Bellaisa Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 So, a woman can't tell if a guy is eager to get in her drawers? Yes, she can. But there is a difference between wanting to get in her drawers, as you say, and feeling that desperation/neediness when the actual act is happening.
Diezel Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 If it were JUST a case of bad sex... 1-2 times is definitely not enough to go on unless this guy was flopping around like a fish out of water while whimpering like a puppy dog. 1
veggirl Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 I read the OP And responses twice and still can't figure out what sexually needy means.
SycamoreCircle Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 I read the OP And responses twice and still can't figure out what sexually needy means.I agree. I don't think this is about bad sex. I think this is about she not liking who the guy is. I stand by my original prognosis---she should have gotten to know the guy first.
MidwestUSA Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 A guy would have to be highly dysfunctional for me to dump him after having sex twice. First two times with my husband weren't perfect. Third time was a charm! I agree with some here, you just don't like him all that much. 1
EgoJoe Posted January 29, 2015 Posted January 29, 2015 Woulds, coulds and shoulds are a cancer upon the English language in my opinion. I think every guy deep down or superficially wants to be seen as a total stud. I personally know that even with good sexual chemistry relationships break down. I know eventually if it's not reciprocated or if "amazing sex always" becomes an entitlement I get turned off. I get turned off if we're going really hard and the condom feels too small and starts to constrict. I get turned off by weird but completely natural smells. I get turned off if she can't lose her (unnecessary) self-conscious inhibitions while we're doing the deed. So I can definitely say from a male point of view that it's a definite gray area. If his laugh "annoys" you then there is something in you that is triggered by his laugh. It is impossible for him to cause this annoyance on his own. If the sex is terrible though and you like him. I would abandon all concerns for male ego and tell him the truth. See what he does. I imagine he'll either want to make it up to you or scurry away. Don't give him a fake option though. When you lie whether by omission or deception you are effectively controlling someone by limiting their choices due to a perspective shuffle. The right choice is relative here so do what feels right and if you have regrets later, learn from them.
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