bjorn Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 So I broke up with my ex back in October it wasn't planned we had a conversation/argument some things were said and in short we both wanted different things so I ended it. It really pained me to do so as i really liked her and i was a mess for a bit. She would text me every now and then saying i miss you etc Which I wouldn't reply as i was trying heal also a bit rude i know. She sent me a letter back in December about how she felt also how I was special to her and remember the good times which I replied and said " thanks hope you're well and have a good new years" She saw me back in January on the street which she sent me a text asking how I was and "I didnt have to reply if i didnt want to" which I replied to. I then got a text last week from asking me to meet up if it was possible i replied with" i have to ask why?" which I've got no response that was last Monday. I just dont know what to do. What could she want? Thanks for any advice in advance.
privategal Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 I think the real question is, what do YOU want? If you don't value her friendship and the connection is gone, be very polite but just honest "Im in a different place and moved on and its best we don't get together" If you still have feelings, don't play any games just be real, be open, say what you mean and mean what you say. Don't overthink or complicate it. Spend a day or so thinking what she means to you and be real about it and then meet up or don't. Since she has tried a few times to contact, at this point if you don't want her too, ask her to stop kindly and mean it. Just be clear.
erklat Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 She is dumpee so she probably wants to get together, but with your replying you are also prolonging her pain because it instills false hope in her.
Kinetica84 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 So I broke up with my ex back in October it wasn't planned we had a conversation/argument some things were said and in short we both wanted different things so I ended it. It really pained me to do so as i really liked her and i was a mess for a bit. She would text me every now and then saying i miss you etc Which I wouldn't reply as i was trying heal also a bit rude i know. She sent me a letter back in December about how she felt also how I was special to her and remember the good times which I replied and said " thanks hope you're well and have a good new years" She saw me back in January on the street which she sent me a text asking how I was and "I didnt have to reply if i didnt want to" which I replied to. I then got a text last week from asking me to meet up if it was possible i replied with" i have to ask why?" which I've got no response that was last Monday. I just dont know what to do. What could she want? Thanks for any advice in advance. She either wants you back or she wants closure. Either way, only meet her if you want to see her.
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