JonjMie Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Well day 27 NC and post BU getting better each day but still think about her and what she's doing, couple of things to discuss. I've been dating again, I've had two dates, really like the second girl and just chilling and that is all for now. However my red flag alarm is in hyper mode after the last break up and a couple of things stand out. The girl I'm going in a 3rd date with, I'm sure is broke, I don't really care about money but she went to the cash machine and then said something about not transferring money across from her accounts, she then said lets just go to yours and have a drink rather than go for a meal, and I also picked her up when it would have been easier to drive to my place as we were going out locally. She runs her own company and I know it can be hard, as I say, I'm pretty certain she's broke but don't want it to effect us going forward if there is potential, would any of you consider this an issue ? Secondly is more serious, I spoke with someone and mentioned the girls name, he remembered a news story about 5 years ago, I googled it and sure enough it's her, in short, and once again this is not her fault, her brother is doing life for killing her boyfriend in an argument, stabbed to death in a drunken brawl, she testified against her brother, of course she hasn't mentioned this yet. Thoughts ?
FailedFirstLove Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Run... U don't want more problems. Money issues will effect you later on when it gets serious. And. Mental issues.
marcelo.santos Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Regarding your NC, you are doing well in finding another girls, get involved in new issues to think about. Regarding the girls, there is nothing in my point of view that you should give up from these girls. Keep the red flags on as money and family are important for your decision - but I think that you should hear their stories from the girls. Probably the second girl will reach you soon to tell about her boyfriend killer brother - anyway it sounds creepy that you are getting a place from someone that got killed for being with this girl.
Author JonjMie Posted February 2, 2015 Author Posted February 2, 2015 Regarding your NC, you are doing well in finding another girls, get involved in new issues to think about. Regarding the girls, there is nothing in my point of view that you should give up from these girls. Keep the red flags on as money and family are important for your decision - but I think that you should hear their stories from the girls. Probably the second girl will reach you soon to tell about her boyfriend killer brother - anyway it sounds creepy that you are getting a place from someone that got killed for being with this girl. Your last paragraph doesn't read correctly but I will forgive you your English, he wasn't killed for being with the girl,meh was killed in an argument over something else.
fluidian Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Nice on the No contact - but I'd be freaked out about the girl. I realize that it can be hard to find someone, but you haven't been trying that long - I'd just let the new girl (with the killer brother) go - it's just not worth risking it, even if he's in prison...
marcelo.santos Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Your last paragraph doesn't read correctly but I will forgive you your English, Thank you! English is not my native language, nothing wrong in my point of view. I could try my native language with you, but I bet you only know 1 language: english.
Author JonjMie Posted February 3, 2015 Author Posted February 3, 2015 Thank you! English is not my native language, nothing wrong in my point of view. I could try my native language with you, but I bet you only know 1 language: english. Not true, I speak Polish and Welsh, and you need to chill out a bit, I'm not criticising.
mightycpa Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 I think you should make sure that her brother is still behind bars, and you'd better make sure she doesn't have any other brothers!
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