spiderowl Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 If you were getting to know a potential romantic partner and texting them, how often would you be likely to text? Would you deliberately restrict your texting so as not to seem too keen or to see what responses you get? What kind of messages would you respond quickly to and what would you leave for a while?
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 It's going to vary from person to person. You have to determine what your new person wants & is comfortable with. Personally I'm not crazy about texting. It's OK for Good morning; are we still on for tonight; or I'm running late but I despise long conversations via text.
Author spiderowl Posted January 31, 2015 Author Posted January 31, 2015 It's going to vary from person to person. You have to determine what your new person wants & is comfortable with. Personally I'm not crazy about texting. It's OK for Good morning; are we still on for tonight; or I'm running late but I despise long conversations via text. Makes sense. I expect people will have different ideas of what is about right. 1
Gloria25 Posted February 1, 2015 Posted February 1, 2015 Depends... I might tolerate a text every day, but it would be short like "hope your day is going swell" and a smiley emoticon/emoji. But nah, don't need/require it every day. One now and then to let them know they're on your mind is ok, but don't need to do it every day. I prefer texting over phone. I just can't stand the periods of silence and trying to figure out what to talk about over the phone. Also, texting allows me to multi-task. I can respond quickly if I'm at work and/or while I'm doing ten things - w/o having to make you wait all day/night.
Heatemyheart89 Posted February 1, 2015 Posted February 1, 2015 I would say contact them everyday /every other day .
d0nnivain Posted February 1, 2015 Posted February 1, 2015 I would say contact them everyday /every other day . It really depends. If I guy I just started dating contacted me every other day I'd run. I would feel smothered. You really have to judge based on the needs of the people involved.
MissBee Posted February 1, 2015 Posted February 1, 2015 If you were getting to know a potential romantic partner and texting them, how often would you be likely to text? Would you deliberately restrict your texting so as not to seem too keen or to see what responses you get? What kind of messages would you respond quickly to and what would you leave for a while? There is no science to it for me. The measure is of how normal and easy it feels. If I like you and we're connecting then I won't be freaked out by lots of messages or long phone conversations. When I like a guy convo tends to flow easily when we're connecting and there is chemistry. I don't need to calculate how long I should wait or how many messages to send, it just flows organically.
Author spiderowl Posted February 2, 2015 Author Posted February 2, 2015 It sounds like some of you would be unhappy with more than one text a day, but surely it seems a bit pointless if only one message? I think I'd feel he wasn't interested and was only keeping in touch with me as a back-up.
d0nnivain Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 It sounds like some of you would be unhappy with more than one text a day, but surely it seems a bit pointless if only one message? I think I'd feel he wasn't interested and was only keeping in touch with me as a back-up. Different strokes for different folks. Our varied reactions to the same behavior doesn't make the behavior or the reaction right or wrong.
amaysngrace Posted February 2, 2015 Posted February 2, 2015 It depends on if they actually had something to say. I don't want some guy I'm just getting to know text me a lot during the day like all he is doing with his life is thinking about me. I'd think he was weird. 2
Broom Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 You really have to judge based on the needs of the people involved. True. Building on this means you need to evaluate the desires of the other party. Some people will like being texted every day and some won't mind if you text every 3 days. It all depends. What one person considers clingy, another might think you're not interested.
acrosstheuniverse Posted February 3, 2015 Posted February 3, 2015 I like texting for building up the relationship between dates. I prefer texts to phone calls overall because I like that I can still be doing other stuff at the same time, I appreciated that a lot when I was working all day and night, but even now I have evenings off from work I still think I'd prefer the majority of contacts to be texts or facebook messages. But when it comes to just getting to know someone, it doesn't have to be a huge amount. Enough to stay in their peripheral vision, and to keep them interested in you between dates, not so much that they feel smothered, or suspect you have nothing better to do, or that you have no other options. What that exact number is will depend entirely on the individual. I've had relationships start with 100 texts a day, that was too many, although at the time I gave as good as I got and had the time to. My current relationship was 2-5 texts to one another each per day at the start, which is more appreciated by me. It's enough to stay in each other's thoughts and look forward to, but not so much it impinges on other stuff. A little mystery and excitement is cool at the beginning. A guy who was going entire days at a time without messaging me or who was sending one stock text 'hey, hope you have a nice day!' per day would lose out to someone who showed a little more interest in me, not that I think they'd be too fussed about that. If they were fussed then they'd be in touch a lot more, although I respect someone's chosen method of contact too (e-mails, facebook messages and texts are all one and the same to me).
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