thecrucible Posted February 7, 2015 Posted February 7, 2015 You think after a month I should ask him why his not getting physical with me?? I assumed he was being polite and respectful. But yeh that's just my guess I don't know I'm willing to explore this as I believe feelings can develop and I do attached to guys over time. The strong chemistry hasn't worked for me in the past and I'm willing to try different things. Insanity is trying the same thing and expecting diff outcomes, isn't it? Whatever you want to do is the right decision. That's how I've learnt it anyway. I'm in the same situation as you at the moment. I told him that I just wasn't sure how I felt about him, whether we were friends or there could be romance. I didn't say the chemistry word though. Anyway, it freaked me out saying that but I was impressed by how he handled it. We are going to continue hanging out as friends whether it goes somewhere or not; and that we can both opt out any time either neither of us is feeling it. I'm glad I was honest with him without being hurtful. It's made things so much better for us going forward whatever happens. So maybe why not just delicately tell him where you stand with him? You can both then discuss how to move forward from now. And if he chooses to opt out then he has his get out right there. Maybe you can ask him why he's not getting physical as well? You know, straight from the horse's mouth... It won't be as scary as you think just to ask him. 1
Author lil_missy Posted February 7, 2015 Author Posted February 7, 2015 Hi crucible, Thanks for your encouraging post I hope things go well for you too! I think we just need to take it easy and not have expectations of how we should be feelings at any certain time as all relationships are different. I met up with my guy tonight. Tbh I was dreading it a lil bit coz I been thinking bout whether we are compatible and putting on much pressure on this young relationship. But when I saw him honestly all my worries just went away he was so cute and I was naturally attracted and we had a really good time. He even kissed me with more tongue just the way I like it! I'm not saying things are all roses now but I really think I made it worse when I'm not with him with all my paranoid thoughts. I'm just gonna try to enjoy it and not put too much expectations on him. 1
thecrucible Posted February 8, 2015 Posted February 8, 2015 I met up with my guy tonight. Tbh I was dreading it a lil bit coz I been thinking bout whether we are compatible and putting on much pressure on this young relationship. But when I saw him honestly all my worries just went away he was so cute and I was naturally attracted and we had a really good time. He even kissed me with more tongue just the way I like it! Aw that sounds good. Whatever feels right to you and keep me updated . Sometimes it's better to take a step back and see how he things go. Despite what people say, it takes time to figure things out with someone. To paraphrase Shakespeare, the path to true love never did run smooth. I'm not saying things are all roses now but I really think I made it worse when I'm not with him with all my paranoid thoughts. I'm just gonna try to enjoy it and not put too much expectations on him. You've got time and try not to put too many expectations on yourself either. If it works out, then great. If not, that's great too. 1
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