Author L0nleyDude Posted February 4, 2015 Author Posted February 4, 2015 ^Kudos for being honest with yourself, I think you made the right choice to wait if you don't feel 100% that it's the right thing to do. I do believe it is the right thing for me to send her the letter, like I said I can't seem to get her out of my mind even after 4 months coming up to 5. I think by sending the letter it will at least give me the satisfaction that I at least reached out one last time and the response or lack there of will be the kick in the pants I need to move on with my life. Part of me thinks I'm being selfish by doing this but part of me thinks this is what I need to do to help me in my recovery because NC is not allowing me to heal. I thought I was progressing well but these last couple of weeks it feels like I'm back at square one again. She really struck a cord with me
Mi7522 Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 I do believe it is the right thing for me to send her the letter, like I said I can't seem to get her out of my mind even after 4 months coming up to 5. I think by sending the letter it will at least give me the satisfaction that I at least reached out one last time and the response or lack there of will be the kick in the pants I need to move on with my life. Part of me thinks I'm being selfish by doing this but part of me thinks this is what I need to do to help me in my recovery because NC is not allowing me to heal. I thought I was progressing well but these last couple of weeks it feels like I'm back at square one again. She really struck a cord with me Hey Dude, most everyone on LS will tell you not to send the letter but it sounds as though you believe it will actually help you by sending this to her. If that is the case then do it! If getting a rude awakening is what you are looking for to help you out then I'm all for it. Just be careful what you wish for, what if she responds by telling you that you just gave her and her boyfriend a good laugh. Can you handle that? I'm not sure you can and if anything it may set you back further than you think. It is up to you though my man just really think it through based on logic not what your feeling. Good luck and keep us updated.
Author L0nleyDude Posted February 4, 2015 Author Posted February 4, 2015 Well here goes everything. I just sent her the email and I feel kind of liberated. Probably won't last long and I'm sure nothing will come of it but I went with my heart on this one and have no regrets
Author L0nleyDude Posted February 4, 2015 Author Posted February 4, 2015 Surprise, surprise. She did reply and now I have no idea of what do. Probably just over thinking things. I think I'll leave it alone but I feel much better. Thanks everyone for the advice I know I went against most all of your advice but I had to do what I had to do and I feel much better about it. My advice for everyone going through heart break is to do what you want but PLEASE make sure you have taken some time to yourself before so you don't do anything drastic 2
sober and dry Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 L0nleyDude you did what you wanted, as I did too, but there was a reason for people here disagree with that. The problem is, there is a very solid base for that advice. Think about it like a drug, it's as simples as that. You were off the drug for some time and started to get sober, at some time you slip and take it again, you will feel good after that, but as it goes away you start to have the hangover again... 1
RedButton Posted February 5, 2015 Posted February 5, 2015 Surprise, surprise. She did reply and now I have no idea of what do. Probably just over thinking things. I think I'll leave it alone but I feel much better. Thanks everyone for the advice I know I went against most all of your advice but I had to do what I had to do and I feel much better about it. My advice for everyone going through heart break is to do what you want but PLEASE make sure you have taken some time to yourself before so you don't do anything drastic Unless she explicitly asked you to respond, I would leave it alone now. You've said what you wanted to say and now it's off your chest. If you feel like you can be in touch later on, that's fine, but if you're not sure what to do right now I would go back to focusing on yourself. Glad you are feeling good about it!
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