Mif Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 If two people meet on a date, are physically attracted to each other and have (protected) sex on the first date; what is the public perspective on this? Are men less likely to respect a woman afterwards or not want further contact?
adiamond Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Really depends on the person or man. Some will be okay some will not. The usually more conservative/traditional, the less they will be open to have sex on first date.
organizedchaos Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 If two people meet on a date, are physically attracted to each other and have (protected) sex on the first date; what is the public perspective on this? Are men less likely to respect a woman afterwards or not want further contact? Who cares what the public perspective is on this? Why does anyone else need to know? All depends. My last ex and I had sex on the first date and were together for almost 3 years. 1
BeatsByDirk Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 It's hot, I don't think there is anything wrong with it. I've met a few couples who are married who have had sex after the first meeting. If it's heading that way it would seem sillier to stop than to just follow the natural progression just because cultural norms dictate that it's improper. Make your own rules, if you can go to bed at night with ease who cares what others feel.
confused594 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 (edited) What does it matter? You do what you want to do. We're all so worried about what everyone else thinks. But we should just do what we want to do. As long as we know they are clean then it shouldn't matter. If you want to have sex with someone...then do it. If you feel like they just want you for sex then don't do it. Its all up to you. Don't think that you're going to be some whore if you have sex with them. Edited February 3, 2015 by confused594
RedRobin Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 People have different judgments and sexual values when it comes to that... It varies. One thing I know for sure... it certainly ups your chances of coming across sketchy or dangerous people. Usually more of a concern for women than men... but I know of men who had some seriously bad incidents with women they didn't know well and had sex with on the first date... A friend of mine ended up being stalked, and when he tried to end it for good, she accused HIM of stalking and made up a lot of false charges... got a restraining order against him and dragged him through the courts for months... at hearings she never showed up to. I saw the email and text exchanges myself, so I know he had nothing to do with any of what she was accusing him of. I was his alibi on one of her accusations. Anyway, the justice system is rigged against men that way. Life is a lot better and drama free if you use your brain first...
kaylan Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 If two people meet on a date, are physically attracted to each other and have (protected) sex on the first date; what is the public perspective on this? Are men less likely to respect a woman afterwards or not want further contact? Depends on the connection and depends on the woman involved.
The Mighty Quinn Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 It might not be a matter of not respecting the other person. But you certainly kill some of the intrigue and mystery by sleeping with someone so early. In everything in life, laying a good foundation is key. You don't build a house by starting with the attic. You don't put wallpaper on the wall before you do the dry wall. You lay the ground work down first and then you get to enjoy the fruits of your labor...and the fruit of your looms. 1
rocketman122 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 I dont lose respect for a woman whod have sex with me the first date. I wouldnt let it happen though the first time. I dont push for it either. 2nd time is fine. But it depends on the person. If that person really wanted a ltr then of course not but if it was a newly divorced woman than i have no respect for those who want relieve themselves of the shackles of marriage buy getting some new kilbasa. I date only women who want ltr though. I lose complete interest in those who want to wait though. I just houdini and disappear.
The Mighty Quinn Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 That's probably for the best for all concerned rocketman, that you disappear on those who want to wait. They will only see it as confirmation that they made the right choice anyway and you are free to move on to someone that gives you sex in the time *you* have mapped out in your mind is good for *you*. 1
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