Gaeta Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 I guess I just don't see why that info is relevant. Then I will explain again what I said a few minutes ago. She is upset because her friend died? if yes than the boyfriend is insensitive and in the wrong for not supporting her and comforting her. She is upset over something trivial, she has a history of being a drama queen, then boyfriend is simply not jumping into her game. So yes, knowing what happened to her friend yesterday that is making her this depressed is an important detail. 4
d0nnivain Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 I think she just feels attacked. Everyone is making such a big deal out of what she said. It WOULD be hurtful for someone to act the way her bf is acting. Why is this so hard to understand? It has also been repeatedly suggested to her that she TELL her BF that his behavior is upsetting her but she insists that he's just supposed to know she's upset. So I have taken issue with her for getting mad at him because he is not correctly reading her mind. If she is still so upset today over something that happened yesterday she really needs to tell her BF that because I don't know too many men who would be able to figure that out for themselves. Also we have asked why she is still upset a day later to figure out if it's justified; if it is serious that makes since. If her friend looked at her sideways, perhaps her reaction is over the top. The Devil is in the details. If she tells her BF & he still doesn't care about her feelings, then yes her BF is a jerk & she has every right to be mad but pouting because he isn't reading her mind is wrong. 3
Diezel Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 I guess I just don't see why that info is relevant. Let's just say there are two scenarios: (1) Her friend posted something on Facebook about a party all of their friends were invited to and Winterina didn't find out until those pictures. (2) Her friend had a close relative die. How are these two contrasting scenarios NOT relevant to the situation? In one, I'd be the guy singing in the other room. In the second, it could very well be considered insensitive. Not knowing what she is upset about is heavily weighing on the gravity of the situation. What you are basically endorsing is that the idea that a partner should just not be able to emote any positive emotions at all while the other is depressed over WHATEVER it may be. The fact that the OP gave no solid answer right out the gate, lends me to believe that it is something so completely not worth this thread at all. The case could be the contrary but the responses by the OP would indicate otherwise. TL: DR - It's completely and absolutely relevant.
evanescentworld Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 It has also been repeatedly suggested to her that she TELL her BF that his behavior is upsetting her but she insists that he's just supposed to know she's upset. So I have taken issue with her for getting mad at him because he is not correctly reading her mind. If she is still so upset today over something that happened yesterday she really needs to tell her BF that because I don't know too many men who would be able to figure that out for themselves. Also we have asked why she is still upset a day later to figure out if it's justified; if it is serious that makes since. If her friend looked at her sideways, perhaps her reaction is over the top. The Devil is in the details. If she tells her BF & he still doesn't care about her feelings, then yes her BF is a jerk & she has every right to be mad but pouting because he isn't reading her mind is wrong. ...Is she old enough to be posting....? 2
regine_phalange Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 I somehow envy you for having this guy singing Lionel Richie when you are depressed. 2
evanescentworld Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 .....'Easy on Sunday Mor~nin'.....Huuuuh!" 1
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