xyzisnotme Posted February 1, 2015 Posted February 1, 2015 My pride is ruined! I can't get hired. I am dependent on her! No one will hire me! She said she did not know how much she luved me or how attracted to me she was! Then she says she does luv me and is... BS. But we never have sx. She refuses. I have always been considered a good looking guy and never had a problem getting women. Now my self confidence is shot! I don't know how to get out of this! There seems no way out. She will not go back to MC. 370
bathtub-row Posted February 1, 2015 Posted February 1, 2015 (edited) Why is it that you can't get hired? Have you considered starting your own business or getting into something like real estate? Not everyone has to work for someone else. As a matter of fact, it's a last resort as far as I'm concerned. As far as your wife not wanting to have sex with you, I'm not sure what that's about. But it's probably the current dynamics between the two of you that are causing a rift. Not very helpful, I know. I think if you pull yourself together with the work issue, things will improve. It shouldn't be that way, she should be supportive, but there may be other factors that you don't know about. You should probably talk about it with her. Edited February 1, 2015 by bathtub-row
d0nnivain Posted February 1, 2015 Posted February 1, 2015 How long have you been looking for a job? What are you doing? Sometimes getting a new job is a full time job in and of itself. You need to be on the websites every morning. Send out at least 5 applications per day. You need to network. Get back in touch with everybody you ever knew professionally & see if they have any leads. Attend industry meetings & conferences Go to every job fair in your area. There is usually at least one per month. Get the counseling / assistance available through your local unemployment office. I doubt your employment status has a lot to do with her attitude. However, you can try romancing her. Do things that are free / cheap: romantic walks, a picnic, run her a bubble bath, give her a massage. Also even though you aren't working, especially if she is, have you taken over the lion's share of the household chores? Yes I know that may seem like a role reversal but if she's the primary breadwinner right now you can't expect her to do all the chores. Appreciation & pitching it go a long way. Look around for an unemployment support group. There is one at many churches & you can find them on MeetUp If your unemployment benefits have ended & there is no money coming in, take whatever you can get in the short run. Commission only sales jobs are abundant: sell ad space, life insurance, Aflac whatever. It shows you have hustle.
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