Clawful Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 I have a rather large family, a lot of siblings. I don't really want to say it, but I feel like I often have to "compete" for attention. For those of you with large familys and busy parents, how do you get the closure and reassurance you need? Should I find a family member to connect with, like maybe my uncle? I hope this doesn't sound too shelfish. Link to post Share on other sites
hyrule Posted February 3, 2015 Share Posted February 3, 2015 I have a rather large family, a lot of siblings. I don't really want to say it, but I feel like I often have to "compete" for attention. For those of you with large familys and busy parents, how do you get the closure and reassurance you need? Should I find a family member to connect with, like maybe my uncle? I hope this doesn't sound too shelfish. It doesn't sound selfish at all...are you the youngest? I'm an older sister of 4, I used to find myself competing for attention as well. My dad worked tons of hours and my mother was a nurse and would come home very late somedays because of the work schedules, so whenever she or my dad were at home, me and my brothers would fight to pick their attention. Tbh, I grew past it...maybe because I'm the oldest so I left home for college, met my fiancé and stuff. How is it like in your case, do you feel your parents favorite one of your siblings? Link to post Share on other sites
CrystalShine2011 Posted February 9, 2015 Share Posted February 9, 2015 I felt the same way - I have 4 siblings and I'm the second oldest. Once I went away to college it was a little easier because I didn't have much time to connect with them but when I visit, it's difficult to fit back in! I would say - try to reach out first, and just show that you are there if anyone needs you. They will respond! Link to post Share on other sites
Tayla Posted February 9, 2015 Share Posted February 9, 2015 That competition in which you speak of is so common in large families. Its the dynamics of the family system that delegate ones position thru out life. I come from a family of 7 siblings and lots of half brothers/sisters. Thru Adulthood you will master the art of competing fairly by learning from the family system. You and Your siblings are each going to go your own way yet thru those years you will find memories and challenges to build upon. Staying in touch thru gentle ways...a letter, card, or phone call can build things....My one brother and I have a running gag each year, we wait two weeks til after our birthdays to send a card, then we tell them its early for next year. It's silly yet we seem to enjoy that little joke. Link to post Share on other sites
pink_sugar Posted February 9, 2015 Share Posted February 9, 2015 I am from a small family, but I feel my brother gets a lot more attention than I do. Good and bad. Everyone pays attention when he talks, but I often get talked over. Link to post Share on other sites
Sugarkane Posted February 28, 2015 Share Posted February 28, 2015 My mother is 1 of 8. Very common for large families. Link to post Share on other sites
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