me and my ex need some

[panda238]

We have been together 4 years and we both loved each other, I can be distant, we was planing on moving in and I think that scared me, we broke up twice for a month each time before, both ended up sleeping with other people.So 4 weeks ago we broke up, I was being distant playing games, doing college work and being a dick to her, she kept saying she was going to spend time with me but then not because I wasn't paying attention to her and yes this break up is my fort I said get out of my house if your going to not spend time with me and I'm blindsided to what I've done to her, we had an argument and I told her I should of cheated on her when I had the chance, we didn't speak for 2 weeks she rang me drunk and told me can I pick her up and saying she loves me, so we spent the next two days with each other, I then again spent the day doing course work, she went out and said I'll be back later to stay, she came back and said I cant do this (we didn't get back I keep saying we aren't getting back messing around) she kissed me and said I love you bye. I left it like a idiot, then she kept trying to meet up with me but I was doing college work, then she sent me message saying I don't think we are going to work and I said ok bye this was a week later, she keep messaging me and I kept telling her to leave me alone, then last Saturday it hit me Ive been a cunt and I love her and I need her, so I told this and said everything to her and she said look my life's a mess I need to straighten things up before I can even think about us, I said ok, we talked then I she blocked me and stop talking to me, so I said ok, I love you and I understand if you ever want me back there's going to be a ring here for you, she told me she had sex with someone else a week after we broke up and I know it's because I said I wished I cheated on her, she keep messageing me saying I can't keep you out of my life, so I said look ethier stop talking to me or meet me, we meet up she came back to mine and talked and fell asleep together(no sex, no kissing), next day I spent the day with her, we was kissing and having a good time but she wouldn't get back with me, we was planning for the future like what we should do in a couple weeks time and months, then we are London spending the day with each other I go do you love me and she says yes quietly, but nothing happened after that, next day I drove her to work she was still kissing me but she was going back on her plans to spend Sunday together, I was like ok, she hasn't messaged me since its been 3 days Ive been sending her love messages, and I asked her best friend whats going on and her friend says look she needs some space to get things straight and you overwhelming her with all these messages, she needs to think straight, she isnt thinking about getting back with you, she's just trying to think straight, if you love her and care about her give her some space, I said ok it's hard but I will, can you tell me what she said about us spending the day with each other and she said it was nice but she is slightly annoyed because you kept asking for her back, I said oK. Look Im worried this is the girl of my dreams I love her so much and I don't want to lose her her, she's so amazing and I'm scared and need to know what's going to happen, she won't even talk to me now, I wish she would just tell me she doesn't want to get back or something, she said the other day when I picked her up before I picked her up she doesn't love me and can never see us getting back, and when I propose kind of she then started to seem interested but now she isnt taking to me any sorry if I'm rambling on I just can't stop thinking about her,

[d0nnivain]

Seriously, were you drunk when you posted this? It's a rambling garbled mess & needs paragraphs & punctuation.

 

From what I gathered, you are both young & still in school. When you study & don't pay attention to her, she pouts & ends the relationship. You let her. Then you chase after her. Now you are broken up, at least in name, and your mutual friends are telling you to give her space. That sounds like a great idea.

 

You both need to grow up & learn drama does not equal love or even caring. When you can be calm, peaceful & secure in a relationship, then & only then should you think about moving in together.

[mightycpa]

take a good hard look at whatever you wrote down in that wall of text, and understand whatever you did to cause the predicament you find yourself in right now.

 

then see if you can do better with the next girl

 

I don't need to put a fork in you to know you're done, my friend.

 

Time to pick up the pieces and move on. It will probably be easier if you can avoid her. Don't forget to say goodbye before you go, and be sweet about it, and apologize if you did something really crappy. Otherwise, don't even bring it up.

[Kinetica84]

We have been together 4 years and we both loved each other, I can be distant, we was planing on moving in and I think that scared me, we broke up twice for a month each time before, both ended up sleeping with other people.So 4 weeks ago we broke up, I was being distant playing games, doing college work and being a dick to her, she kept saying she was going to spend time with me but then not because I wasn't paying attention to her and yes this break up is my fort I said get out of my house if your going to not spend time with me and I'm blindsided to what I've done to her, we had an argument and I told her I should of cheated on her when I had the chance, we didn't speak for 2 weeks she rang me drunk and told me can I pick her up and saying she loves me, so we spent the next two days with each other, I then again spent the day doing course work, she went out and said I'll be back later to stay, she came back and said I cant do this (we didn't get back I keep saying we aren't getting back messing around) she kissed me and said I love you bye. I left it like a idiot, then she kept trying to meet up with me but I was doing college work, then she sent me message saying I don't think we are going to work and I said ok bye this was a week later, she keep messaging me and I kept telling her to leave me alone, then last Saturday it hit me Ive been a cunt and I love her and I need her, so I told this and said everything to her and she said look my life's a mess I need to straighten things up before I can even think about us, I said ok, we talked then I she blocked me and stop talking to me, so I said ok, I love you and I understand if you ever want me back there's going to be a ring here for you, she told me she had sex with someone else a week after we broke up and I know it's because I said I wished I cheated on her, she keep messageing me saying I can't keep you out of my life, so I said look ethier stop talking to me or meet me, we meet up she came back to mine and talked and fell asleep together(no sex, no kissing), next day I spent the day with her, we was kissing and having a good time but she wouldn't get back with me, we was planning for the future like what we should do in a couple weeks time and months, then we are London spending the day with each other I go do you love me and she says yes quietly, but nothing happened after that, next day I drove her to work she was still kissing me but she was going back on her plans to spend Sunday together, I was like ok, she hasn't messaged me since its been 3 days Ive been sending her love messages, and I asked her best friend whats going on and her friend says look she needs some space to get things straight and you overwhelming her with all these messages, she needs to think straight, she isnt thinking about getting back with you, she's just trying to think straight, if you love her and care about her give her some space, I said ok it's hard but I will, can you tell me what she said about us spending the day with each other and she said it was nice but she is slightly annoyed because you kept asking for her back, I said oK. Look Im worried this is the girl of my dreams I love her so much and I don't want to lose her her, she's so amazing and I'm scared and need to know what's going to happen, she won't even talk to me now, I wish she would just tell me she doesn't want to get back or something, she said the other day when I picked her up before I picked her up she doesn't love me and can never see us getting back, and when I propose kind of she then started to seem interested but now she isnt taking to me any sorry if I'm rambling on I just can't stop thinking about her,

 

Have to be honest mate, i don't think you really love this girl, you just think you love her.

 

By the sounds of it you had control of the relationship by acting like a "cunt" and now you lost that control and now you feel out of control.

 

If you truly loved her then you wouldn't have ever have played mind games or messed around. I think you're in love with the idea of the stability a relationship can provide. It's like, "i like you but not that much, so i'm not busy or feeling lonely you can come round. When i'm busy leave me alone and don't bother me"

 

I'm a London boy to, hence my directness but it also an honest opinion based on what you said.

[myheartaches]

It looks like she was wanting you to Fight for her. It did seem a little cold...