amaysngrace Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 i am absolutely stunned at the callous (holier than thou) attitudes. WS is STILL a human being. and still the parent of your child. do you want to share your responses to your children: "mommy why did you not do anything?" "son he cheated on me so you no longer have a daddy because my pain of losing the M is greater than you not having a dad" entire religions are based on correcting mistakes. and that all A is. fine, the M is over but not to take some time out of your life to save a human being: call the police (in USA they can be placed in a facility for 72 hours), attend a therapy session or two. [i am withholding my disgust as i am hopeful the initial responses were done withOUT considering the ramifications] For me going to more meetings with him would have taken time away from our children (aged 6 and 7 at the time) who were dealing with their parents getting divorced and the life changes that brings about. He lived and treats them like crap to this day. So...
Radu Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 Shocking if you can be held for 72hs involuntarily by your family. It means that potentially if your SO manipulates well enough he/she can have you committed and use that against you in D/custody ... it may even impact your high profile job [if you have one]. I know for a fact that the NYPD used it to discredit someone who had proof of massive wrongdoing against them.
Spectre Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 One afternoon shorly after D-Day, my wife confided in me that she spent the morning thinking of killing herself. I wrote back. " What a coincidence, I spent the morning thinking about killing you too." Yeah... I got that email read back to me in a therapy session. lol. This is just pure utter gold right here. Be glad you got that read back to you, you got to re-experience the epic burn multiple times. You would of also gotten points if you instead said something like "what a coincidence, I was just thinking of how you f*cked other guys behind my back". 2
violet1 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 This is just pure utter gold right here. Be glad you got that read back to you, you got to re-experience the epic burn multiple times. You would of also gotten points if you instead said something like "what a coincidence, I was just thinking of how you f*cked other guys behind my back". Although I don't agree with you 90% of the time, I've come to appreciate your very cut and dry perspective.
Confused48 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 I'm conflicted. Shortly after Dday, I recall finding my WS in the fetal position, weeping. On many occasions. It was not staged. I say that bc I know WS was mourning the loss of the AP, not our M. Still, I felt such compassion for WS. What I wanted more than anything was to be able to comfort WS, to take away the pain. Yet if I heard WS was hit by a bus on the way home from work today, I'd never shed a tear. I'd be relieved to be done with WS and to never have to see WS again.
jbrent890 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 I'm conflicted. Shortly after Dday, I recall finding my WS in the fetal position, weeping. On many occasions. It was not staged. I say that bc I know WS was mourning the loss of the AP, not our M. Still, I felt such compassion for WS. What I wanted more than anything was to be able to comfort WS, to take away the pain. Yet if I heard WS was hit by a bus on the way home from work today, I'd never shed a tear. I'd be relieved to be done with WS and to never have to see WS again. If I saw my wife crying for her AP then I would immediately divorce her. I have the upmost respect for BSs that stay through that because I couldn't. All that does is reinforce the fact that the marriage isn't what they want. I'm not going to force someone to stay married to me. To answer the question at hand, if my wife attempted suicide as a means to keep me in the relationship, I would still leave. Personally, that comes off as blackmail. I would help in an indirect manner, but I would not personalky get involved.
Davey L Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 I would do anything to help someone avoid suicide. I have known two people who have committed suicide. It is awful to think of them being in such a state that they see no other way, and that if only I had known and done something I might have helped them and that they might be alive today. However in neither case did those two reach out to me or give any warning that they were planning suicide. It seems the trouble is that those who threaten suicide are those who use it to manipulate others but those that are serious just do it without a lot of drama. So I'd be sceptical if I found myself in the situation OP describes. But if I thought it was serious I'd stay and do what it takes to prevent the suicide.
autumnnight Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 I would do anything to help someone avoid suicide. I have known two people who have committed suicide. It is awful to think of them being in such a state that they see no other way, and that if only I had known and done something I might have helped them and that they might be alive today. You feel this way because you value human life, even imperfect human life. 1
DKT3 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 I would do anything in my power to help her thru that situation. The bottomline is, of all the titles she carries "mother of my children" is at the top. So for that reason alone I would and always would have laid my life on the line for her because of my children. 2
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