Jl321 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Hey guys, my ex broke up with me a month ago. A couple days after we broke up she she told me she loved me and we needed to learn to be independent and that she was doing this for us. She left to her home country to spend some time with family. She told me she'd be back in a few weeks but that was a month ago. We haven't had any contact since. I'm missing her like crazy and the urges to text her or look at her Instagram get harder and harder everyday. I saw her douchebag cousin last night at the gym and he asked me how I was doing with this smirk on his face. I said "good" and walked away. We were completely infatuated with each other for 2 years. I miss her like crazy. I didn't think we could go this long without talking to each other. Everyday I hope that she'll text me but she doesn't. I'm trying my best to move on and I'll find myself saying every now and then that I don't need her and that I deserve better but she was great to me. I think she has GIGS but it doesn't matter cause she still broke up with me. I just want to better myself, reconcile, and have a fresh start with her. I don't know what to do at this point. Please give me some advice. Thank you.
hurts2death Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 this is gigs like my friend. this bitter abandonment cold frozen numb throw up feeling inside you is normal you best bet of two worlds(get her back + heal) is to go nc. i mean go dead mode
marcelo.santos Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Hi my friend - sorry about this! Dont contact her, dont see her instagram and avoid talking with her friends, relatives, keep doing exercises on the gym.... this is exactly what you are doing and you are doing your best! Keep doing the great job: NC My advise is to try to invest in you and do different things... try to met a different girls just to have fun... keep your mind away from this girl for now. If she contacts you is important to do not think that this means a come back. good luck!
JustDeadInside Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 I wish I had advice but I'm probably the lousiest person on earth to give advice right now. If my ex left me on the terms that he still loved me and was "doing this for us", I would probably have a very hard time not contacting him also. It's an unfair limbo but at least you still have your integrity.
Crampaholic Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 I get what you mean, but please try to stay strong and focus on yourself. Think about the relationship, there must be a reason, mistakes on your behalf? on her behalf? try to figure things out in order to find some peace. If you feel like you did something bad, then change it! but for yourself!. I'm glad you're working out, it releases endorphins and it will make you feel better, just try to work on yourself. Pain sucks but it actually helps you achieve change!. If it's meant to be, she'll come back, in a year, in more years... who knows. But for now try not to think about the future, think about the present... and remember she's not there with you. Try NC and be very strong... as time passes you will feel better.
Author Jl321 Posted February 3, 2015 Author Posted February 3, 2015 I'm trying man. Some days it's easier than others. I wake up and go to sleep and she's always on my mind. I was using Instagram for a couple weeks but so was she so last week I just gave up using it. I'm tired of putting up a fake image of me being happy knowing I'm not. It's hard for me to work, to eat, to go out and meet new people but that's where I feel the most free. This is definitely one of the biggest challenges I've faced in my life. Big changes are happening in my life. I can only embrace them.
Norajess Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 Hey guys, my ex broke up with me a month ago. A couple days after we broke up she she told me she loved me and we needed to learn to be independent and that she was doing this for us. She left to her home country to spend some time with family. She told me she'd be back in a few weeks but that was a month ago. We haven't had any contact since. I'm missing her like crazy and the urges to text her or look at her Instagram get harder and harder everyday. I saw her douchebag cousin last night at the gym and he asked me how I was doing with this smirk on his face. I said "good" and walked away. We were completely infatuated with each other for 2 years. I miss her like crazy. I didn't think we could go this long without talking to each other. Everyday I hope that she'll text me but she doesn't. I'm trying my best to move on and I'll find myself saying every now and then that I don't need her and that I deserve better but she was great to me. I think she has GIGS but it doesn't matter cause she still broke up with me. I just want to better myself, reconcile, and have a fresh start with her. I don't know what to do at this point. Please give me some advice. Thank you. Hi I'm almost into 4 months since my breakup, I believe my ex has GIGS too. he's dating his flatmate now, overseas for further studies. At this point of time I can advise you to keep working out, even if you see her cousin again, just ignore him OR at least pretend you're REALLY doing great. who knows he might tell your ex how good you are doing now? On the days when I feel down about this whole thing, I re-read inspiring threads here and remind yourself it's their loss, not yours. My ex was great to me too in our 4yr relationship and we were each other's first partner. So I guess I can understand what he's thinking now since he's in university he wants to have fun. To be very honest, I wish me and my ex would end up together as well but definitely not in this couple of years and not with his immature thinking. Let your ex experience this whole gigs thing so she can grow and become mature from it, They will have to learn it the hard way. Take this time to improve on yourself too, take up a new language or classes and don't check on her yet. You may want to read some of smokey_bear's threads, it explains to you what gigs victim are thinking! Take care!
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