Author Ashley S Posted February 4, 2015 Author Posted February 4, 2015 Not every guy loves girls fawning all over them. And since you're not his girlfriend, I can't see how or why he'd be annoyed with you. I just wouldn't indulge in any criticism of his girlfriend. Yes, I see. I am not indulging in his criticism towards his girlfriend, I was just curious about this because I thought guys loved it when girls are falling all over them. Thanks!
hunk Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 (edited) ^ took the words out of my .. er.. keyboard i'm willing to put money on him being gay. Edited February 4, 2015 by hunk spelling 1
Author Ashley S Posted February 4, 2015 Author Posted February 4, 2015 Sounds like he's gay. I was thinking that lol.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Ashley, to clarify, is this the same guy you've mentioned in another thread who joking referred to you as his girlfriend, even though he already has/had a girlfriend? 1
Author Ashley S Posted February 4, 2015 Author Posted February 4, 2015 (edited) Ashley, to clarify, is this the same guy you've mentioned in another thread who joking referred to you as his girlfriend, even though he already has/had a girlfriend? No, it's a different dude. I wasn't friends with the guy that said I was his "girlfriend", but I am friends with his girlfriend, and that post was about if I should tell my girlfriend that her boyfriend was saying that to me. My friend (this guy in the post) has said I was his "girlfriend" on some occasions too. Edited February 4, 2015 by Ashley S
stillafool Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Maybe he's saying he doesn't like his girlfriend always taking the lead with affection. Maybe he wants her to fall back a bit and let him be the aggressor. Maybe he thinks that is her way of showing other women he's hers in his mind. Who knows, this guy sounds alot like your other friend.
smackie9 Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 He likes his freedom!! He likes variety! He likes attention without the obligation of commitment or having to make someone happy.
NopeNah Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 He's either gay or isn't that into her. It's hard to attract other interest when some chick is all over you. The others assume you are taken.
smackie9 Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 If I was a young good looking guy that attracted women everywhere I went, I would be like that too!
mightycpa Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Sometimes, all that attention can be annoying because a) the hangers-onners are not that attractive or b) you know you're not going to get any and/or c) they are interfering with welcome attention or d) because it is your girlfriend and you've had enough
smackie9 Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 It's obvious his GF's PDA was crampin his style. He's not that into her....she was just a steady supply of sex.
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