JOkER2 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 How many dates does it usually take to have sex? In my expierence its always been different. I've been in relationships where I've had sex first date, second date, sometimes not for a few dates. All depends on the connection and comfortability. I ask this question cuz some of my friends say oh u gotta have it second or third date. And oh I always get it done by at least second date. But they are just flexing and trying to act like studs in my opinion. But I wanted to get an overall opinion.
smackie9 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 3 weeks to a month of seeing each other a lot. You can't possible really know someone after 3 dates IMO.
smackie9 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Just what I think: women need to feel an emotional connection before they have sex, and men more often need sex to feel an emotional connection.
salparadise Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Highly variable. Sort of like asking how many times you have to cast to catch a fish. Depends on the bait, the fish, and the phase of the moon.
RedRobin Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 (edited) Sex on or before the third date is still sex with a stranger unless you know them fairly well through work, school, or other activity where you see a lot of them and see how they interact with people. I don't have sex with strangers, nor do I knowingly date men who have a habit of that either. That's not a 'stud' to me. That's an idiot who has no self-control or discretion. To me it's the same as people who can't control their alcohol consumption, spending, or other vices. In fact, I don't think I've met a man in recent history who didn't also have issues in other areas of his life if he was also promiscuous. They all go together in my mind. Younger people (ie early twenties) get a pass often because they are just finding themselves and don't have much concept of boundaries. It sounds like you might be in that age group. Edited February 2, 2015 by RedRobin 1
Art_Critic Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 (edited) How many licks does it take to get to the center of her tootsie ? One... two... three..... There is no hard and fast rule and waiting doesn't guarantee a lasting relationship either. I didn't have sex with my ex wife till we had been dating around 3 months.. if my memory serves me right.. and let me tell you my 5 year marriage was a roller coaster of hell... I have also had sex with someone on the first date and the relationship lasted over 4 years... It's all about what feels right for both parties.. both parties come to some kind of handshake deal on about how long before sex happens and that is what both are comfortable with. Edited February 2, 2015 by Art_Critic
d0nnivain Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Your instincts are correct: it varies. Your friends are being immature macho posers. Some people have sex on or before the 1st date. Others wait until marriage. There is a whole range in between.
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