smg15 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 I notice this on women's profile in tinder quite a bit. What does "not looking for a hookup" actually mean in woman language? I would be a fool if I took these words literally, that has already become obvious... I believe it's a sneaky way to look like they are not looking for a hookup because what would be the point in posting that? I don't want a woman with missing teeth and ugly feet but I don't need to advertise because I know what I don't want. 1
smg15 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 It means "I'm not easy or a slut", or "I'm too old to play the FWB game". Or it's indirectly saying I been used by a guy for sex and don't want to make that same mistake again lol
guest569 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 (edited) Then they shouldn't be on Tinder. Everyone knows that's where you go for hookups. Even when you say you aren't, lol. They are trying to play the 'nice' girl thing hoping some naive guy will buy it and think they are top shelf. That statement for women is about as overused as the 'I'm looking for a relationship' statement that guys make online. Half of it is BS. If I found out a guy I dated used Tinder to meet women, I'd dump him.... and about not knowing Tinder is for hookups... That's partly what LS is for... to help people figure that out. ... for the guys... how many women that you've met (IRL, Tinder, or other online sites) actually meant it when they said that? Or did you end up effing on the first date anyway? Just curious. How.. If they say they dont want to hookup, believe them. Again, it is not a "hookup" site. It's what you want it to be Edited February 2, 2015 by smiley1 3
Author SmartDude Posted February 2, 2015 Author Posted February 2, 2015 Thanks for the info. I'd still dump a guy if I heard he was on Tinder before meeting me. I'm not into men who use hookup sites. I'd recommend any guy not wanting a woman for a relationship who does hookups to avoid getting too involved with women they meet there either. Those women can claim all day they aren't looking for a hookup, but if they are there, they are probably having them. Can't have it both ways. Just sayin. Which is fine with me. I'd rather those people stay off the legitimate dating sites. I'm glad that service exists for people who aren't looking for a relationship. There are people here who claim to have married someone they met on Adult Friend Finder. I've heard of people getting married to someone they met on Craigslist while looking for a hookup. If you and your current GF's values include possible hookups, or even started that way, then it is in line with Tinder's target market. Just don't be an idiot and say you aren't looking for a hookup if you are on there and want to be taken seriously. That's like walking into the meat department of the grocery store looking for a head of lettuce or claiming to be vegetarian. Sure, if you are just lost or desperate (hey! I heard you can sometimes find vegetables here!), then keep walking. Otherwise, ain't buying it. I like you. Your a feisty one... ...and very good insights all around in general.
me85 Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 They want to date or form a relationship. They're not looking for casual one-off sex. To Ward off sleazes. Tinder isn't just for hookups, its for whatever you want it to be. I've met guys on there who want marriage. I've met some who want relationships, some casual hookups, poly, etc. Exactly. I've been saying this over and over. It used to upset me that people were saying "people are on tinder just to have one night stands" RUBBISH! 2
Author SmartDude Posted February 2, 2015 Author Posted February 2, 2015 Something else I am noticing are the pics that have the actual girl: BUT JUST LOST IN A SEA OF HER FRIENDS IS THE ONLY PROBLEM! Literally, I have come across some profiles were I can't figure out who is the woman and who are her best friend(s), also in the pcture. Silly 1
mammasita Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 That's like choosing to go to an Italian restaurant for dinner and saying - oh but I'm not looking to eat any carbs. Ridiculous. She might not have gotten the memo about Tinder yet. 1
RedRobin Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 (edited) How.. If they say they dont want to hookup, believe them. Again, it is not a "hookup" site. It's what you want it to be It's a hookup site compared to the other possible online dating options, other than the truly 'out there' hookup sites like Adult Friend Finder or similar. If you are looking for a relationship, you don't go to Tinder, is all I'm saying. If you don't know what you want, or don't have the money for a paying site... maybe you do. What I gather from some of the other posts above is that lots of people who use Tinder don't know what they want, and like having the option (usually) of choosing a hookup. People who are serious about finding a relationship don't choose Tinder. Sorry, that's the fact. Edited February 2, 2015 by RedRobin
organizedchaos Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 If you are looking for a relationship, you don't go to Tinder, is all I'm saying. Except, you can. And people do. If you don't know what you want, or don't have the money for a paying site... maybe you do. What I gather from some of the other posts above is that lots of people who use Tinder don't know what they want, and like having the option (usually) of choosing a hookup. People who are serious about finding a relationship don't choose Tinder. Sorry, that's the fact. People who are serious about a relationship do choose Tinder. I just gave you an example of myself. I have others like one of my best friends who's been with his gf he met a year ago off Tinder. Sorry, those are facts. 5
me85 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 People who just hear bad things about tinder and haven't actually experienced it in any way, good or bad, definitely do not need to cut others down for using it. It's just as easy for a person to join other sites you have to subscribe to just to get into bed with someone lickity split and then on to the next. In fact, I'm sure a lot of people do that because it's the best cover, since everyone gullibly believes sites you actually pay for are full of wholesome, innocents looking for true love and nothing less. RUBBISH! There are wolves dressed up as sheep on those sites like there are anywhere else in the world. It's honestly easier for them to prey on the innocent more so on match, eharmony, Christian mingle...etc etc, than it is for them to prey on Tinder. Because a lot of people are wearing their hearts on their sleeves on sites the majority consider to be legitimate, such as match and eharmony. At least with Tinder you never know what a person is there for. You can't assume anything on Tinder. It's a free site for any and everyone looking to meet people of the opposite sex LOCALLY. It's a genius no matter what naysayers on here think. That's all I'm saying. 2
neowulf Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 I'll just leave this here.. "Is Tinder an app for dating, hook-ups, making friends or a game of good old fashioned judgment? The service might be popular because it delivers on all of those fronts." Who?s Really Using Tinder (and How Are They Using It)? | CIO 1
smg15 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Tinder seems like something for college students or for people 18 to 24 I have a job I work at 40 hours a week and don't have time to be randomly meeting strangers in my area
me85 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Anything can happen on Tinder, which seems to be the thrill of it all for most members. The creators of Tinder are brilliant masters of the entire industry of "meeting love interests with the help & beauty of technology."
smg15 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Anything can happen on Tinder, which seems to be the thrill of it all for most members. The creators of Tinder are brilliant masters of the entire industry of "meeting love interests with the help & beauty of technology." What do you mean by anything?
organizedchaos Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Tinder seems like something for college students or for people 18 to 24 I have a job I work at 40 hours a week and don't have time to be randomly meeting strangers in my area Once again, bad assumptions. I'm 43. My gf is 35. We both have full time jobs and we both have kids. If you have time to OLD, you have time for Tinder. In fact, it takes less time to setup and use Tinder. 5
smg15 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Once again, bad assumptions. I'm 43. My gf is 35. We both have full time jobs and we both have kids. If you have time to OLD, you have time for Tinder. In fact, it takes less time to setup and use Tinder. how do you set up tinder?
me85 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 What do you mean by anything? I mean that you may not think want serious, casual, life long, marriage, family...I have chatted with guys on there that were from one extreme to the next. It's wild. But it's not Tinder's fault that a douchebag or hoebag signs up on it and uses it just to hook up with a girl/guy one time and never talk to her/him again. That's that guy/girl's fault. 1
me85 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 how do you set up tinder? Oh my gosh, it's super easy and takes less than not even 5 mins. Go to your app store and search 'tinder' the logo is written in red and has a flame and download it. Once it's downloaded you go into it and it will ask that you sign in through your FB (they never post anything to your fb) they are affiliated with fb, they like joined up together to make it easy to match you with people nearby that on on tinder and who especially have mutual fb friends & interests (likes) on FB. You then choose pictures to from your fb to put up on tinder and write a little 'about me' under your profile and that's it! start swiping. left for no right for yes. You see their pictures and profile by touching their picture and decide if you like them or not. Again, left for dislike, right for like. Tinder on! lol
smg15 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 I mean that you may not think want serious, casual, life long, marriage, family...I have chatted with guys on there that were from one extreme to the next. It's wild. But it's not Tinder's fault that a douchebag or hoebag signs up on it and uses it just to hook up with a girl/guy one time and never talk to her/him again. That's that guy/girl's fault. so you set it up on your cell phone?
smg15 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Oh my gosh, it's super easy and takes less than not even 5 mins. Go to your app store and search 'tinder' the logo is written in red and has a flame and download it. Once it's downloaded you go into it and it will ask that you sign in through your FB (they never post anything to your fb) they are affiliated with fb, they like joined up together to make it easy to match you with people nearby that on on tinder and who especially have mutual fb friends & interests (likes) on FB. You then choose pictures to from your fb to put up on tinder and write a little 'about me' under your profile and that's it! start swiping. left for no right for yes. You see their pictures and profile by touching their picture and decide if you like them or not. Again, left for dislike, right for like. Tinder on! lol I don't use any dating sites asking me to connect my facebook page. My friends and family don't need to know my personal business
me85 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 so you set it up on your cell phone? Yes or ipad. It not for computer use.
me85 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 I don't use any dating sites asking me to connect my facebook page. My friends and family don't need to know my personal business Did you not see where I specifically said that tinder does not ever post anything to your facebook ? The only way for people you know - to know you're on tinder is if they're on tinder too. So how could they judge?
smg15 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 Did you not see where I specifically said that tinder does not ever post anything to your facebook ? The only way for people you know - to know you're on tinder is if they're on tinder too. So how could they judge? My concern is my family knowing I am on a dating site and I want to keep that private
me85 Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 My concern is my family knowing I am on a dating site and I want to keep that private Well that's the risk you take joining any dating site. Good luck to ya!
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