mightycpa Posted February 4, 2015 Posted February 4, 2015 I just feel that all of a sudden I'm getting mixed messages. She is younger, she was out with her friends partying all day. I don't really like to see that in the first place but I am trying to understand she is younger and I did the same thing at her age when I was single. Oh, bohica. You've approached this one all wrong. I wonder how it is going this week. My observations: CTFD! (Calm the **** down) what do you mean "when I was single" ??? That is telling, what they call a Freudian slip. She had plans with her pals. You went to a party at your pal's house where she knows next to no one. Think about that for a second. You seriously expected her to choose your friend over hers? Then, you're texting "I miss you" while she's laughing and cheering and doing jello shooters and you want her to stop and have a tender moment with you? She's in party mode, and given that she chose to be in party mode, that won't happen. She probably couldn't hear the phone ring, couldn't feel it vibrate either. Your text was totally inappropriate to the situation, and it subtly confirmed that your party was lame. Her lack of response confirmed she was having a great time. You lost that skirmish in the battle of least interest. She was probably somewhat hung over the next day, I wonder how you handled it. You should have texted her and asked her if she wanted you to bring her your #1 guaranteed hangover cure. Save your sappier sentiments (the subject of this thread) for when you see her in person. You know what worked for me in getting girls I liked? I looked at things from their point of view, and tried to understand what made sense. You might want to start putting yourself in her shoes, and if you care for her as much as you think you do, you might CTFD and cut her a little slack. From the "meet me and my friend for dinner on Monday" comment, I can see she's not moving forward at the same speed you are. She definitely likes you, but she's including you in HER stuff, not joining you in yours. You are taking this badly, when it is in fact an opportunity. You've got a fun girl on your hands who is not afraid to go out on the town. Maybe you really want a girl with no/few friends and no/few plans who can just jump right in with you and leave her life behind no problem. Or maybe you need to date someone who is as jaded by the party scene as you are, and is more suited to holding hands in the park and brunch in the rotating restaurant in town. You should think about that carefully. You may not like this one's lifestyle enough.
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