SycamoreCircle Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 Is this possible in a large city? I'm nearing a year NC. I've tried dating but things just feel off. I'm sort of sick of the process of meeting women. I feel like I would learn more about myself emotionally and be more emotionally satisfied if I could help someone. I really love kids and am good with them, but probably will never have any children of my own. Could I volunteer to be a big brother to an orphan or some other kid who is disadvantaged? Has anyone ever done this? I imagine there's a serious screening process. Guess I'll have to lay off the peace pipe. Can anyone relate their experience to me? 3
Els Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 That would be great! Sorry, I (obviously) haven't done it, but if you're in a position where you can, it definitely sounds like a great idea. You can google the organization closest to you and talk to them about it, I'm sure they can find a way for you to help.
preraph Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 Haven't done it, but been tempted to. I think it's probably a bit easier with the Big Brothers than the Big Sisters because sports are a big part of it. Whereas teenage girls mainly want you to take them shopping......
Gloria25 Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 My last FWB did it...he was doing it before he met me. He never had any kids and did not express a desire to have any. I never asked him details on his experience, but he was proud of it. But that was part of his character - he liked to help others. So, while we shared the desire to "give back" to the community, I never sought out volunteer opportunities with kids. I have done them, but try to avoid them. I'm just not a "kid" person. There's people who just love kids...they can see a strange kid on the street and just pick them up and coo-coo them. I'm more like that with dogs...I can walk up to people's dogs and can't resist petting, playing, and asking about them. But glad to see that's something you're interested in...I think you'll feel good cuz it always feels good to "give" to others and we all need help. I'm grateful for the peeps that stepped up/in and helped me from childhood till this day
RedRobin Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 Volunteering is a regular part of my life, and I recommend it here frequently. In addition to feeling a part of something bigger than you... you also meet a lot of great people. Sadly for my love life, it is mostly women and retirees who tend to volunteer... so, as a guy, you will likely be around a lot of women. Yes, you can do it in big cities. In fact, the need is most profound in big cities... has been my experience. I've volunteered to teach at-risk kids to read (a few of them were way behind... partly due to lots of moving around to different schools)... I've volunteered for lots of community activities and have/am chairing a couple organizations locally. I don't have my own kids... on purpose. Had my tubes tied when I was young because I felt I'd rather adopt than have my own. I'm in the process of becoming a foster parent now. Regarding background screening... yes, you will have to have some background screening... from a little to a lot depending on how much unsupervised time you spend with children.
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