Jadedbyluv Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Earlier this week, I asked a guy I was dating if he wanted to attend a work thing with me. He never responded so I ended up going solo. A few days later, I sent a text joking with him about it. He said that he actually did respond, and I told him I never got any response . He said...ohh, i responded. Idk guess you never got it. (That's the text I got.) So I asked him what his response was anyway. And again never responded and still haven't heard from him. Why the games? Am I supposed to assume his non response is a no? Is he trying to send me a message? Because at this point, I feel like that's what he was trying to say. I get it if someone doesn't want to go or doesn't want to date me but why is it so hard to be straightforward? It is so frustrating.
rdet123 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Yeah I would say "SEE YA" to him! He doesn't sound like a guy that is interested..especially if he doesn't have the decency to respond to you twice. On to the next! 1
Author Jadedbyluv Posted February 2, 2015 Author Posted February 2, 2015 Yeah I would say "SEE YA" to him! He doesn't sound like a guy that is interested..especially if he doesn't have the decency to respond to you twice. On to the next! I gather now he's not interested but it's just disappointing that's how he decided to handle it. I know I can't place my expectations on someone else but do me the decency of responding. This what makes dating so difficult when people choose to just ignore you or stop responding. I hate that I have to be a mind reader and "get the hint" so to speak.
carhill Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Why the games? Basically, because human interaction of this type isn't a required, compelled or necessary function of existence so people do whatever they want to do. The only real compulsion involved is the inbred motivation to mate and make replicas and that, while perhaps meaningful, isn't necessary to survival. People's brains are organized and socialized differently so we each have a unique picture of ourselves and the world and, generally, we each think our self-portrait is the right one for us, even if it is wrong for others. Hence, his game to you may be, and likely is, his normal for him. It's simply a fit which doesn't work right now.
angel.eyes Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 A few thoughts: If someone is ignoring you, sending hurt texts--joking or otherwise--isn't going to suddenly turn you into a priority. It's pointless effort that only leaves you feeling worse whether he continues to ignore you or responds initially...as he did here. It's not about mind reading. Obviously, you got that he wasn't interested and didn't see you as a priority. Hence the message in the first place. Were there other signs that he'd lost interest--lack of date requests from him, fall off in communication, etc.? Getting your feathers ruffled over someone who doesn't care isn't productive. Relationships end. You can't mandate how people break up with you. Your opinion no longer matters to him. It's over--kaput, finito. Be thankful he isn't wasting your time stringing you along and focus instead on finding someone else.
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