slovek Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 (edited) So my crush was the one who asked for my contacts. I chat to him a bit about food on watsapp n then after he ignored me and didn't answer my question. 1 week later I started to work again and he tried talking to me first and mention the convo we had and answered my question voluntarily. Talked about tea. After I got home i message him I got him this tea, I will give him tomorrow and he ignored me. Next day I ask why he don't reply, he said he want to save battery n switches phone off. Anyways throughout work he would come up to me to talk to me. Then end of the day, we ended up going to the train station together. So the other day at work, I saw him talk to this girl who is tall, and funny. She dont seem interested though, more like annoyed with him, but her reply was funny and he laughed at her and I was so sad. My self-confidences dropped really low and I just wanted to hide. It was the end of my work too, so I was able to go home .. then he came up to me, and I told him, I will show him my design another time and that its not nice. (I told him before I saw him flirting with another girl that I would show him in the end of the day). Afterwards, I walked really fast to the lift and he followed. Then he ended up waiting for me outside work which I didn't expect and I was so plain with my answers, he thought I had no confidences in my design to not show him, but I just told him its not that nice, and that I show him next time. Its not something for him to copy, since its just a jewellery I made. Anyways, I am sad and also I have this low confidence in myself and I tend to compare myself to other woman especially funny girls. Edited January 31, 2015 by slovek
preraph Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 I'm afraid he's not really interested in you. But he doesn't want to be too rude, but he has been kind of rude letting you know he's not really interested. He doesn't want you to think he's a bad guy though, and he's trying to support you in your work. But he's definitely drawing a line in the sand past which he won't go with you.
Author slovek Posted January 31, 2015 Author Posted January 31, 2015 thats sad to hear if hes not interested, why does he keep trying to talk to me, and wait for me after work?
preraph Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 Being just friendly, I imagine. If it was romantic, he'd be a lot more responsive. He may know you're crushing on him and just be trying to be nice without misleading you. Of course, it's possible he has a girlfriend and is trying not to do anything wrong there as well.
Author slovek Posted January 31, 2015 Author Posted January 31, 2015 thanks preraph. I appreciate your opinion. I guess he doesnt then, and it does make sense.
preraph Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 Why don't you ask him if he's got a girlfriend just for fun. If he has a girlfriend, he could just be being a good boyfriend not flirting.
Author slovek Posted January 31, 2015 Author Posted January 31, 2015 He doesn't have a girlfriend. He hasn't exactly flirted with me at all before, but he did accidentally touched a bit of my bottom part when I walked backward all of a sudden and he was behind me, he said sorry though.
spiderowl Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 He's interested in you, but not enough to bother too much with texts. Most guys will flirt with girls so him showing an interest in someone else might not be that significant. However, be careful here because he may be seeing someone and not telling you or have a few girls that he's interested in. I don't think his interest level is anything to do with whether you are attractive and interesting or not. He's engaging in conversation with you and waiting to catch you for a chat so he definitely finds you attractive and interesting. If he messes about and is inconsistent, it may be that he's interested in several women, including you. You need to think about whether you want someone who is pulled in different directions.
Author slovek Posted January 31, 2015 Author Posted January 31, 2015 Thanks spiderOwl, I tend to give up if im an option compare to other girls, since I have low self-esteem. I know I shouldn't compare myself and have self-respect and believe I deserve love and to be loved by someone. But in the end, it makes me sad to be an option. I rather find someone who will accept me and not reject me. I do enjoy talking to him though so I find it hard to not be friends but I also find it not possible to be friends and not develop feelings for him, so i'm in trouble.
Author slovek Posted February 7, 2015 Author Posted February 7, 2015 Just to update anyone whos interested, he told me, he cannot stop thinking about that girl who he is flirting with and that he likes her. I was so dissapointed and sad hearing that.
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