What did you learn from your first heartbreak?

[TheGagagirl1234]

Today I realized that a heartbreak isn't a bad thing; I actually learned many new things about myself and my needs as well.

 

Here's what I've learned:

 

• I now understand love better
  I know how to communicate better with other people
  I believe in myself
  I became a more active and positive person
  I've got a better hygiene
  I know what's good for me and what's not

 

What did you learn? Tell me your story!

[preraph]

Not to be so altruistic at my own expense. I wish I could say I learned to walk away when it as unrequited, but that is sadly not the case.

[GoldieLox]

I learned how to be okay on my own. It was a really tough lesson to learn after 7 years of being with someone, but it was something I had to learn in life.

[d0nnivain]

I learned that time heals all wounds & that I will live to love again. Sadly I had to re-learn that after ever heartbreak.

[RedRobin]

Meh, my first heartbreak was when I was 16. Hardly counts!

 

 

What I've learned from the ending of any relationship is not to take it personally. Half the time, their issues have nothing to do with me and are not anything I could fix... even if I wanted to.

 

 

Just move on and be happy to find someone who is more compatible. If there was deception or betrayal involved, I make sure that others that I know also are aware of this person's character so no one else is deceived in a dating situation.

 

 

If there was no deception or betrayal involved, I can be friends with them once the pull of physical or emotional intimacy has worn off. For me, that doesn't take long because I don't have a habit of staying emotionally attached to people who don't reciprocate... and again, I don't take rejection (too) personally. I just decide if their character and any mutual interests we shared is worth continuing to stay in touch with them. No sense throwing out the baby with the bathwater if they are a decent person.

[blueskyday]

I learned that two people can have a very different idea of their relationship. Just because someone is saying or doing nice things while in a relationship, it doesn't mean they are a good person or falling in love with me.

 

In other words, Ive learned not to take a small, isolated and positive thing and paint the whole of a person or relationship with it. I now say "that's great and very nice. Let's see how it plays out in the long run. Time will tell. "

 

I've also learned love in any form is pure and joyful, even if it doesn't come from a romantic relationship.

[Light Breeze]

Immediately after the heart break? I learned, never drink copious amounts of tequila and beer at the same time.