pioneer Posted April 1, 2005 Posted April 1, 2005 Iv been split up with my ex for nearly 6 monts, i still have loads of photo's and video footage of holidays that we went on. I am not over her yet, and from time to time look at these photos and it upsets me. I was thinking of burning them, or just putting them in a box, somewhere where i wont come accress them, which would be best?
tiki Posted April 1, 2005 Posted April 1, 2005 Out of sight, out of mind. You may want to keep them, but atleast put them away for a while! Like in a photo box in a closet of another room.
EC Posted April 1, 2005 Posted April 1, 2005 When I broke up with my first love I had like a million albums and loose pictures and memory trinkets and well we broke up on bad terms and I kept them for a while until they made me so miserable that I packed it all up and threw it away. Years later while moving I found an old album one that I missed and didn't throw away. Looking at all the pictures and memories didn't make me sad anymore. In fact it brought a huge smile to my face and I felt a pang of regret for throwing all the other ones away. I would say pack it all up in a box and put it somewhere in your closet where you wont see it for a while. Those are your memories good or bad. Moments in life that you will never get back. Dont burn them.
debs Posted April 1, 2005 Posted April 1, 2005 Packed all of it away and stored in a very obscure place. It is part of your history and in years to come it is funny to look back and say Oh I remember that!
Skeered Posted April 1, 2005 Posted April 1, 2005 Totally agree with what everyone has said here...I had old pics of my BF before I got married and my soon to be ex husband told me to throw them out said I wasn't with him anymore so I wouldn't need them...well I still regret that because there were some great memories in those pictures and now that he and I are no longer I told him to keep the pics of us (especially the wedding photos) telling him that my new guy might feel I don't need to have him around..hee hee bummer part about that is now he's keeping the photos of my daughter and her baby stuff that's not good. But back on track here..yes store those pics and videos up and if later they still make you sad put them away again...one day you will look at them and say those were good times..hold on to the good stuff...just my .02
pho88 Posted April 3, 2005 Posted April 3, 2005 Well they may have been good times but they'll always be in your memory. I wouldn't keep anything from a past relationship, my gf kept stuff like that in a corner but still very visible. It bothers me.
greenhorn Posted April 3, 2005 Posted April 3, 2005 Stuff them and keep them in some place where you are not able to see. You may want to see them a decade later when you can remember the time fondly, and when it does not hurts anymore.
moimeme Posted April 3, 2005 Posted April 3, 2005 I wouldn't keep anything from a past relationship, my gf kept stuff like that in a corner but still very visible. It bothers me. If you get worried about someone's past, it's because you fear she treasures it more than you. That's your issue to work on. She should have put the stuff in a box in the basement, maybe, but people should keep their memories and mementos.
moimeme Posted April 3, 2005 Posted April 3, 2005 Be a man and toss it in the garbage. He'll regret doing that one day.
newble Posted April 3, 2005 Posted April 3, 2005 no he won't, saving cards and stuff is what women do. guys need to move on.
moimeme Posted April 3, 2005 Posted April 3, 2005 Bah humbug. Your past is what makes you. It's not 'clinging'. Rather, it's about understanding oneself and one's life. You know, 'the unexamined life is not worth living'
westernxer Posted April 3, 2005 Posted April 3, 2005 You're referring to introspection, which isn't the same as holding onto something that doesn't exist anymore. You're supposed to confront your demons and grow from your experiences. Failure to do so is simply weakness. Making accommodations for ghosts from the past is tantamount to hoisting more baggage over your shoulder. Freedom is letting it go... all of it. Water under the bridge, that's all it is, because self-examination is more about personal progress... where you're at now compared to where you were yesterday. Unless you haven't healed completely, I don't see the point of hanging onto remnants of tainted love.
moimeme Posted April 4, 2005 Posted April 4, 2005 As part of confronting demons and growing from experiences.
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