NopeNah Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 My concern is my family knowing I am on a dating site and I want to keep that private Tell your family to get off of tinder. 1
smg15 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Tell your family to get off of tinder. I was thinking they can find out without being on Tinder
NopeNah Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 I was thinking they can find out without being on Tinder Nope...All good.. It,to me,is a hookup site. I have a friend that met his girl on there,but I just use it to hookup.
smg15 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Nope...All good.. It,to me,is a hookup site. I have a friend that met his girl on there,but I just use it to hookup. Why is it so important they connect to facebook?
organizedchaos Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 I was thinking they can find out without being on Tinder Not unless they're on Tinder as well. This is what's infuriating about people making assumptions without a basic understanding of how something works. 3
smg15 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Not unless they're on Tinder as well. This is what's infuriating about people making assumptions without a basic understanding of how something works. Why is it important tinder connects to facebook?
me85 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Why is it so important they connect to facebook? Please go back and read my responses. I have already answered your questions. "they are affiliated with fb, they like joined up together to make it easy to match you with people nearby that are on tinder and who especially have mutual fb friends & interests (likes) on FB."
organizedchaos Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Why is it important tinder connects to facebook? To weed out fake profiles. It's not 100% perfect, but it's likely a real person you match with because it uses an existing FB profile to not only log in to Tinder and setup your profile, but also tells you if someone you're looking at has mutual FB friends and interests. Yes, people can setup fake FB profiles specifically for Tinder as well. And B, it makes setting up a Tinder profile with photos as quick as possible. But no activity gets posted to Facebook and it only uses your first name on Tinder. After that, you can fill in a brief bio about yourself if you want. You can set parameters for what you're looking for (gender, age, and distance from you) Swipe left on a profile to dismiss it. Swipe right if you like it. If that person happens to come across your profile because you fall within their parameters, and they happen to also swipe right indicating they're interested in you, you get a "match" notification and you can then start chatting with them. You can only chat with people you've matched with. Yes, some people do use it for hookups, just like any other OLD site/app. And some people use it to find relationships, just like any other OLD site/app. 1
smg15 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 To weed out fake profiles. It's not 100% perfect, but it's likely a real person you match with because it uses an existing FB profile to not only log in to Tinder and setup your profile, but also tells you if someone you're looking at has mutual FB friends and interests. Yes, people can setup fake FB profiles specifically for Tinder as well. And B, it makes setting up a Tinder profile with photos as quick as possible. But no activity gets posted to Facebook and it only uses your first name on Tinder. After that, you can fill in a brief bio about yourself if you want. You can set parameters for what you're looking for (gender, age, and distance from you) Swipe left on a profile to dismiss it. Swipe right if you like it. If that person happens to come across your profile because you fall within their parameters, and they happen to also swipe right indicating they're interested in you, you get a "match" notification and you can then start chatting with them. You can only chat with people you've matched with. Yes, some people do use it for hookups, just like any other OLD site/app. And some people use it to find relationships, just like any other OLD site/app. Im sitting here right now scared and staring at the "Login in with Facebook" Its been 10 mins and I haven't logged in yet lol
RedRobin Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Oh, the joy of having to weed through more than normal numbers of men who'd screw just about anything with a pulse. Sorry, I don't need to be associated with that... and if a guy does Tinder, that's how they'd appear to me. A skeevy whatchamacallit whose next STD is right around the corner... if they don't have one already. Folks may not like it, but that's the rep. Fair warning. ... and yea, it is effing creepy that they need your FB info too.
me85 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 To weed out fake profiles. It's not 100% perfect, but it's likely a real person you match with because it uses an existing FB profile to not only log in to Tinder and setup your profile, but also tells you if someone you're looking at has mutual FB friends and interests. Yes, people can setup fake FB profiles specifically for Tinder as well. And B, it makes setting up a Tinder profile with photos as quick as possible. But no activity gets posted to Facebook and it only uses your first name on Tinder. After that, you can fill in a brief bio about yourself if you want. You can set parameters for what you're looking for (gender, age, and distance from you) Swipe left on a profile to dismiss it. Swipe right if you like it. If that person happens to come across your profile because you fall within their parameters, and they happen to also swipe right indicating they're interested in you, you get a "match" notification and you can then start chatting with them. You can only chat with people you've matched with. Yes, some people do use it for hookups, just like any other OLD site/app. And some people use it to find relationships, just like any other OLD site/app. I did not know this...
smg15 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 So there is no phone talking right? Just texing and setting up a place to meet?
neowulf Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 so you set it up on your cell phone? Yes, it's just an app in your smart phones appstore. Like so; https://itunes.apple.com/au/app/tinder/id547702041?mt=8
neowulf Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 So there is no phone talking right? Just texing and setting up a place to meet? Not by default. Just messages back and forth until you guys decide you want to take it to the next level, by meeting or talking on the phone.
smg15 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Not by default. Just messages back and forth until you guys decide you want to take it to the next level, by meeting or talking on the phone. And when you are notified someone has interest do you have to go to the app to find out?
neowulf Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 (edited) And when you are notified someone has interest do you have to go to the app to find out? I believe the app just notifies you by default. It does on iPhone anyway. Kind of like when you receive a like on Facebook or whatever. How to Adjust Your Tinder Notification Settings on iOS: http://www.wikihow.com/Adjust-Your-Tinder-Notification-Settings-on-iOS Edited February 3, 2015 by neowulf
smg15 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 I believe the app just notifies you by default. It does on iPhone anyway. Kind of like when you receive a like on Facebook or whatever. How to Adjust Your Tinder Notification Settings on iOS: How to Adjust Your Tinder Notification Settings on iOS: 10 Steps When I tap on App settings this is what I see next Notifications New Matches Messages Moment Likes I don't see anything else
guest569 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Not unless they're on Tinder as well. This is what's infuriating about people making assumptions without a basic understanding of how something works. Exactly, why on earth have such strong opinions against something without having a single clue about what it is or how it works!! Very infuriating.
guest569 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Oh, the joy of having to weed through more than normal numbers of men who'd screw just about anything with a pulse. Sorry, I don't need to be associated with that... and if a guy does Tinder, that's how they'd appear to me. A skeevy whatchamacallit whose next STD is right around the corner... if they don't have one already. Folks may not like it, but that's the rep. Fair warning. ... and yea, it is effing creepy that they need your FB info too. So, don't use it. Why do you care? 1
guest569 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Oh, the joy of having to weed through more than normal numbers of men who'd screw just about anything with a pulse. Sorry, I don't need to be associated with that... and if a guy does Tinder, that's how they'd appear to me. A skeevy whatchamacallit whose next STD is right around the corner... if they don't have one already. Folks may not like it, but that's the rep. Fair warning. ... and yea, it is effing creepy that they need your FB info too. So, dont use it. And why do you care so much? 1
RedRobin Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 So, dont use it. And why do you care so much? I don't and won't. I just don't like seeing people misled into thinking it is anything other than a hookup site (mostly) just because a few people claim to find a relationship there and need to legitimize it as something else. If anything, it gives me and lots of other people an easy way to sort out men/women who do/prefer hookups... if they come across them elsewhere IRL and are honest about their use of it, so it is convenient that it exists. If that's the rep you want, go right ahead. No skin off my nose at all. Use it MORE, in fact. Keeps them out of MY dating pool. Just do us all a favor and stop BS'ing people here about what it really is.
kaylan Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 (edited) I don't and won't. I just don't like seeing people misled into thinking it is anything other than a hookup site (mostly) just because a few people claim to find a relationship there and need to legitimize it as something else. If anything, it gives me and lots of other people an easy way to sort out men/women who do/prefer hookups... if they come across them elsewhere IRL and are honest about their use of it, so it is convenient that it exists. If that's the rep you want, go right ahead. No skin off my nose at all. Use it MORE, in fact. Keeps them out of MY dating pool. Just do us all a favor and stop BS'ing people here about what it really is. Get over it and leave the thread if its no skin off your nose. No one is misled about Tinder. Its been said before, and Ill say it once again--the app is whatever you want it to be. I have yet to meet anyone who is this stuck up about use of the app though. And Ive known all kinds of people to use the app from conservative people who dont live in an area that makes meeting people easy...and promiscuous folks looking for a lot more fun options. Edited February 3, 2015 by kaylan 6
me85 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 I don't and won't. I just don't like seeing people misled into thinking it is anything other than a hookup site (mostly) just because a few people claim to find a relationship there and need to legitimize it as something else. If anything, it gives me and lots of other people an easy way to sort out men/women who do/prefer hookups... if they come across them elsewhere IRL and are honest about their use of it, so it is convenient that it exists. If that's the rep you want, go right ahead. No skin off my nose at all. Use it MORE, in fact. Keeps them out of MY dating pool. Just do us all a favor and stop BS'ing people here about what it really is. Do us all a favor & stop with all the judgmental, above it all attitude. What if people on here were calling you desperate or pathetic to have to even succumb to online dating because you couldn't find someone in your day to day who liked you...so then people assume you must be unattractive or something else not so nice that may hurt your feelings. You don't like tinder or those who use tinder, that's your prerogative but no need to be ugly to people who disagree. There are more than a few members on this thread that you have been very rude to & frankly, enough is enough with your disrespectful manner. 5
kaylan Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 (edited) Also, Considering RedRobin's age group, and her cultural background...Tinder isnt really meant for people stuck in an old school mindset about dating, nor those who look down their noses at how other people choose to date. One thing I like about Tinder is that its takes less effort to meet people. And I find that girls and myself are less quick to write someone off over some small silly "deal-breaker" before really getting to know them. I find that OKC and POF profiles do more to make me move on quick from someone. I like that with Tinder...both people decide the other person is attractive an interesting, and can jump right into a convo and see if there's a click. Much less time wasted waiting for message responses on the other sites...or sifting through profiles writing a lot of people off for little things. That all said, each site/app has its own use. For me, Tinder is for when I want a quick date, or a faster time-frame of meeting cool new people. My expectations are lower, and its more about having fun and striking up good convos. OKCupid is more involved and based on who I am, Im loads more picky about who I message. Longer profiles, more personal stats, and matching percentages influence how we all use the site. Its done much less for my dating life in more than 5 years, than what Tinder has done in a little over 1 year. Regarding POF...not much to say....the quality of woman seems obviously lower on that site...and many people dont even try to make an effort to be interesting. And actually POF had a reputation for a LONG time of being a place filled with low quality people, and easy hookups...despite it being advertised as a dating site. Hell, many times woman barely fill out a profile...or leave it black and just have pictures up. And Tinder has me seeing someone exclusively for the first time in 5 years since I broke up with my ex. Imagine that? POF failed, OKC failed, but Tinder has led to dates, hookups, and an exclusivity match all in much less time than the other sites Ive used. And Id say Tinder has combined the people you find in OKC and POF...yet I do feel I run into more OKC type women on the app. Edited February 3, 2015 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Edited last paragraph (request) 3
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