Woggle Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 As long as both of you are of legal and consenting go for it. People need to mind their business and not worry about what other consenting adults do. 6
Moy Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 as long as both of you are of legal and consenting go for it. People need to mind their business and not worry about what other consenting adults do. dingdingdingding we have a winner, folks!!!!
The Mighty Quinn Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 You do realize the irony in asking people to mind their own business in a thread that asks people for their opinions of other people's business right? Anyway, who of us really "minds our own business" anymore when we are all looking at each other's fb pages, twitter accounts and letting our opinions be known on every topic conceivable. #EverybodyHasAnOpinion 1
Author Rko28 Posted February 10, 2015 Author Posted February 10, 2015 Last saturday I went up to her house to chill out, her whole family were there who I kinda know and I got introduced to them all. Was quite nice actually spending the afternoon with her. We are seeing each other again tonight, I'm worried as im literally just going with the flow here, I really do like her but the age thing is in my head so much. She would be so right for me if age wise we were closer. Im starting to worry ive got myself in to something I shouldnt have here.
Toodaloo Posted February 10, 2015 Posted February 10, 2015 Last saturday I went up to her house to chill out, her whole family were there who I kinda know and I got introduced to them all. Was quite nice actually spending the afternoon with her. We are seeing each other again tonight, I'm worried as im literally just going with the flow here, I really do like her but the age thing is in my head so much. She would be so right for me if age wise we were closer. Im starting to worry ive got myself in to something I shouldnt have here. Just take each day as it comes. Keep a bit of distance and take it slow. There is no rush here. The age thing is utter rubbish. What is important are your core values and how you value each other... I will say it again. Are you sure you are ready for a relationship? All seems a bit quick... 1
Author Rko28 Posted February 10, 2015 Author Posted February 10, 2015 Just take each day as it comes. Keep a bit of distance and take it slow. There is no rush here. The age thing is utter rubbish. What is important are your core values and how you value each other... I will say it again. Are you sure you are ready for a relationship? All seems a bit quick... Thank you. Im a bit worried what people are going to think, even though its all legal. Looking at us as strangers you would never say its an age gap relationship. Tbh I think I am ready, its like the last few months didnt happen, it all seems like a dream and it wasnt me involved. Feels so strange, shes completely dissapeared from my life, blocked on all social media etc, its like she never existed.
Author Rko28 Posted February 13, 2015 Author Posted February 13, 2015 went on a "date" with her last night, just to the cinema. Actually had a really nice time with her, great company and a lot of laughs. Ive seen her a few times this past week, think its been 3 or 4, all really nice. Shes really lovely and yesterday I even had a butterfly in my stomach moment with her...
blackcat777 Posted February 13, 2015 Posted February 13, 2015 My man is almost ten years younger and we have the most beautiful relationship. We did go through a "grass is greener" style breakup when he moved away to start college. I let him go, it was devastating, we spent a few months apart... He came back to me on his own and took the relationship to a completely different level once he realized that this IS what he wants. That's my only word of advice. When people are young and changing, absolutely support their freedom to choose (whatever those decisions may be), and be prepared to let them go if that's what it comes to. We have the most beautiful connection and I've never been so happy in a relationship. We practice acroyoga and spin poi together. When we go out dancing, people ask us all night if we're in love. There are a few family members he can't discuss the relationship with and it rips him up inside. I felt really mental about it in the beginning. I fell hard for him before I knew how old he was; we connected instantly. The BEST thing I did for myself was to make the decision to put all thoughts to rest about the age difference behind me, and just focus on respecting him like a man. There is definitely much to be learned from an age gap relationship. I adore my man for his perspective and he always has something so illuminating to add to our conversations. It often reminds me not to be so serious. Because it's critical that he makes his decisions for himself, I get to practice trust and respect in a huge way, which actually works wonders for building a healthy relationship. 3
Author Rko28 Posted February 14, 2015 Author Posted February 14, 2015 Thanks you blackcat. I've mentioned it to friends, they all seem on board and say to give it a go, he friends also the same. I'm a bit worried about telling my family (mother) I dont think she will approve at all. Her mum and Ste dad know we've been hanging out and I've met them. They seem ok about it
Tayla Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Your parents should be okay because as you said " I get on well with her, always have". So with that in mind, you've known her all your life and at the least "always gotten" along with her. Most mom's simply want their kids to be genuine when in a relationship. If that is where you are, so be it.
Noproblem Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 Just do what you have to do! What the point in denying yourself happiness because of age or any other reasons. Stay healthy, and in shape and you will be fine! If it worked good for you If it didn't work, at least you tried so you wouldn't regret it later! 1
Noproblem Posted February 14, 2015 Posted February 14, 2015 @TheMightyQuinn: The fact that I didn't even reference you in my post, yet you took the time to edit your post to include a long, manshaming paragraph directed at me speaks volumes. The fact that you try to rationalise older women away as 'empowered' and older men as 'the same old nonsense' and then proceed to ask a series of questions shaming men for allegedly not being able to relate to women their own age speaks even more. As for those questions: Who knows? Who cares? Maybe it's nobody else's business. Maybe those older men find those younger women more fun to be around than a 30-40 something headed for the wall, enviously and bitterly attempting to shame those men back into their perceived acceptable social construct through fear of their own aging process. As I said, it's nobody else's business. You too are shaming women for getting old Like they are an old rug You want guys to enjoy their life with younger girls Yet you call older women who do the same cougar and running into the wall Stop your double standards and maybe then women will stop theirs!
Author Rko28 Posted February 16, 2015 Author Posted February 16, 2015 Just do what you have to do! What the point in denying yourself happiness because of age or any other reasons. Stay healthy, and in shape and you will be fine! If it worked good for you If it didn't work, at least you tried so you wouldn't regret it later! Thank you, seems like a good way to look at it. We spent quite a lot of the weekend together, including valentines day evening. We both discussed being exclusive and agreed we would be. Its like a whirlwind at the minute.
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