Rileycat Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 I was seeing this guy for close to a year. We work for the same company. He was very immature and has a huge ego. During our time together I could always tell he had feelings for me that he didn't want to admit to. I could always tell that he would try to put on a act which is VERY immature. He would always stare at me or look deep into my eyes when we talk. He remembered things about me and my life that I didn't even think he noticed. So I figured yeah this guy tries to put up a tough guy front. He would always tell ppl that I am crazy and way more into him than he is me. Usually what would happen would be that the ppl would meet me for themselves and form a totally different opinion of me much to his dismay. Ive cut him off a few times an each time we would talk again it'd be because HE reached out.I always felt like he wanted to create the image that I was chasing after him. Idk just seemed like he wanted to look cool to everyone (immature). He's almost 30 btw. His close friends told me that he's used to having his girls wrapped around his finger. After awhile I cut him off. I deserve someone to love me and be man enough to admit it. I see him very often and sometimes he's very playful and sometimes he just tries to make general conversation. I wished him a merry Christmas and he was very rude about it. I decided to change my number and take him off of social media. I've seen him many times since then and he is still doing things to get my attention and make conversation. I'm very short with him. There are times when I don't even respond. Still it never fails, Just about everyday he tries to get me to talk to him. He literally does anything to get my attention whether it's talking loudly so I'll notice he's around or making a loud noise when he walks near me (seriously). One day he said hi and I said hi back but I moved to sit somewhere away from him. He seemed to be in a bad mood after that. Which was weird because jeez I said hi back!! After I tried the friend route with him and he was disrespectful I figured ah whatever I'll just ignore him. I thought he didn't care so I'm surprised that it's been FOUR MONTHS and everyday I ignore him and he still tries. I kinda want to ask him like what's his deal but then again when I wished him a merry Christmas he was rude so I don't necessarily know if the friendly route is the one to take. I could always tell him to beat it but as childish as he is, he'll just turn that into a bigger situation. So why not just ignore him right?? BECAUSE HE HARRASES ME EVERYDAY. Don't get me wrong I care a lot about him but I won't be going back to someone who doesn't have respect for women. I want a one woman man who's respectful. My sister says I should explain to him what he's done wrong but shouldn't a grown man recognize his mistakes?? Like why would a guy mistreat a girl and then talk to her like everything is ok?? Like has any woman ever had to explain to a guy what they did wrong? Is it normal for a guy to try like he is after telling everyone that I'm crazy and more into him than me?? Is he a narcissist?? Is this what guys do when they feel stupid for screwing someone over??
mightycpa Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 Split the difference with your sister. Give this guy the feedback that he deserves, and tell him that he blew it with you, and you're telling him this so that he has a chance with the next one. Tell him only a true friend would be so blunt with him, and he now needs to make a choice between friendship or no relationship at all. Win-win!
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