He disappeared. So angry and .

[Aphrodite151]

I feel totally blindsided by my "boyfriend" disappearing.

 

 

Last Fall, I met this attractive man and I allowed him to aggressively pursue me. I wasn't even totally into him, but he was soooo obsessed and so into me and attracted to me that I decided to give him a shot. I was so flattered and felt like a million dollars with him. So affectionate and loving.

 

 

However, although I resisted, he kept pressuring for a commitment and really seemed like he wanted to create a relationship and a life with me. I went along with all of this, but was a bit cautious at the same time.

 

 

I guess maybe I avoided some red flags that maybe he was just putting on a show to feed his own ego and get me to like him back, but he was so persistent over the course of five months that I eventually began to believe how much he loved me and how much he wanted to be with me.

 

 

A few weeks ago, after a particularly romantic night that he set up for me, I really truly believed that maybe I did love him and that maybe I should give the relationship a real chance. (I never told him this, but I was thinking it when I went to sleep with him that night).

 

 

The next morning I had work and we kissed goodbye. He had given me a bottle of perfume the night before and I thanked him for it. He kissed me and kissed my hand and we said goodbye.

 

 

That was the last time I have seen him. I reached out to him twice after that. No response.

 

 

What kind of crazy is this man? How did I allow myself to believe all of this crap? I don't want to think about him anymore and I want to move on, but I'm soooooooooooooo pissed! And I don't want to lower my dignity any more by contacting him again. I hate him. I hate him. I hate him.

 

 

I don't like this one bit. I didn't even like him that much when we started going out. I'm so bummed that this is what is happening. Its the worst.

[italiangirl03]

You commented on my one forum and I want to thank you for taking the time to do that, you and I are going through the same situation.

 

I have had my heart broken several times . I dated a man for 5 years and after one night of us being intimate he decided to never talk to me again, ignored my phone calls and I never heard from him again after 5 YEARS!.

All I have to say to you is.. this too shall pass

we need to be strong and fight this feeling together.

I don't know if we should contact them later in the future or just let time tell.

they do say let love go and if it comes back then it is meant to be.

 

I have started to pick up new hobbies, go out with friends even though half of them couldn't give a S***. This world is a messed up one.

 

Please private message me if you will & maybe we can show each other support when we need it the most or when we are feeling down.

 

Take care. Stay strong, be positive, have faith.

[Jessie1231]

This sounds so much like my last boyfriend. I didn't like him too much at first. Definitely wasn't that physically attracted to him, not a great sense of humor, was in the middle of a kind of messy separation. He just kept on and on though and eventually I believed him and decided I could care too. By this point we had gone on a few really romantic and amazing trips and I believed we would have a future. Nope. Once I was all in, he was gone.

 

I was sad for a bit afterwards, but like you the overwhelming emotion was anger. He worked so hard to convince me the relationship was a good idea, and he was gone almost immediately after I felt like it could work. I wanted to punch him and seriously consideree throwing a brick through his window. I've never felt so much anger over a break up.

 

I got through it by focusing on all the things I didn't like about him - and given that I had so many reservations about a relationship with him, there were plenty of negatives to focus on. I still have no idea why he did it, and I've given up trying to figure it out. All I can guess is that he likes the chase and has a short attention span.

 

So just remind yourself of all the reasons you didn't want a relationship with the guy. And maybe get a punching bag because that helps with anger too.