Tayla Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 *Long rant alert!!!*** Characters: EX BF, Co worker, and Moi! Main Theme- real or...? EXBF is now dating one of my co-workers- Lets call her Betty Itch for short Its been two years since our official break-up- I chose to end it due to my family and self respect. We stayed friends ( yes I'm one of the few that can be a friend..) He and Ms.Betty Itch were playing Doctor at work. I confronted him on it. He admitted and professed his undying love for her. (choke , BS!). I wished him well with that relation but to keep their pants on at work. She gloats about it and he is none the better. BettyItch and I have to work in the same department, In restrospect now I know why she tried to be buddy buddy with me. Best I can do is remain professional. So what is a long time coming? Probably the fact that two fools can fall in love and God Bless em for it, I just have zero respect for either of them as co workers....I sincerely cannot say that they carry the romantic or even real love story that couples can have....So in that sense...I do not admire their behavior or relations...yet oddly them dating keeps the rest of the ladies and men of the world safe from em * End rant.... So folks whats your take...Is my attitude poor or How should I be with them? So Far I've avoided them both.... 1
LovelyDaze Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 How should I be with them? So Far I've avoided them both.... That. Do best to stay professional and IF possible avoid them both. Don't get caught in any news or drama that your ex or new gf brings to you. Try to avoid that by getting on with work. I don't know the size of your company but if there are other women there, it can happen to her just the same. Don't encourage it, elude to it, or hint it. Just remain pure class, show no envy, sadness, or interest. Leave them both on the side of the road. It will be annoying and hurtful for awhile (that's why most of us say you truly can't be friends with an ex until you feel absolute indifference), but create an autonomy to their relationship EVEN if just for appearance's sake.
sober and dry Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 You whole post just proves that you CAN'T be friend with your ex...
Author Tayla Posted January 29, 2015 Author Posted January 29, 2015 You whole post just proves that you CAN'T be friend with your ex... thank you, care to elaborate? blanket statements usually have a foundation.
LoveIsMyReligion Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 It shouldn't bother you enough that you go online and make a post about it. You should be glad that you've moved on, sounds like they're both too immature to take serious.
sober and dry Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 I was expecting that you would go back and re-read your first post. I think you care about their RS more than you are admitting to yourself, aside from the professional side of it of course. ...his undying love for her. (choke , BS!)...In restrospect now I know why she tried to be buddy buddy with me. ...I sincerely cannot say that they carry the romantic or even real love story that couples can have....So in that sense...I do not admire their behavior or relations... ... This, for me, shows that you still have some felling for him aside the friendship, I would say at least some king of anger, but this is of course just my opinion on it. 1
me85 Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 I think your attitude is perfectly fine. You even have a sense of humor about it, which is fan-effing-tastic! They are unprofessional and juvenile. Keep avoiding them. 1
Author Tayla Posted January 30, 2015 Author Posted January 30, 2015 I was expecting that you would go back and re-read your first post. I think you care about their RS more than you are admitting to yourself, aside from the professional side of it of course. This, for me, shows that you still have some felling for him aside the friendship, I would say at least some king of anger, but this is of course just my opinion on it. thanks! interesting feed back. didn't realize just how a different pair of eyes could come up with such.
Author Tayla Posted January 30, 2015 Author Posted January 30, 2015 It shouldn't bother you enough that you go online and make a post about it. You should be glad that you've moved on, sounds like they're both too immature to take serious. Wow!! unsure how to take this post .. so a polite thanks for sharing !
Author Tayla Posted January 30, 2015 Author Posted January 30, 2015 I think your attitude is perfectly fine. You even have a sense of humor about it, which is fan-effing-tastic! They are unprofessional and juvenile. Keep avoiding them. finally someone that gets the humor and gist without stating how i "should" or "shouldn't" feel. thanks for posting a supportive comment.
Tiger Lily Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 Sorry about your frustration, OP! Betty Itch...that's funny. I don't have much more to advise; the above sums up my thoughts. I just wanted to thank you that your "long rant" was really not long at all! 2
me85 Posted January 30, 2015 Posted January 30, 2015 finally someone that gets the humor and gist without stating how i "should" or "shouldn't" feel. thanks for posting a supportive comment. I share the same sense of humor, so that's why I get it. Ya, no one can tell you how you should or shouldn't feel, least of all me. I hope you're in good spirits and still laughing about this crazy situation! I've always had to laugh about things that aren't so great. Keeping a sense of humor about life's misfortunes have always gotten me through. It's what helps keep me sane. 1
Author Tayla Posted January 31, 2015 Author Posted January 31, 2015 I share the same sense of humor, so that's why I get it. Ya, no one can tell you how you should or shouldn't feel, least of all me. I hope you're in good spirits and still laughing about this crazy situation! I've always had to laugh about things that aren't so great. Keeping a sense of humor about life's misfortunes have always gotten me through. It's what helps keep me sane. Thank you Tigerlily and Me85. Your ability to take things on a lighter note is kind. And heavens be blessed for having humor! Sometimes I just have to 'rant it out' so to speak to get the humor to shine thru. Today was a good spirit day, reckon because every time I passed my co worker I was mentally saying to myself ..Ohhh There is Betty Itch ...and I'd walk on with a smile....Beats being upset about something I certainly can't change 1
Light Breeze Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 He and Ms.Betty Itch were playing Doctor at work Ummm. Can you elaborate, please?
Author Tayla Posted January 31, 2015 Author Posted January 31, 2015 Ummm. Can you elaborate, please? sure can! and i can samba and do the limbo. 1
writergal Posted January 31, 2015 Posted January 31, 2015 Tayla, I agree with Tigerlily and me85. Just have a sense of humor about it and don't let their office antics bother you. They sound like silly people, and not the kind of "silly" associated with humor or fun. Hope you're feeling better today about it!
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