What are your thoughts

[dreanfunk]

Hello everyone- new hear and would like your advice please.

 

My ex gf and i met in august last year, i run a few nightclubs and she popped along for an interview for a job we were advertising at the time( she got the job)

We are both in our late 30s and hit it off straight away. Within weeks we both had fallen hard for each other, she worked at one venue while i worked at another nightclub, we would met after work had finished and spend a couple of hours together on weekends. She lived about an hour away from my work and i would also see her twice in the week.

Things were really good for a while. We split up november my fault not hers, i pushed her away and ignored her while being quite selfish. I done these things due to me being insercure at the time and after having a horrible break up from about 2 years ago in the same work environment. She told me and warned me she would break up with me if i did it again and of course i did. I hurt her and she needed a man not a boy who could be there for her. I tried to get her back by explaining things to her about why this had happened, but she said i had hurt her too much and i should have explained earlier in the relationship. Well we talked everyday after we split and she came to work as usual every weekend. She holds down another 2 jobs, one full time in the week and another on a saturday morning. While we were dating she had booked a trip away for my birthday which was near christmas. First of all she said it was a bad idea we go, then she changed her mind and said lets go. I was still madly in love with her and wanted to go, she stayed at mine the night before the trip, we sat there watching a film and then got into a petty row over nothing. She packed her bags and left me with tickets and left. I never went on the trip and paid her the monies for the trip. Things went a bit cold then and we stopped talking during the week and would just keep polite conversation at work. I found this hard as i still had feelings for her, she also would ask me to hug her and if i didn't she thought i was ignoring her, i just found theses things hard to do. She would say to me that she was heartbroken and i was her prince evan after we split up this went on for about 4 weeks.

A couple of weeks ago she was talking to a mate of mine and she said she was going on a date with a guy, my friend said to her let me tell him(me) and she said i want to tell him

and said no it will sound better from him! Anyway she got a bit angry and said to him. I've cancelled the date so no one has to no now do they. Ive never mentioned this to her and never will. Last week she had left me a note on my laptop saying hi how are you etc, then gave me a love heart sweet and when she left a big hug and a kiss on my cheek.

 

These last couple of weeks I've come to terms with things and I'm getting on with my life evan she still works with me on weekends, i had a date lined up with a girl and told my friend. My friend does talk to her but i asked him not to saying anything to anyone as i like to keep things private, this week i had a message from her saying :wow you move fast' i never replied and ignored it. When she does text me asking how I'm doing i reply with ok thanks, then she will say ' your full of conversation don't know why i bother"

 

I guess I'm a little confused by this and wanted some advice, when we work together i keep it happy and professional at all times. She travels a long way to work and for the money she earns its not really worth the hassle.

 

Thank you

[preraph]

Sounds like you have a hard time getting along. Don't know if it's maturity or basic personality conflicts. Probably time you both moved on. Maybe in 5 years, you circle back around if you're single and see if maturity has made any difference.