CM2009 Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 Hey L/S family I have a situation that I wanted to bring to the table. I have a co-worker who I have liked ever since I met her 2 years ago when I moved back to home city in Charlotte, but I was already in a relationship. We would occasionally flirt around but nothing came of it, then finally last December she texted me and asked am I seeing anyone because she is interested. Mind you at this time my ex and I had already broken up, so I'm happy as can be and I said no. So we started seeing each other outside of work, going on dates, dinner and etc. Last week we were on the phone having a real nice talk and she tells me that she really likes me, loves the fact that I have been courting her like a gentlemen and all is right with the world, hell I was able to meet her 4year old daughter. This past Saturday we were out for lunch when one of our co-workers pulled up beside us, saw us and I pulled off because we really wanted to keep things like this under wraps. So anyway the girl I'm seeing was not happy that we were spotted, so after that night she has been hella distant, not calling, nor texting and not responding to my msgs. By the way we work as field reps and we rarely go into the office. So I know she has been on FB because I saw that she made a comment on a mutual friends page, so I she's alive but just has not contacted me. What's the deal, did I do something wrong?? Thanks in advance.....
Satu Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 From what you say I can't see that you've done anything wrong... Give her some time to get in touch before you next contact her.
Author CM2009 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Posted January 29, 2015 Mannnnnn I'm sitting here literally dumbfounded and trying to retrace anything that I might have said or done *shrugs* 1
Satu Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 If you can't think of anything, it probably means that there's nothing to think of. 1
preraph Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 The coworker already saw you, so it seems odd you were hurrying to pull off since the damage was already done. Could she be pissed you don't want anyone at work to know? I mean, you said she was upset about it, so I didn't think so, but otherwise, seems like the only other reason could be she's afraid to lose her job and is going to stop seeing you. But if so, she could easily have just had that talk with you. Is there any possibility the coworker who pulled up beside you was stalking either you or her and is another work love interest or post work love interest?
Author CM2009 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Posted January 29, 2015 (edited) Nah, she was the main one upset that we were spotted. We laughed about it at first then when we talked later on that day she was not happy. The person who pulled up along side us knows a dear personal friend of mines so it was not to worried about that.... Edited January 29, 2015 by CM2009
Author CM2009 Posted January 29, 2015 Author Posted January 29, 2015 And when I saw the lady who saw us, we barely spoke on it. She laughed and said "oh your speaking to me today?" Wasnt nothing serious it was all for kicks and even told me don't trip no one's gonna know anything....
ComingInHot Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 What are some of the reasons that a person would not want anyone to see them with someone they are in a relationship with to the extent they introduced their SO to their Child? Work prohibits inter office dating She has something she is not telling you Her family would object Her friends would tell an X ????
Author CM2009 Posted January 30, 2015 Author Posted January 30, 2015 It's weird cuz she has been straight up with me before hand....
Satu Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 It's weird cuz she has been straight up with me before hand.... It looks like something changed in her world. Its most likely nothing to do with anything you've said or done. 1
Author CM2009 Posted January 30, 2015 Author Posted January 30, 2015 Possibly, my thing is if there is an issue just call me, tell me. I just hate the fact of bein led on then all of a sudden nothing. We're all adults here, say what's up and give me that at least. But hey some times you don't get that and I understand how that goes
Winterina Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 "she tells me that she really likes me, loves the fact that I have been courting her like a gentlemen" Sorry to point this out but while you were "courting her like a gentleman" you were in a relationship, right? It would not make me like someone, but distrust them and cross them off... Maybe she started having some feelings and realised what she was getting into?
Author CM2009 Posted January 30, 2015 Author Posted January 30, 2015 No, just dating, talking, getting to know one another to see if something can become of it..... Nothibg official at that time
Author CM2009 Posted January 30, 2015 Author Posted January 30, 2015 " It would not make me like someone, but distrust them and cross them off... So your saying by me courting her, that scared her off?? I just want to make sure I'm comprehending this correctly?
Winterina Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 So your saying by me courting her, that scared her off?? I just want to make sure I'm comprehending this correctly? Im saying that if you were courting her while in a relationship with someone else, she might get an idea that you were not a trustworthy guy. She might fear that you might start courting others while you are with her... Like, EA with someone else
Author CM2009 Posted January 30, 2015 Author Posted January 30, 2015 Im saying that if you were courting her while in a relationship with someone else, she might get an idea that you were not a trustworthy guy. She might fear that you might start courting others while you are with her... Like, EA with someone else Ohhhhhhhh I gotcha now, ok I stated in the opening that I was broken up with my ex gf by that time. Yeah I liked her but out of respect for the person I was seeing I didn't purse it.......
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