6 month after ex left me heart broken...

[michael-034]

You're right. She does not care.. like at all.. And man that sucks, that stinks, but trust me when I say this what you are feeling will pass. I promise, I guarantee you this..

Stop acting like a little bitch and get your act together. You can do it man.

Cry, i don't care about the crying, man cry your eyes out.. cry like a little baby.. It's oke to let those feelings out.. But do this without her knowing.. I mean you are talking really crazy. You want to be deployed to Syria, get your head cut off, because you want her to feel pain? Man you must be crazy or something.. That's extremely immature and she probably won't care..

 

You'll find a new girl, you'll find new friends.. We at this forum her are your friends now.. We take the time to comment, to try to help you move on, take our advice. We actually do care about you and that slimy manipulative bitch does not.. She uses you..

 

You really can change, you can find someone who respects you and loves you, and who wants you.. You are her doormat now. She actually told you ''what's wrong with you''.. She does not respect you one bit.. **** that. You got to respect yourself man, that's the only kind of respect that matters, it's selfrespect.. Come on man what do you think is possibly going to happen. Snap out of this ****. Just snap out if. Even if you she wants you (which she does NOT), how is your life going to work out with her? You being her doormat, she ****ing other guys, you just paying rent and she getting angry if you ask her anything that's suspicious.. Come on man. It won't work out. You chased her for 6 month's. I chased my ex for 10 years, 10 freaking years man, imagine that.. 10 years, she was the first I loved. I got her finally, and lost her and just like you I would let her scream at me, **** me over many times, lie to me, abuse me emotionally, and I too with tell her she was the most beautiful thing ever and be there for her at 3 am in the morning.. And Im ok now (9 months post break up) I really am great actually compared to then...

 

And you ask what's wrong with you.. Let me tell you, you are addicted to a chemical called oxytocin.. Your brain is exploding with it.. Its like a druggy wanting to inject some smack in his system.. You don't want her to leave because that would mean you have to detox from this.. You are in love, it's like being addicted.. but good news is you can kick off.. You will too, just like me, but you got to cut all ties with her.. Just plain and simply tell her to **** herself for the way she's treating you. Do not contact her, do not call her, do not have her number , change yours.. Get rid of her.. Once you go 100% NC, you will go in withdrawal (wanting to contact her, call her, watch her pictures etc just to get that adrenaline-like rush) but once you kick off of her, you will see her flaws. I can tell you now.. She has many, many flaws..treating you the way she does..

 

And again: cry, be sad, be depressed even for a little while, it's acceptable.. But what is totally unacceptable is you acting like her doormat. There is no excuse, no excuse whatsoever for the way you've been acting. It's an absolute disgrace. but brother, you can still leave with your honor intact. Just do it. We care for you, and therefore we say this for only your health and your happiness: snap out of it and let it be. I promise you things will get better, I promise you. I give you my word on that.. Just let it be

[Kinetica84]

So, this is my story and any advice and help is greatly appreciated.

 

 

So, I am 25yr old and my ex 28, we was together for 4 years. It was a loving yet tough relationship, she has severe anxiety issues, which I struggled with, as she didn't belive anything I say or do, there was always an accusation.

 

 

Anyways, during the first 4 month, I tried so hard to get this girl back in my life cause I loved her, although she did not me or so she said.

 

 

I turned up at her house, many times to plead for this girl back. She let me in some times but I was sharp on my way walking home at 3am drunk most times after a cuddle and her saying she didn't want me and me leaving heart broken after breaking NC over and over again.

 

 

She even had me took away by the police one time, which really really hurt me, and I new that was it, it was over, I was scarred and hurting seriously so much, it was over and I had to accept it now.

 

 

But months down the line, we ended up speaking through whatsapp and FB etc, as she unblocked me from these sites.

 

 

One night she was drunk, she rang me upset saying she missed me and if I wanted to come see her, I accepted sober and went to see her, we hugged on the coach and she cryed, saying she missed me and she was soo sorry for what was done and we cant get back together, I refused the sex with her, I just cuddled to her really tightly.

 

 

After that night, her parents went away for 2 weeks, like the last 2 weeks, I have been going to see her, I even had sex with her but still, she drills it into my head, how we can not get back together she just cant do it, she has told me she is embarrsed of me, that's why no 1 can know im seeing her, which also hurt a lot.

 

 

I spent the last weekend with her at her house, watching movies, chilling hugging banter, she told me she just enjoys my company? I say, so you use me for your company? she replied yes, which hurt again.

 

 

She is still cold towards me, I show her love still and im very affectionate with my cuddles and kisses. I walk to her house, in -5 degree weather at 4am, whatever times she asks, I will go to see her.

 

 

But now my self esteem is taking a hit, why am I going to see this girl? She doesn't want me she says but yet will kiss me and hold hands and hug while we watch movies and laugh and have fun but wil not get back with me, I tell her its ok, I understand but im sooo confused. please, help me on this.

 

Hate to say it but you're her safety net.

 

She is getting all the boyfriend benefits without any of the commitment.

 

Next time she calls you or texts you just say im busy tonight, going on a date with a girl a met.

 

Okay we shouldn't lie about this but let her chew on that after playing mind games with you.

 

Move on bud, you're worth more than that.

[HowWillICope]

hey man, you can do what you like, you may think my story is full of ****, I am a human being who is in a deep problem, clearly my problems to not relate to you sir/madden and sorry that you can not relate, I hope this problem does not fall upon you, goodluck.

 

 

OKAY IM GOING TO GIVE YOU SOME TOUGH LOVE.

 

The reason people are leaving this thread is because they've TOLD you that you have a problem...you've ADMITTED you have a problem..BUT what are you DOING ABOUT IT???!!

 

"Guys I know I'm her doormat and puppet and she doesn't care about me but I can't leave her and can't build up the courage to block her"

Ugh.

 

GET A BLOODY GRIP!!!!!!!!!!

She IS USING YOU AND DOESNT CARE ABOUT YOU AND LATER WHEN SHE HAS OBVIOUSLY KICKED YOU TO THE CURB AND YOU'RE HURTING YOU WILL LOOK BACK AND KICK YOURSELF AND FEEL THE SHAMEEE.

 

This girl has no respect for you and never will. Why's that?? Because you DONT DEMAND ANY RESPECT!! You have ZERO self worth and she has you wrapped around her finger!!

You look like an idiot OP, really. Block her and tell her that if she doesn't want to be with you she can't have you and you want to go NC. She doesn't get to have you at her beck and call. Tell her you don't do sneaking around. Then BLOCK HER!!!

For a long time.

 

Because a girl like that knows what words to say to get you wrapped around her finger again. BE CAREFUL BECAUSE IT WILL BE A PACK OF LIES!

 

SHE TOLD YOU SHE WAS EMBARASSED TO BE WITH YOU SERIOUSLY OP GET A BLOODY GRIP!

 

Now for some soft love......

 

Look, I understand what you're going through. I understand that when you love someone so deep you want to do anything an everything for them. That's a fact. So I don't blame you for fighting for her. But don't you want someone who will do anything and everything for you?

 

Who won't be EMBARASSED to be with you but feel like the luckiest girl in the world??!

Who cares about looks? You can find someone who meets all your needs in every department if you just let go and be brave and leave this girl alone.

 

You need to develop your self worth and think about what YOU DESERVE.

 

I'm begging you because you honestly sound like a nice guy and very caring and you don't deserve this. You WILL find better if you just be brave and take a chance!

 

PLEASE OP. I'm begging!

Leave this girl ALONE. You will eventually see that as one of the best decisions of your life!!!

 

Good luck

[stellamaria]

Aww. This sucks.

 

But listen - you need to leave her. Please do it. And the reason you need to is because now, she's using you and it hurts. But while it hurts, there's still some hope. She's giving you just enough to keep you dangling. It's cruel, and she might not even see that herself, but probably she does.

 

She is obviously not happy either, otherwise she would have company that she wasn't ashamed of. Probably because she's not a nice person, so nice people don't want to spend time with her.

 

But - the main thing to KNOW is that she's building herself up right now, with your support, until the moment she meets someone she likes, and then BAM, she won't need you at all. And that will REALLY hurt. Way more than it hurts now, way more than it will hurt to block her off now.

 

I promise you, it is going to hurt you more. It's going to damage your self-esteem and self-worth more. Unless you cut her off now and then you get a bit of that back.

[KBarletta]

I am so sad, I feel like joining the army full time, just to be deployed in Iraq/Syria, just to make her feel pain of knowing i'm away forever.

 

Dude, instead of joining the army, just DISAPPEAR. Get a grip on yourself, walk away and tell her you're done, period. Then block her, don't contact her (AT ALL), concentrate on healing and becoming a stronger person. This is what you HAVE to do. What you are doing right now is getting you nowhere, absolutely positively nowhere. You need to leave her alone for a good long time and learn to live without her, that's the only way you will get out of this with anything resembling dignity. The only way I would ever contact her again is if she wants you back so badly that she practically breaks your door down.

[Chi townD]

Then please some one help me, I am crying right now and laughing at myself, I am so upset reading reality, everything ive read is true and I know it, and it hurts me so much. Love truly sucks man but I just don't know what to do, if I tell her, "Ok, we have to leave it here, I love you but I don't receive it back from you" I don't have the balls to block her on the apps we speak on, cause I am scared I will hurt her feelings. although she left me 6 months ago, ripped my heart in two, litterly and does on a daily basis of speaking with her through whatsapp.

 

 

She sleeps naked with me, she is not a slut guys, I know this woman. but it hurts so much, she hugs me and lets me kiss her some times but like I said earlier, I try to do everything for her, I tell her she I gorgeous and beatifull everytime I see her, continusally. I never have received a complement from her, only the reasons why she can not get back with me, always another reason why she cant get back with me but yet invites me down to spend the night with her or to watch a movie. I think she cares for me but she doesn't love me as she once did. I just don't know what to do, but I know to walk away is the right thing to do for me, and for her.

 

 

But I am worried to upset her, I don't want to upset her, although she was the one who left me and broke my heart.

 

 

Even tonight she tells me she is waiting at her house for a guy she works with, as she brings and takes him to work (he works in same place) she tells me how guys ask her out at work on dates etc, which also hurts.

 

 

She tells me we are single and its nothing to do with me, I am so upset.

 

 

 

 

Okay, lets take stock at what we know.

 

 

1. She broke up with you.

2. She's even admitted to you that she's using you for company and nothing more.

3. She's told you that she doesn't love you.

4. She has a guy come over to her home that she gives rides to and from work.

5. She's told you that this work dude has asked her out several times and has no problem hurting YOU to tell you this.

6. She tells you that you two are single and her choice of who she dates has nothing to do with you.

 

 

That about right?

 

 

Dude, she's using you because she didn't have anything set up when she pulled the trigger on your relationship. Therefore, she's using you to fill those emotional needs and; sometimes, physical needs until she finds someone else to fill that role. And trust me, she's looking. And as soon as she finds this new victim, you'll be tossed to the curb. THAT'S how she views you.

 

 

Until then, she's having fun seeing how much torture you'll endure. Like walking to her house in the middle of the night in sub-zero weather just for a frickin cuddle. Dude, she's pulling on the leash to see if the dog is still there and you prove to her EVERYTIME that the dog IS still there and is begging for any scrap he can get.

 

 

Dude, you deserve so much more. I promise you that there is a girl out there for you. And she's going to be perfect in every way. And here's the rub, she's waiting for you. She's waiting for you to find her. As corny as that sounds, it's true. This girl you're chasing after, she isn't it. And you'll never find the girl you're truly meant to be with if you're still hung up on a girl that's already told you she doesn't love you and admitted that she's using you for her own selfish benefit.

 

 

You stated about joining the Army to show her that she'll miss you. Dude, she doesn't care and if you're going to join the Army for that reason, then you would be doing it for all the WRONG reasons. So, put that thought on the back burner.

 

 

I think it's about time you take back your life and take back that power that you've given her over you. You need to start NC which means NO CONTACT! That means that you don't call her or text her. You don't email her or follow her on any social media and you need to block her on your Facebook. DO NOT RESPOND TO ANYTHING SHE SENDS! Don't worry about "hurting her" because you won't. The only thing is, remember that metaphor I used with the dog? Well, she'll pull on the leash and realize the dog isn't there. She'll go looking for the dog and try to bring him back on the leash. Don't do it. She's made it abundantly clear that you two are no longer together, so you don't need to explain to her about your sudden disappearance. You don't owe her anything. You are NOT her friend! I'm pretty sure you didn't get into a loving and caring relationship with her for the end result being that you are nothing more than a "friend" to her.

 

 

Now, you need to start working on YOU! Make positive changes in your life.You've already started working at the gym. GOOD! Keep doing it. If you don't have a degree, get one. Apply to University and go! A good education is going to open a opportunities for a better paying job.

 

 

Change your wardrobe and get a new hairstyle. Something people will notice and like.

 

 

Get new hobbies that you'll enjoy. With any hobby, there's usually a club in your area with people with a shared interest. JOIN THEM!!! So, join a men's football league, or cycling club, or running club. Take diving lessons, or a cooking course or photography course. Or join an adventure racing team. GET OUT THERE AND MEET NEW PEOPLE!!! KEEP BUSY!!!!

 

 

Then, travel! Go see the world! See different people from different cultures. Hell, get to London and hop a train going to Paris! See the Eiffel Tower and the Louvre! Go to Spain or Denmark! See something new and exciting! Think of a place you've always wanted to go see. Save up for the trip and GO!!!!

 

 

That's how you get your revenge! You lead a damn good and exciting life!

[heartache25]

So this morning, I got a whatsapp msg from her, saying she wish valentines day was over etc, I replied, pftt, it just another day for me now, no more hurt and no less, it will pass.

 

 

she then had a dig saying "Yeh, just im single and get nothing, nothing changes*

 

 

it made me mad. thinking, why your having a dig at me? You left me, 6 month ago, you broke me in two and after all that iv said in my previous replys in this post, I did a lot for her when she left me, made a idiot of mysef as all of your comments point out.

 

 

So I decided to go down the line of, well I have strong feelings for you still miss, but its not good for me, cause I want more from you, I want you back, I was the one who walked everywhere, I am the one who is trying to fix us while you left me.

 

 

we have been txting daily and I was sneaking to see her while her parents was away for 2 weeks, they are back and she wants to cut contact with me, even though I suggested it for MY feelings. Ive told her I want to be her friend but I cant right now, but I want to be but right now, I also want what I had, which she states, I cant have.

 

 

Thing is, she has turned it around for her again, it's her who is going to block me, its her who has blocked me on everything apart from whatsapp, and today, she will block me for good on that too and I feel hurt.

 

 

Should I take the intiatite and block her first?

 

 

She doesn't seem willing to want to try to fix, although she says we have tried many times to fix it and it doesn't work, the more I talk to her, the more I want, the more she talks to me, the more she wants and it doesn't work, we are causing problems for each other.

 

 

BUT...I've already said I dnt want her to block me, I want to be able to speak to her, I guess that was a last ditch effort to not lose her, which now I am thinking is dumb as ****!

Edited February 4, 2015 by heartache25

[Zahara]

Should I take the intiatite and block her first?

 

Yes, you should have blocked her 6 months ago. If you did, you wouldn't be where you are today, in the same damn spot.

 

 

She doesn't seem willing to want to try to fix, although she says we have tried many times to fix it and it doesn't work, the more I talk to her, the more I want, the more she talks to me, the more she wants and it doesn't work, we are causing problems for each other.

 

1) She doesn't want to be with you.

2) She doesn't care about you.

3) She doesn't want a relationships with you.

4) She doesn't like being seen with you.

5) She treats you like a dog.

 

There is nothing to fix.

 

 

BUT...I've already said I dnt want her to block me, I want to be able to speak to her, I guess that was a last ditch effort to not lose her, which now I am thinking is dumb as ****!

 

You cannot be friends. You cannot speak to her. It is over.

[KBarletta]

Please stop responding. Please block her immediately. You are only hurting yourself. As I said earlier, the only contact I would accept from her from now on would be her literally breaking your door down because she wants you back so badly. Anything short of that, ignore, block, delete, reject, move on.

[Chi townD]

Dude, did you even read my post? Did you read ANYONE'S post?

 

 

YES! Block her! Time to heal and move on!

[heartache25]

So. from starting this post, I still did not block her on whatsapp, to end the last source of commincation. Neither have I seen her since I created the post, I have tried speaking with her, she is cold towards me, hatefull, while I all I do is try to speak with her.

 

 

I got a little mad at one point and asked whats the point in keeping me on here to speak? She said she has a good heart and feels bad to delete me?

 

 

I said, you left me soon 7 month ago, totally destroyed my heart and soul, yet you feel bad to delete me from your daily and morning txts?

 

 

Anyhow tonight, I told her I wanted her to block me, pretty much after she made it clear, she wants to block me and get me away, I told her, and while typing out a pretty angry message, telling how I feel and how she has spoke to me, and treated me rudely and disgustlinly over the break up time, she already msged me saying "I don't need your lucky and I wish you all the luck in the world" and then she blocked me.

 

 

So now, i'm litterly blocked on everything, there is no way I can communicate with her easily, unless I email her or visit her house, which i'm not going to!!!

 

 

But even after she blocked me, and even after I wanted to block her, I still feel hurt that she blocked me, that's it. she is gone, i'm not going to chase her this time, *** that.

 

 

So I guess, even though up 6-7 month ago, and only start NC 15 mins ago, I will see her at a mutual family baby christening at the end of next month, both of us must attend, so whats the point in NC for me? Either way, im gonna be hurting through NC until the end of next month, where I will have to watch her at the front of a church and drink around her in the same pub all day. mannnnn...

[Chi townD]

So I guess, even though up 6-7 month ago, and only start NC 15 mins ago, I will see her at a mutual family baby christening at the end of next month, both of us must attend, so whats the point in NC for me? Either way, im gonna be hurting through NC until the end of next month, where I will have to watch her at the front of a church and drink around her in the same pub all day. mannnnn...

 

 

 

Unless you're one of the God Parents, you don't HAVE to attend. You can easily buy a gift and have a mutual friend bring it with him or her with a card.

 

 

Dude, you're like a dude that just got out of rehab trying to stay sober, but you're looking forward to your friends throwing you a welcome home party at a pub!!

[heartache25]

Unless you're one of the God Parents, you don't HAVE to attend. You can easily buy a gift and have a mutual friend bring it with him or her with a card.

 

 

Dude, you're like a dude that just got out of rehab trying to stay sober, but you're looking forward to your friends throwing you a welcome home party at a pub!!

 

That's the thing man, I am. She is god mother, my whole relationship with her was messed up from day one, I was a lonely guy, The first night I ever met her, she raged at me, crying, trying to attack me, she was pretty, I took her anyways I got hooked on her or fell in love with her.

 

 

My cousin, is dating her sister and has been for 12 years, that's we met, at my cousins (her sisters) world cup party 4 years ago. They had a 2nd baby, my cousin, wants me as a god father, her sister, wants her as a god mother.

 

 

She is best friends with my sister, through my relationship with her, my sister is due her firs baby in one week, I am the uncle, she is a very close friend of my sister, its another difficult situation, almost as much as the one of us both needed to attend a christening.

[Chi townD]

That's the thing man, I am. She is god mother, my whole relationship with her was messed up from day one, I was a lonely guy, The first night I ever met her, she raged at me, crying, trying to attack me, she was pretty, I took her anyways I got hooked on her or fell in love with her.

 

 

My cousin, is dating her sister and has been for 12 years, that's we met, at my cousins (her sisters) world cup party 4 years ago. They had a 2nd baby, my cousin, wants me as a god father, her sister, wants her as a god mother.

 

 

She is best friends with my sister, through my relationship with her, my sister is due her firs baby in one week, I am the uncle, she is a very close friend of my sister, its another difficult situation, almost as much as the one of us both needed to attend a christening.

 

Okay, then you put on your happy face. Because, if you strip it down to the bolts, that day isn't about you or her. It's about you being name the God Father to that kid and celebrate the day with your cousin.

 

 

Put on your happy face. Have fun, or look like you're having fun and when enough time has pasted, excuse yourself and leave! If she tries to talk to you, be nice and keep your responses to one to two word responses. She'll get the picture.

[heartache25]

Why is it 7 months later after all this, I still think of my ex daily? Not all day but she creeps into my ALOT still. A lot of my music keeps me thinking too. Is this cause we was seeing each other only a month ago? has this held me back to why im still wanting her back 7 months later?

 

 

We will spend the day together in 3 weeks at a mutual family christening, I'm thinking a lot on how to act, how will I be? (I don't know myself) I think she will see the pain and hurt in my eyes and face from just looking at me, she knows I am hurt, even if I act confident and that I don't care.

 

 

I want to be just friendly with her but its going to be really hard to not show any emotion towards her, that she wont be able to see.

 

 

Neither of us will miss the day as it's for her nephews christening, and it's my cousin. (I guess I should but he wont allow it)...Really sucks, I know either way, i'm going to leave that night hurting again from seeing her, I know she will smile with her friends.

[heartache25]

Okay, then you put on your happy face. Because, if you strip it down to the bolts, that day isn't about you or her. It's about you being name the God Father to that kid and celebrate the day with your cousin.

 

 

Put on your happy face. Have fun, or look like you're having fun and when enough time has pasted, excuse yourself and leave! If she tries to talk to you, be nice and keep your responses to one to two word responses. She'll get the picture.

 

It easier said than done, I wish it would be so easy. All my family is there, its my family christening, they would be so mad if left. From last month when we was seeing each other on weekends, she knows that I am hurt and that I wanted her back, how can I look only 1 month later that i'm not hurt, I will just come across as a a$$ hole to her?

[Chi townD]

It easier said than done, I wish it would be so easy. All my family is there, its my family christening, they would be so mad if left. From last month when we was seeing each other on weekends, she knows that I am hurt and that I wanted her back, how can I look only 1 month later that i'm not hurt, I will just come across as a a$$ hole to her?

 

 

You need to put on an Oscar worthy performance. Do your best. And when you fulfilled your obligations as God Father, you leave. Just go!

[lumberjac]

Why is it 7 months later after all this, I still think of my ex daily? Not all day but she creeps into my ALOT still. A lot of my music keeps me thinking too. Is this cause we was seeing each other only a month ago? has this held me back to why im still wanting her back 7 months later?

 

 

We will spend the day together in 3 weeks at a mutual family christening, I'm thinking a lot on how to act, how will I be? (I don't know myself) I think she will see the pain and hurt in my eyes and face from just looking at me, she knows I am hurt, even if I act confident and that I don't care.

 

 

I want to be just friendly with her but its going to be really hard to not show any emotion towards her, that she wont be able to see.

 

 

Neither of us will miss the day as it's for her nephews christening, and it's my cousin. (I guess I should but he wont allow it)...Really sucks, I know either way, i'm going to leave that night hurting again from seeing her, I know she will smile with her friends.

 

Time will heal the pain, trust me.

you only started NC not long ago so it is understandable that you still think about her all the time. My gf broke up with me a month ago and if I'm honest I still think about her everyday, but it's definitely not as painful as it used to be.

 

Give it some time, keep your life busy, and stick to NC, no message no social media. Then you'll be amaze how much better you'll feel in the next few weeks. No she won't leave your mind, but it won't affect you as much either.

[heartache25]

And things just got alot worse for me....Short story...She left me, I was heartbroken for every month, I still hurt to this day, I chased alot, disregarded everyones information on this, to go NC and to stop it in its tracks.

 

 

After months of chasing, we started seeing each other on weekends only, we slept together, hugged, eat meals and laughed together...But it only lasted a few weeks before I got ditched again. (Right back to square one, I thought there was hope)

 

 

So at around month 5-6 I have been in NC with her, pretty much cause I have no choice unless I want to email her which I don't want to

 

 

So the first problem is this with my current NC, we are both at a christening in one weeks time, she will stand infront of me smiling and I will feel hurt, I know It (I have to be there, its my family too).....I'm worrying so much on how ill act but i get strong feels like ( i don't give a **** what she thinks anymore, ill just enjoy myself!) but then i worry, maybe she will leave early, maybe i should?! then i think, why am i even worrying, she left me 7 month ago, what a b1tch, to hell with her! many mixed thoughts....

 

 

2nd problem is, i just got my first EVER job on contract 2 days ago! yay me! The problem is, there is only one route to where my work is, and it's the same route she takes to work in the morning!!!! in the last 2 days, i have drove past her at 9am as i am driving home, and she is driving to work!!!! first day we caught each other right away, just stared as went past....then seen her today! this time...i gave a little wave and she waved back.....She probally thinks i am creeping on her omg...I am only coming from work and it is the only way....

 

 

Sorry its alot of rubbish to read put on your special glasses cause this is gonna hurt to read

 

 

Also, things suck cause I still love her, maybe its cause I was seeing her just 2 months ago for a little while, my cousin tells me that she told him, that she still loves me but how can she ever love me, she done and said so much, so many dumb thoughts and its frustrating cause I fight my mind to let go..

 

 

I have many woman, many woman that want to sleep with me, they are asking me to come and sleep with them literally....But i cant...cause im worried id hurt my exs feelings if she ever new, why do i worry? im trying to wait until this next weekend after the christing cause i doubt ill see her again after that day/night .

Edited March 3, 2015 by heartache25

[Chi townD]

Okay, the thread title is 7-8 months since your Ex left, but you're not in NC. Hell, you even wrote that you've seen her about 2 months ago!

 

 

Dude, you NEVER gave yourself time to heal from this. And you constantly seeing her, talking to her and hearing from her, it's going to take you a HELL of a long time to heal from this. I bet dollars to donuts that you're still Facebook friends with her and or still follow he on social media.

 

 

Dude, you need to start a strict NC on her. Take a different route to and from work! And so what if it takes you 5 or 10 minutes out of your way.

 

 

Dude, it's been 7-8 months, time to finally start healing from this.

[heartache25]

Okay, the thread title is 7-8 months since your Ex left, but you're not in NC. Hell, you even wrote that you've seen her about 2 months ago!

 

 

Dude, you NEVER gave yourself time to heal from this. And you constantly seeing her, talking to her and hearing from her, it's going to take you a HELL of a long time to heal from this. I bet dollars to donuts that you're still Facebook friends with her and or still follow he on social media.

 

 

Dude, you need to start a strict NC on her. Take a different route to and from work! And so what if it takes you 5 or 10 minutes out of your way.

 

 

Dude, it's been 7-8 months, time to finally start healing from this.

 

I know I need time but im not getting any, we was in contact for a Cpl of the months since she left me, via txts and seeing each other...its been like 2 month now since we have last spoke and seen each other....I know its a long time since she left, I am trying my best to move on. I got my first ever job, I wake up at 4am to go to work, I ride a motorbike only, I cant take any other route to work, there is only ONE route to start going different directions...she has 2x ways to her work...

 

 

How can i start NC when im FORCED to see her in one week time? Its a mutual christening, both of us will be there....its the church during day and drinking on the night...

 

 

everything is just messed up, i want to move on man but i keep getting pulled back

 

 

She has me blocked on social sites and txts etc, i have blocked all her family and friends, ive even had to block some of my own family to stop myself seeing her.

 

 

I train at the gym 4 days a week, i try speaking with woman but always, my ex is still on my mind, ffs! this sucks so bad

Edited March 3, 2015 by heartache25

[mightycpa]

I have to be there, its my family too

WTF?

 

I have many woman, many woman that want to sleep with me, they are asking me to come and sleep with them literally

How about instead, you take the best looking and/or most ardent one to the christening with you? Lavish attention on her; stare into her eyes; kiss her affectionately; hold her hand.

 

But i cant...cause im worried id hurt my exs feelings

You won't. You're worried that you will, but you won't.

[gnick]

I don't understand the concept of have to do anything. I would just not go

[Kinetica84]

Dude, find the best looking girl of those who want sleep with and give her what for.

 

I'm not saying it will heal you but at least you can imagine yourself with other women.

 

Time to move on dude. I know it hurts but it has to be done.