JackJackxD Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 I am so angry right now. It feels like all the time I've spent with my Ex was a waste and that I've been played. I've been dumped 4 months ago out of a 2.5 years relationship, and we both agreed to have no contact. I've been in NC for 1.5 months now. So today I was out with a mutual friend of my Ex, and we were talking about me. I wanted to know what I could improve on in terms of being a better boyfriend and so I asked for her advice. I've accepted my part in the break up, and is trying to change things so they won't happen again in my next relationship. Whilst on the topic, my mutual friend told me that my Ex in fact did not see anything that she has done wrong in the relationship. My Ex basically could only see everything that I've done wrong, such as being immature, crossing her boundaries...etc. I then asked my mutual friend, "Did you not explain to her what she did wrong?". She then told me "She wouldn't listen to me anyways because she is so stubborn". She then told me about their conversation on relationships. My mutual friend said "I treat all my boyfriends nice, and try to make them feel like a king.", and my Ex then adviced her "You shouldn't do that! You should train them like you train a dog". After hearing that I was in flames. WHAT THE HELL!? So I was essentially a dog in her eyes whilst I was treating her the best I could? I prioritised her over everything, I cared for her the best I could. And all I got in return was being trained like a dog? I feel so disrespected, and that the entire 2.5 years with her I was just being toyed with. It also just proves the reason why every time we have an argument, she would just cut communication with me until I chase her back, because that is what a "dog" is suppose to do. I need to vent my anger out so much. I feel beyond disrespected even though those words were not said directly to my face. Grrr...:mad:
mightycpa Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 my Ex in fact did not see anything that she has done wrong in the relationship. My Ex basically could only see everything that I've done wrong, such as being immature Well, there you go. Everything you want to know is in that quote. I agree with you. You did waste your time. Your eyes were shut tight, and you believed what you wanted to believe. Now you know about one more mistake you made. Learn from it. If you learn from your mistakes, and she doesn't learn from hers, who will be better off? You shouldn't be angry, you should pity this woman.
Light Breeze Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 She then told me about their conversation on relationships. My mutual friend said "I treat all my boyfriends nice, and try to make them feel like a king.", and my Ex then adviced her "You shouldn't do that! You should train them like you train a dog". Tatoo that on your forehead it's a reminder that you dodged a bullet. Work on yourself and find someone else who actually wants a partner instead of a lapdog.
questionsforthenouns Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 I know how it feels to be disrespected in a relationship. And I know right now you want to just lash out at her, but dude, like the guy above me said, you should pity her. Just feel bad for her, because she sounds like a crappy person and she's not going to get very far with her attitude. You are lucky to be out of that situation. I know it's hard, I know it hurts more than anything. But she did you a favor man. Pick yourself up and move forward because you are better than that! Much better than her. Best of luck bud
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