writergal Posted February 1, 2015 Posted February 1, 2015 Um, it's been 3 months now that it's February that you initially asked her out for coffee. Time to call her (today before midnight) or tomorrow and ask her out for a day and time next week. If you wait until the last minute to ask her, she may already have made plans with someone else. You need to show a woman that you're interested (keen) for her to reciprocate any interest back to you (if she is interested). If you play the nonchalant card too much longer, she will interpret that as disinterest or flakiness from you. The direct approach is best. As the Nike pledge goes, "Just Do It."
Gaeta Posted February 1, 2015 Posted February 1, 2015 Well it's done now. I specified on a date and place just waiting for her to get back to me. Good job !!! Standing by to hear how it will unfold!
writergal Posted February 1, 2015 Posted February 1, 2015 Oh good job OP! I didn't see that you had asked her out before I responded. I hope she gets back to you soon. Good luck!
Author BritishBullDog123 Posted February 1, 2015 Author Posted February 1, 2015 Thank you for the support people As soon as I know you will know
elaine567 Posted February 1, 2015 Posted February 1, 2015 If you had called her up, you would know now, but well done anyway. Good luck!
Author BritishBullDog123 Posted February 1, 2015 Author Posted February 1, 2015 She palmed me off . Basically said she's working but will let me know if she gets off sooner. Time will tell.
writergal Posted February 1, 2015 Posted February 1, 2015 She palmed me off . Basically said she's working but will let me know if she gets off sooner. Time will tell. Well there you have it. She's not interested in a coffee date. Coffee takes an hour, minimum. What happened to her two weeks off? Sorry to hear, OP. That's disappointing. But it happens. Don't waste any more time on this gal. Look elsewhere. You will find someone else who wants to meet you for coffee. And next time, don't hesitate to ask the person out immediately with a set time and date.
Author BritishBullDog123 Posted February 1, 2015 Author Posted February 1, 2015 Well there you have it. She's not interested in a coffee date. Coffee takes an hour, minimum. What happened to her two weeks off? Sorry to hear, OP. That's disappointing. But it happens. Don't waste any more time on this gal. Look elsewhere. You will find someone else who wants to meet you for coffee. And next time, don't hesitate to ask the person out immediately with a set time and date. Yeah true but why say yes when you have no intention of committing? I despise stuff like that, if you don't want to then just say it's much more simple and easier rather than leave the other person cling on. I'm so tempted to message her on that day and catch her out just to p*** her off.
Gaeta Posted February 1, 2015 Posted February 1, 2015 (edited) Yeah true but why say yes when you have no intention of committing? I despise stuff like that, if you don't want to then just say it's much more simple and easier rather than leave the other person cling on. I'm so tempted to message her on that day and catch her out just to p*** her off. Because THAT day she probably felt like it but the invite never came in so she got interested into other things. Do you see the importance of acting clearly and promptly? If you had done so then back in December she would have declined a direct invitation and you would not have waited for 1 month for nothing. Edited February 1, 2015 by Gaeta 2
Author BritishBullDog123 Posted February 1, 2015 Author Posted February 1, 2015 Because THAT day she probably felt like it but the invite never came in so she got interested into other things. Do you see the importance of acting clearly and promptly? If you had done so then back in December she would have declined a direct invitation and you would not have waited for 1 month for nothing. I asked her for coffee during her 2 weeks off yesterday? she's just full of rubbish... That said if some how by an act of God she messaged me next week I would fall off my chair but I've accepted that won't happen. I'll bounce back by tomorrow 1
writergal Posted February 1, 2015 Posted February 1, 2015 I asked her for coffee during her 2 weeks off yesterday? she's just full of rubbish... That said if some how by an act of God she messaged me next week I would fall off my chair but I've accepted that won't happen. I'll bounce back by tomorrow Yes, I agree with this. She blew you off with a non-committal yes. But next time, when you ask a gal out for coffee include a specific date and time ok? Then there's no confusion for either of you. Glad that you will bounce back. 1
girl-in-boots Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Yeah true but why say yes when you have no intention of committing? I despise stuff like that, if you don't want to then just say it's much more simple and easier rather than leave the other person cling on. I'm so tempted to message her on that day and catch her out just to p*** her off. Maybe she despises men who play it cool? You're messing her around with all the 'play it cool, text after x amount of days' There's a difference between bombarding someone and letting someone know you're interested. I was in her exact situation with someone who I really liked, he texted to ask for coffee, I said yes and then he dropped off the face of the earth for a couple of days. Needless to say the next request for coffee was declined. You can message her on the day and maybe catch her out but the chances are she will just think that you are a major A**
Author BritishBullDog123 Posted February 2, 2015 Author Posted February 2, 2015 Maybe she despises men who play it cool? You're messing her around with all the 'play it cool, text after x amount of days' There's a difference between bombarding someone and letting someone know you're interested. I was in her exact situation with someone who I really liked, he texted to ask for coffee, I said yes and then he dropped off the face of the earth for a couple of days. Needless to say the next request for coffee was declined. You can message her on the day and maybe catch her out but the chances are she will just think that you are a major A** So when you were in this situation were you blunt in your replies and left not much to go off with your replies? Probably not.
elaine567 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Maybe she despises men who play it cool? You're messing her around with all the 'play it cool, text after x amount of days' There's a difference between bombarding someone and letting someone know you're interested. I was in her exact situation with someone who I really liked, he texted to ask for coffee, I said yes and then he dropped off the face of the earth for a couple of days. Needless to say the next request for coffee was declined. You can message her on the day and maybe catch her out but the chances are she will just think that you are a major A** Agreed. He who hesitates is lost. If you want to ask a girl out just do it, then and there. Make a date for a specific time and place. If you don't like her; you don't need to make another date. It is no big deal and all you have wasted is a bit of time and the price of a coffee. Nothing ventured nothing gained. Contacting someone days or weeks later, makes it seem like you have run out of other options and she will just do. No-one wants to be second, third or fourth choice. 1
Zippy2000 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Sounds exactly like my situation. Met her on August. She was with someone but ended around September but I didn't know. Found out she ended up on hospital on November and I messaged her and she told me she was single. Asked her out for a drink and like you still waiting. Odd how she sometimes texts me in the early hours in the morming. Only time will tell.
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